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To be late for parents evening

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42bunnytails · 12/01/2015 23:11

DD2 (Y9) has made an appointment with her German teacher.

She hates him, she's absolutely useless at German, gets put in detention and has made no progress in three years.

She's a straight A student at everything else

She's done it purely to see if I can keep a straight face, when she knows I think he's an idiot too.

It's not fair, she knows I had a fit of the giggles watching one of her class just wander off mid bollocking, leaving her parents to hear the end of it.

To make it worse you can see the French teacher trying not to giggle too

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LabelsMustFaceOut · 13/01/2015 21:37

Fuck me. And this is why I hate teaching.

Grow up.

ilovesooty · 13/01/2015 21:39

either you are a member of staff breaking all sorts of rules, a teacher has broken rules sharing these details with you or you are stretching the facts a little. Knowing your own child's logs I believe but not all the logs of a specific teacher

Good point. She also hasn't explained how she knows about the likelihood of this teacher undergoing capability.

bigbluestars · 13/01/2015 21:42

labels- then don't teach. You are in the wrong job. There are plenty of keen students and supportive parents. I would hate my kids to be taught by someone who hates teaching.

Quitethewoodsman · 13/01/2015 22:07

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Only1scoop · 13/01/2015 22:10

And pathetic....

Your dd is rubbish at German....

Probably be the case if she had an amazing teacher....

Accept and move on.

And grow up....may help perhaps

42bunnytails1 · 13/01/2015 22:28

No I'm not a teacher, and no I don't know have access to his detention records, but children gossip, they know if they and their DFs get far more detentions from one subject than another. The computer system was mentioned at a parents meeting.

And clearly if he got near capability he would have gone years ago. Poor GCSE and A level results are a matter of public record. Sometimes on web site and in detail in option booklets and the prospectus. I have a sixth former I've read these things for too long, German entries and results are always awful when compared to other academic subjects.

SuburbanRhonda · 13/01/2015 22:36

Really, OP? Students at your DC's school have nothing better to do than compare detention rates between subject teachers then share their findings with their parents?

FFS.

Imnotbeingyourbestfriendanymor · 13/01/2015 22:42

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ilovesooty · 13/01/2015 22:43

And clearly if he got near capability he would have gone years ago

But you have no knowledge whatsoever of his appraisal and performance management.

42bunnytails1 · 13/01/2015 22:43

Growing up is boring, but sadly MN no longer understands that.

Once you could come here and have a good rant and maybe turn it into a sensible debate or maybe turn it into a tirade of nonsence and no one worried.

Now people get all pofaced and serious and tell me they never collapse in a giggly heap with their teens sympathising about the eccentricities of their teachers and the unfairness of a detention for a skirt 1/2 an inch too short.

This I don't believe!

Seriously believing in and your DCs education is one thing. Supporting teachers/subjects that are a lost course is quite another.

DD1 could have given a better reasoned argument than me for why her TA should go aged 10.

DD2 could have got her Y2 teacher a pay rise at 7

Children are not stupid.

Quitethewoodsman · 13/01/2015 22:51

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BitOutOfPractice · 13/01/2015 22:52

OP sometimes, just sometimes, it might be worth thinking "maybe these 130 people are right and I'm wrong" when faced with such an overwhelming response.

Even your attempts to make up post stuff in justification has had more holes than a sieve.

Take it on the chin.

ilovesooty · 13/01/2015 22:52

Growing up is boring

When you've managed it do let us know.

Once you could come here and have a good rant and maybe turn it into a sensible debate or maybe turn it into a tirade of nonsence and no one worried

Are you still still trying to justify your OP and your attitude on this thread?

42bunnytails1 · 13/01/2015 22:53

Some of us talk to our teens!
(I spend too much time taxi driving not to)

Also both DDs and DD2 and her DF chatter in the car, because they are in different years a lot of it is about teachers and school subjects rather than friends because that's the thing they all have in common.

ilovesooty · 13/01/2015 22:54

Quietthewoodsman - spot on. The OP doesn't seem capable of understanding that though.

