so we just got a dog today... huge rant!

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My little ones are really excited and won't leave him alone, but my oh's sister is round (neighbours so she's here a lot ) and she keeps telling my kids what to do, she's only 11 but acts about 20, but if any of my kids touch her cat she's goes mental. She won't let them sit next to their new bloody dog, or touch him, and keeps telling them to leave him alone, she even informed me I should FEED him later. Maybe I'm just being extra grumpy (I am 39 weeks pregnant) but she does my nut, I can bet she's the same when the baby arrives she'll think she has the right to pick a newborn bloody baby up. Argghhh sorry. I know I am being unreasonable just needed to rant!

Is the annoying 11 year old the easiest target?

A new dog, 39 weeks pregnant and a house move are all very stressful events, so having them together must be a nightmare. No wonder you are feeling this way.

Send her home and sit on the sofa, relax a bit. Breathe and stay calm!

Juggling wasps

What SurlyCue said

OP sounds like you have a lot going on. None of my business obviously but getting a dog at this point does seem like a lot of hard work for you.

Sorry everyone it's just a stressful situation, she's here a lot but if i ever ask the inlaws to have the kids (which is honestly never) they won't do it, but mil will no doubt be round everyday when the baby comes and is already passing judgement about 'not taking her out til she's atleast a few weeks old' etc. I knew I was being unreasonable, I even said it, but there was no need for ppl to judge my choice of having a dog a new born & moving etc

She's a child. You should act like a responsible adult.

Although I'm not sure why a mature person would think a new dog and a new baby at the same time is sensible.

I want to know more about throwing knickers at a lamppost. Is there a club I can join?

She's 11. For goodness sake act your age not hers.

It's possibly not that fair on the dog. It's going to have a lot to contend with in the next week or so.

Put in some boundaries then, for your partner's whole family. Beginning with you deciding how things will go in your own home.
Has he got a clue how trampled you are feeling, or is he a jellyfish about it all?

I want to know more about throwing knickers at a lamppost. Is there a club I can join?

I want the same but about juggling wasps adrenalin junky

Sorry as you were.

The whole moving thing is actually because we were made homeless by a private landlord 9 months ago (exactly when I fell pregnant and not our fault) we were homeless so it was emergency accommodation or a mobile home. We chose the mobile home, in my old village where I grew up, so I could make sure my kids were in a good school, last Friday we were offered a property and it was amazing, still stressful, but amazing.

OP it sounds as if your problems are a bit bigger than Little Miss Bossy. My sympathies.

OP I sympathise and I also call bullshit that it's anyones business if you are moving while pregnant ad with a new dog!

I moved and gave birth in the space two days, last month. Being pregnant didn't make me incapable of moving house, I even managed to have enough of my faculties about me to unpack my new home and then feel ready to have a home birth.

Hormones can play a part but remember you are capable and in charge so if your SIL is being a pain, say you need a nap and send her home! I would've away from shitty in laws too in your situation!

there was no need for ppl to judge my choice of having a dog a new born & moving etc

But having the dog/new baby combo is a huge part of why you are stressed so of course people are going to mention it.

You have created a pretty nightmarish situation for yourself and quite honestly i think you are directing your stress at the easiest target who isnt actually the cause of the majority of your stress. (Btw is it just today you are feeling like this because i got unbelievably screechy the day before i went into labour)

Take a deep breath, count to ten.

1. TELL 11 year old she is going now because you have a lot to do and need to get on with it

2. tell DCs doggy is tired and needs to sleep- put him in a room on his own with water and let him snooze

3. put a movie on and snuggle on sofa with dcs (maybe they'll snooze too?)

4. keep breathing and counting to ten when you feel the stress.

YABU just for getting a dog. Turd making machines.

So you are living in a mobile home with your kids, also pregnant & you get a dog?

Delighted you have now got somewhere decent to live but why on earth did you get a dog at this time?

I really regret this thread, I'm not sure whether to laugh cry or scream at some of these responses. On a +, the sister in law has now gone

Why are you letting an 11 year old to tell your kids to leave the dog alone when that's your job?

The 11 year old is right, the dog must be overwhelmed with it all.

Send 11 year old back to her home and put the dog somewhere that it can get a bit of peace while it settles in.

There's no logic at all behind it. Other than the fact that they are a little over excited my kids are actually being better than usual (they're arguing a lot less)

Is it a puppy or an older rescue dog?
Either way, it could do with a breather from over-stimulation so the 11 year old is technically right. Do you have a crate it could go in, for a bit of peace?