WIBU to consider writing to every man in the world

[TheRealAmandaClarke]

To inform them all (probably leave Dh out of the round robin) that I do not want to have sex with them unless and until further formal notice from me?

As it seems that there is such confusion among so many people about the nature of consent I want to avoid putting any of them in the terribly awkward position of wondering whether simply being in the same room as them means they are invited to stick their dick in me.
So is that an unreasonable proposition?

Is anyone offended by the "don't be that guy" campaign I posted earlier?

Not me.

I will ask dh

I'd like to send a letter out to all women in the world asking them not to shit in the supermarket.

#NAWSIS

It must be nice to be a guy and for your biggest fear be that you might randomly come across shit in a supermarket.

Maybe if you had 1 in 5 chance of being raped you'd not find it as funny to compare rape to shitting in supermarkets.

Just wondering a bit how far any of this thread has provided any illumination? So OP provides a surreal device - some exchanges re the nature of humour, some blokes (like me) go along with it, others get a bit more serious, and it evolves into shitting in aisle 12. Are we sure we haven't anything better to do with our time?

Ok.
Some posters are offended because I think I am "all that"
Some are offended that I think they/ their DP's might want to have sex with me.

Some claim (but imo do not actually believe) that I am joking about rape.

Some understand that my OP was a comment on the misogynistic status quo which claims that women need to give explicit non consent to sex in order to not be accused of consenting to sex when, in fact, they were not consenting to sex.

I've been away from the thread, notauniquename, and am replying to your very peculiar response before catching up.

If you're in bed during the day is it because you are in the mood and want your partner to join you? or is it because you want a nap?

As with the other scenarios you sketched, he can always ASK! I am not a mysterious hieroglyphic, which must be subtly read in order to open the gateway of sex. I'm a human being who sometimes wants sex and sometimes doesn't.

And, no, my guideline was not incomplete. If you've ever put your penis into the body of a person who wasn't actively inviting it in the moment, you had no reasonable cause to believe they consented and that is rape.

OP (still no idea which MNer you are!) - it just sounds like a pithy, good point a woman could make in a bar room to a bunch of empathic, like-mined people, who would I'd expect to nod meaningfully and do other non-verbal gestures in recognition and support. But to type it out on a forum is going to invite a detailed and (expected) querying analysis, hence hundreds of posts going in no particular direction that produces lots of heat but no light.

All in my very very humble opinion of course..

Let me approach what I'm trying to get across from a different point.

Do you understand why it is that neither Amanda, (nor any other person here) can rescind their consent for me to have sex with them?
and why they don't need to?

(as a quick clue, the answer is not that I'm a rabid rapist that doesn't care about whether consent is granted)

GallicIsCharlie your original description of guiding it in was somewhat more graphic.

When you put it like that I entirely understand.
I can see there was no justification in offering a satirical comment on the common assumption of consent.
You have helped me understand that it really is not an issue.
I dont know what I was thinking.

honestly, are you just trying to be obtuse?

Unique, I'm guessing because she never gave consent in the first place, so it doesn't need to be rescinded?

I think (as always I may be wrong) that the point of the entire thread was that (having read many internet posts on the subject) Amanda felt that many people are confused about the very idea that consent has to be given in the first place. Obviously you are not one of those people, and so should disregard her letter as unnecessary.

Erm, notunique, I don't think I described it. Get a hold of yourself.

No unique but i am a little tired of trying to address your pseudo intelligent questions. You have already acknowledged you're being obtuse. That is quite difficult to work with tbh.

Glad to be of help OP. As an add-on, you really need to brush up on your effective use of satire. It's a tricky cove that requires skill.
Best.

get a hold of yourself
You sure that doesn't sound like a come-on?

Welcome?
I wasn't addressing you. pan

Best to be clear about these things eh.

And i am completely ok btw with my use of satire.
But thank you for trying to be offensive.

There are some arrogant men fuckers on this thread

Okay OP.
good luck with this.

You sure that doesn't sound like a come-on?
It probably does, Amanda

But I'm wearing my 'No' t-shirt.

Yes thecowthatlaughs
I wonder if that annoyance is because of the faux outrage at being accused of being potential rapists even though that was obviously not what they are accused of
Or the very real outrage of having a woman state they do not want to have sex with them (unless otherwise stated)
I don't think we will ever know the truth.

erm..I wasn't being offensive....the evidence of your over-investment in your own abilities re satire is obvious.

I'll be away.

Is it snug- fitting?
Might be considered ironic.

I knew the letter was the only way.

Fuck knows Amanda but something's rattled em

Are wesurewe haven't anything better to do with our time?

Pan, this is the internet. You can't think its popularity depends on people using it because they don't know they have better things to do?