To be peed off with a 3am phone call?!

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I probably am but hey ho. DB's wife had a baby at 2am and he rang me at 3am to tell me - texted, then tried my phone, then DH's when I didn't answer (mine was purposely on silent!). I can't get back to sleep and as I have a five month old myself, sleep is now very precious!! We purposely waited til morning to phone people when our baby was born. There's no way I can go back to sleep now and I've only had two hours

I know I'm being a grumpy cow but could he not have waited just a few hours?! I have no idea how I'm going to get through tomorrow with a lively baby. WIBU to thump him when I see him after I've cooed over the baby?!

I think your being a bit of a misery and you shouldn't let your own issues over cloud the situation.

I was with my sister during early labour and handed her over to her DP when he got back from work at midnight and he took her to hospital shortly after when her waters broke. I then turned my phone off and tried to get some sleep, as I had a long drive home ahead of me the next day and had been up all night with poorly DS the night before (i.e. about 3 hrs sleep in the last 36 hours). When I woke up at 7ish and checked my phone, I was delighted to see her text and message letting me know my neph had arrived at 6am. It did take me a while to get to sleep because I was buzzing and excited about the baby, but getting home safely to my own family was more important than knowing exactly when the baby arrived. I know I may not be typical, because I really don't get this whole thing of needing to know right away.

Under the circumstances I think he could be forgiven for this. He is obviously excited and thought you'd want to hear the news. YABU.

I think you need to let this go, please don't even mention it in a jokey way because it would be raining on his parade. You will sleep tonight.

Op, yes it is annoying but please don't mention it to him, let him enjoy the excitement of his new baby. You have a small baby - I expect he assumed you would be up during the night at times anyway, and used to being woken and having to resettle to sleep.

Most parents with small babies have disturbed sleep and are tired, it is very common!

I think your reaction is linked to your pnd, which I hope you are recovering from, it is an awful illness :-(

YANBU. When DS5 was born at 1:53am we didn't call anyone until the morning. DH stayed with me until I was in recovery (crash C-section) and then went home to sleep. I tried to sleep but couldn't as I was having hourly observations and had various monitors that set off an alarm if I moved. Didn't occur to me until lunchtime that I should maybe phone my mum.

I hope you are feeling the love a little more op.
I can see from your point of view that your brothers behaviour might have made you want to cry - nothing worse than pnd and ptsd being compounded by lack of sleep. Hoping you are getting support for these problems.
Ywbu if you thumped your brother! Sounds more like a group hug is required.

YANBU but agree that you shouldn't mention it to your brother.

I have a feeling that, within the next few months, he's going to have a realisation about the sanctity of sleep....

YNBU. Nooone wants to be awaken at 3am. To answer a phone. That's not b.u that's just life. Not only that it frightens people when phones ring at that hour.
However neither is your DB B.U. He's bound to be excited.

YANBU but don't be cross with him. He was just excited and didn't think it through. Let it go

I hope I'm not related to most of you lot. I would be hugely pissed off it anyone rang to tell me they'd had a baby at 3am. 3am phonecalls are for urgent disasters, not for sharing glad tidings. And I don't even have a baby

OP YANBU at all

I know DH called my mother at about 3am when DS was born. She didn't mind, but I suppose he was her first grandchild. He said he felt like running up every church tower in the vicinity and ringing the bells. That probably would have been unreasonable.

As unromantic as it is we asked people last time. We have a big immediate family and some already have kids / were heavily pregnant themselves.

We told people to be honest and they were, some said if it was late night birth (Midnight - 6am) they'd prefer a text and that's what we did.

No big deal and we'll do the same this time.

My Sister and SIL's have offered the same courtesy to us as well.

Dd was born at 4.21am.

Didn't tell anyone til gone 8am. We were far too busy holding her and loving her and being a little family and also it was a pretty unsociable hour.

YANBU.
But YWBU to thump him. I don't think I'd say anything tbh. It's done now no point raining on their parade.