Marshy · 13/01/2015 23:07

Bloody hell is this still going on?! Sooty et al I admire you for your perseverance with a lost cause

Op you're boring me now. No one has a problem if you have issues with the teacher. I have frank discussions with my teens about the strengths and weaknesses of the teachers that they come to contact with. But I would never display or encourage the kind of behaviour you have talked about and they know that issues have to be dealt with in an appropriate way in what is their equivalent of a professional environment. As someone upthread said, this is a life lesson which will prepare them for work and for just being decent people.

For goodness sake have a little bit of humility and at least acknowledge that giggling at the teacher at parents evening is totally out of order and not in the least bit funny.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 13/01/2015 23:08

DD1 could have given a better reasoned argument than me for why her TA should go aged 10. DD2 could have got her Y2 teacher a pay rise at 7

Oh dear, oh dear ... this seems to offer perspective on OP's claims that DD is a brilliant student in everything else, that she's usually well mannered and even that she's dyslexic

Do perhaps get back to us when you have something to go on other than childish chatter and school gate gossip??

greeneggsandjam · 13/01/2015 23:30

Oh dear Op. How about just don't bother going to the parents evening with him if he is such a useless teacher. Or go and ask him why it is that your daughter is brilliant at everything except his subject.

I am also wondering how it is that your Year 2 child could have sorted out a pay rise for her teacher.

42bunnytails1 · 13/01/2015 23:34

Oh fuck it, I can't be bothered any more. 1/2 you lot can't read any better than I can spell

TwinkieTwinkle · 13/01/2015 23:39

I left High School 8 years ago. I still remember the silly lies friends told their parents about how horrible teachers were, how some of them gave out sooooo many more detentions than the others. I also remember this was all utter bull, to cover their own backsides. I really suggest you stop trying to argue with people here. You were wrong in your attitude to the teacher, the way you allow your daughter to behave about her teacher and on your first post here. You are digging a bigger and bigger hole for yourself.

ilovesooty · 13/01/2015 23:43

The OP reminds me of William McGonagall's performance in "Macbeth"

ridiculousmindblog.com/william-mcgonagall-worst-poet-actor-time/

Marshy · 13/01/2015 23:44

Oh dear oh dear....

I'm out.

Marshy · 13/01/2015 23:45

Meant for the op sooty not you Grin

echt · 14/01/2015 00:11

Oh dear, you just don't get it do you OP?

Once you could come here and have a good rant and maybe turn it into a sensible debate or maybe turn it into a tirade of nonsence and no one worried. Usually rants on AIBU are posted as rants. You were proposing a time wasting exercise, no humour there.

Now people get all pofaced and serious and tell me they never collapse in a giggly heap with their teens sympathising about the eccentricities of their teachers Has anyone said that? Rather the focus has been on your intention to misuse the parents' evening in collusion with your daughter to run a public test on the teacher. Deeply unpleasant.

DD1 could have given a better reasoned argument than me for why her TA should go aged 10. So if you had concerns, did you raise them?

What's coming over loud and clear is your frankly unpleasant and baiting attitude towards some of your DDs' teachers/TAs, while doing absolutely nothing to have helped improve the situation.

42bunnytails1 · 14/01/2015 00:15

I don't mind you calling me a liar, but I do object to you calling DD2 one.

  1. because she isn't one and
  2. because she has no reason to tell me she has detention and therefore has no reason to lie to get out of trouble.

The school system is a grade A pain to log into and I don't bother from one month to the next. When we did check a couple of detentions she had admitted to weren't there anyway.

In any case this year she's back polishing her primary school halo and hasn't got a single one.

This ought to worry me. The better behaved DD2 is at school, the more of a pain she is at home. At the moment she is being lovely Hmm