To think "put some fucking clothes on!"

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or at least wrap a towel round yourself FFS.

I go to the gym five days a week, usually in the morning. Every single day without fail there will be people having a shower after their workout. I don't have a problem with this as the showers are in cubicles rather than out in the open.

My problem is is that after they've finished showering you can be sure they will then strut naked out of the shower over to the lockers without bothering to wrap a towel around themselves. They will then stand naked for a bit sorting their clothes and shit out before getting dressed. It's always the same people too.

AIBU to think they should at least wrap a towel round themselves? And get dressed as quickly as possible?

Nobody wants to see them naked!

I did mention it to reception but they just gave me a look like this .

But it's not about you trying to preserve anyone's dignity. It's about choices that other people are quite happy to make off their own bat.

I'm amazed how uptight some people are about other people walking around naked, in a changing room.

I totally get that we don't need or want to see people changing tampons or applying pile cream (bleurgh!), but being naked, because you've just showered or been swimming is all part of going to the gym/pool.

I don't care what people do after they have been to a public swimming pool - wash or don't wash, your body. I'm talking about washing yourself before you go and share swimming pools and jacuzzis with loads of other people. Most people do not shower at home immediately after going to the pool, I would guess. And I would prefer to share the pool with people who have been able to soap all areas properly in the shower, and not just got their swimsuit wet.

BIWI it's not the nakedness - it's the complete over the topness of some people.

If I am sat on a bench putting my converse on I don't want somebody's fanny literally in my face.

And yes some of these people do act completely undignified in the poses they choose to squat in legs akimbo to get dry!

Phaedra, I have never claimed that you did use language like 'strutting' or parading'.

very few people look good naked and most are not particularly pleasing to the eye. I don't think that's for you, or anyone, to judge. Pleasing within what parameters?

But you know, ultimately, if you don't like looking at people who don't fit your ideas of who looks good naked, you don't have to look at them.

I don't think that's for you, or anyone, to judge. Pleasing within what parameters?

It's a subjective assessment which I think most people would make several times in their lifetime. It's not really for you either to tell me how to think. It's not as if I'm doing anything other than thinking it.

As you say, I don't , for a number of reasons, to gyms or public pools.

I find it an odd and baseless reason to give for the opinion that people shouldn't be naked in a situation (a changing room) where temporary nakedness is a practical and sensible state.

I often use a sports towel which is only about a foot square anyway. If people have a problem with naked people they should avoid communal changing areas. I'm generally naked for as short a time as possible but am not going to pack a bulky towel just to protect some delicate flower's sensibilities.

Our swimming pool is mixed and cubicle only with communal showers so people shower with costumes on. There are a couple of cubicles in the toilets but they get a bit smelly so if swimming I shower with costume on. It isn't unhygenic, I can always use the bidet when I get home if necessary. The communal areas are at the gym so not usually opposite sex small sprogs hanging about.

I don't think the op is being prudish. Naked ladies getting on with drying themselves and getting clothes on is fine, but some love to flounce their nakedness around. They obviously have far too much time on their hands!

Flouncing their nakedness? What, like waving their breasts in your face and saying "get a load of these puppies!"?

Well that would be entertaining, but no just generally taking an age to get ready.

Oh, I'm sick of this. 'taking an age to get ready'. How long SHOULD people take, in your and the OP's opinions, heat? Do you go in with a stopwatch?

Actually, the OP probably does because she has a problem with people standing naked not for an age, but 'for a bit'.

At the gym I generally come out of the shower with a towel on, but I don't mind or care if it slips while I'm getting my clothes out of my bag. And once I've got knickers on, I often stay that way while I start putting away my washbag etc in my bag, because I feel warm and damp after a shower and like to cool off a bit before I put my clothes on.

Is that an 'age'?

Anyone with time to observe others for long enough to judge that they're 'flouncing around' naked or taking too long to get dressed is the one with too much time on their hands, IMO.

No of course I don't need a stop watch.....If someone was in the changing room naked before I came in and then they are still naked, despite the fact I am showered and nearly dressed then they are stringing it out a bit.

There is more to learning about different bodies than rough body shape which can be seen with clothes on, e.g. cellulite, body hair, sagginess, moles, etc.

I find it an odd and baseless reason to give for the opinion that people shouldn't be naked in a situation (a changing room) where temporary nakedness is a practical and sensible state

You are twisting what I said. I did not at any point say they shouldn't.

Phaedra, I'll rephrase then. I find your comments about 'very few people looking good naked' and that most naked people are 'not particularly pleasing to the eye' judgemental and, more seriously, quite worrying considering that we as a society are surrounded by images that suggest a narrow standard of physical pleasingness.

I think one good way of challenging this social pressure is by people seeing other people, of all shapes, sizes, colours and ages, naked a bit more, in surroundings like changing rooms where it's practical and socially acceptable. And I agree with the PP who said that it's not just about rough body shape.

heat, then you're expecting everyone to take the same time as you, or less, to shower and dress, otherwise you conclude that they're deliberately taking a long time. How bizarre. I've explained why I, for one, take the time I take (which incidentally I don't feel is very long and which I would certainly no call 'stringing it out a bit'). Perhaps others also just take a different amount of time than you do to get ready?

It's really weird to assume that everyone must behave the same way as you, and to judge them if they don't.

But anyway, I've spent too long on this thread when all I fundamentally want to say in response to the OP is:

• YANBU for not wanting to see naked people but perhaps you should just not look.

• YABU for saying you 'don't have a problem' with people showering after their workouts.

• YABU for saying people 'strut naked out of the shower', to express concern if they 'stand naked for a bit', to think that they 'should at least wrap a towel round themselves and get dressed as quickly as possible'.

• YABU for saying as though on behalf of everyone 'Nobody wants to see them naked!'

• YABU for complaining to the reception staff.

I should have just said that and then buggered off in the first place.

Some people just dither, they dither in the supermarket and dither in changing rooms. It doesn't bother me. They can spend all day there and save on their heating bill for all I care. I'm generally not paying other people much attention when I'm getting changed (plus have my glasses off so can hardly see them anyway).

Yes it's judgemental. So what? I find the thought police attitude that I'm not allowed to have an opinion quite worrying too.

I went to have a look around at a gym today and the showers were clear glass so when showering you will be on full display to anyone walking past. Whilst I don't personally have a problem with nakedness in changing rooms I find the idea of a clear glass shower door a bit odd.....

I agree that that seems to take away the whole point of having a door on the shower. It sounds expensive as well, maybe not as glass is fairly water resistant.
If you're going to have a glass doors you should just have open showers.

I agree that that seems to take away the whole point of having a door on the shower. It sounds expensive as well, maybe not as glass is fairly water resistant.
If you're going to have a glass doors you should just have open showers.

This thread keeps coming up on my "threads I'm on".

OP, I'm with you. Why do people need to bend over with naked arses hanging about? It's sick. I don't want to see that either.

I think it's fine to let the towel slip whilst you're getting dressed. But sort of weird and exhibitionist to walk up and down the changing room, drying your hair, going to the loo, chat to strangers, completely starkus.

Always makes me think someone's a weirdo tbh. Maybe I'm too British.

A friend's teenage ds was telling me about school showers after PE. They apparently leave their pants on, put a towel over the top and dip their head under the shower to get wet hair, so the gym teacher passes them as showered.

I find the idea of a clear glass shower door a bit odd....

Well, it keeps the water in!

I would assume glass doors were perhaps to prevent inappropriate behaviour as opposed to being for privacy?