AIBU to confront my boss about this

[disgustedemployee]

Hi all, I have name changed.

Long story short, I have been a PA in a firm of three people (me and my two bosses) for nearly a year. One of my bosses (we will call him A) was having a conversation with me yesterday and I started talking about how we are renovating our house at the moment and how I am worried whether we will finish within budget as things always cost more than you think.

Anyway, he then said to me "I know I shouldn't say this but I want to help you out so I want you to wear hold ups at work and I will give you £100 a week tax free if you do. You don't have to wear them to and from work, you can change into them here. I also won't pressure you to say yes to this but it would cheer me up and give me something to look forward to. Oh, and I would also want to see the tops of them. I could just give you the money but that wouldn't be right."

I was so shocked and taken aback that I just kind of said "no way in a million years" and left the room.

I stewed on it all night (and got more and more angry) and told my husband this morning. He didn't want me to come in today but I feel that I have to confront him about it.

What would you do in this situation?

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Today he seems to be trying to act totally normal but I am ignoring him and only asking him questions about work (when I absolutely have to).

He really doesn't see what he did wrong. I asked the other boss if he'd spoken to him yet and he said no but he will tonight.

I am friendly with his last PA so I am tempted to ask her if he ever said anything to her.

In that case I apologise unreservedly.

However, in this case there does seem to be only one option, and that is to find another job. It sounds like it's a very small firm where you will be unable to avoid this senior partner, you're unlikely to be successful at a tribunal, and to continue working with the partner who made the comments, and another partner who won't rock the boat, is untenable.

It's sad, but often there is no justice for victims.

I messaged his previous PA earlier to ask if he'd ever said anything inappropriate to her and she replied saying "there were issues". I'm meeting up with her tonight so hopefully she will be able to offer me advice. It looks like I clearly am not the only one he has done this to.