so we just got a dog today... huge rant!

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My little ones are really excited and won't leave him alone, but my oh's sister is round (neighbours so she's here a lot ) and she keeps telling my kids what to do, she's only 11 but acts about 20, but if any of my kids touch her cat she's goes mental. She won't let them sit next to their new bloody dog, or touch him, and keeps telling them to leave him alone, she even informed me I should FEED him later. Maybe I'm just being extra grumpy (I am 39 weeks pregnant) but she does my nut, I can bet she's the same when the baby arrives she'll think she has the right to pick a newborn bloody baby up. Argghhh sorry. I know I am being unreasonable just needed to rant!

She's 11 and in charge? Why?

Yes we live next door to the inlaws, and she's here a lot. We're moving Monday aswell (shall we judge me for moving at 39wk's pregnant aswell?!)

It is, but some asked Wtf I was thinking. It just annoyed me lol. Hormones

pregnant, got small kids and a dog? are you nuts?

No we won't judge you, but we'll hide the thread because whilst you're not able to silence an 11 yo you're not doing a bad job at all here.

11 and acts like 20?! My sil is 35 but acts 11!!

In your shoes I'd be telling her to stop being a little bossy-britches and sending her home. Is there a reason you have not already done so?

I think people were actually just amazed that you'd have the energy for a newborn and a dog, not judging you.

I think you need to go for a lie down.

Well, make sure she is all involved in packing your house up, making sure all the breakables are well wrapped... kids toys are get attable... cups, kettle etc ditto... she won't be able to take charge once you have moved, make sure her last weekend as The Boss of You is as fun filled as possible.

Give her a big hug and a kiss as you drive away...

... then breath out, relax, and stop being so bothered by the little stuff.

You have enough of the big stuff happening

Good luck xx

You've come on AIBU and you weren't expecting the responses.

Hormones or not, you're bloody rude.

Wonders whether to mention that she may well be right. Bet thing for a new dog is to be left alone... Kids not leaving it alone isn't great for dog or kids.

Huh that aside maybe, if she likes animals she will yeh be useful!

I'd be telling kids not to fuss over a new dog as well tbh. New dog, new environment, excited kids overwhelming it, stressed owner= recipe for a bite before the day is over.

11 year old sounds like the most sensible one there tbh.

Are You Being Unreasonable?

Well...I hate to say this but you aren't coming across as exactly reasonable are you? Would walking away from the internet for a little while be helpful? Only it doesn't seem to be helping.

How old are you??

A new dog, a new baby and a house move in one week, but the well-meaning but bossy kid from next door is the thing that troubles you most

Why are you ranting at us instead of laying down basic ground rules for her. I take it that she isn't suddenly possessed and she's always been like this?
That the adults have been rolling over for her? Any real reason why she finds good manners a bit tricky?

Agree with previous posts -just tell her to pack it in or send her off home. She's 11. If it's the first day for the dog you may want to let it have a bit of space away from all the children for a hour or two. They need time to settle, it's a big upheaval. No poking, prodding or pestering. Good excuse for packing the 11 year old off home too!
Good luck with the move and the baby and the dog!

You should have a goat as well.

Just send her back home, you don't have to keep letting her in.

Good luck op. Sorry but think wtf even more now you are moving too!
You won't have to deal with little miss bossy soon anyway. Good luck.

Your SIL does sound annoying but many 11yr olds are.

True derrick you missed the moving house on monday

Your pregnant, have a new puppy and are moving?

Dude, you're completely nuts