To agree with Katie Hopkins?

[UnacceptableWidge]

I know, I know!!
Turned on Radio2, initially had no idea who it was and found myself nodding along to every word.

As a 'fatty' myself I had to agree with all she said. I did this to myself. I like food, especially junk food waaay too much. I hate exercise a lot. Nobody to blame but me.

The horror of agreeing with her may, possibly, finally force me to get off my arse and do something about it though I will never in RL admit that she has made me wake up and realise this is all on me

All I would add, as clearly she cannot be completely right and understanding life in anyone else's shoes, that her circumstance is different to mine.

My weight crept on gradually over the years.
My mindset has never been to actively put weight on with the intention of losing it again, I simply developed bad habits over a long time.

So you've made a conscious decision to do that Eddie

Enjoy it if that's what you have planned.

Ref. coffee, the caffeine habit is not a slimming one; dh thinks it replaces a meal and he's 5 stone O.W.

I lost nearly a stone by giving up one daily freshly ground coffee (no sugar) or dairy milk). Oh and only eating fruit on an empty stomach.

I've never actually been in a Starbucks or Costa but most of the coffees look like a bowl of cream with a handle.

Oh yes the lattes are crazy, and the hot chocolates are too strong/ creamy (I only have soya milk too). The odd thing is that if I have one every other week or so it speeds up my metabolic rate.

I've been in starbucks a few times with my son, I just had bottled water. They do fruity drinks as well that he likes.

I'd like to see her try and lose the weight with small toddlers on tow, the usual cooking,cleaning,school runs etc... rather than being alone with personal trainer on hand,psychiatrist when things get tough etc...My DD has now become terrified of being overweight since her DF passed to the extent that she has lost more weight than she needed to she already worries about her body image (she is a wheelchair user) we are awaiting a referral to a M.I.N.D counsellor BUT because were in a cash strapped borough this can take a year...i know this is directly a result from her DF passing because of his weight and she says she doesn't want to suffer the same fate...so she doesn't eat enough now...programmes like this can do more damage than good in a society that see's anyone sized 16 or above as 'outsized' especially in the retail trade.

Paul Mackenna could help your DD saismum If you get the book and DVDs.

To be fair, the average height of a UK woman is 5ft 4" and the average dress size is size 16, so that actually 'outsized' - hence the rise in obesity.

*is outsized

salsmum people can lose weight under all those circumstances you mentioned. Or they can continue to find reasons not to lose weight. Life is more difficult for some of us, we just have to make the best of our own situation.
This isn't directed towards your daughter. I understand this is a very difficult time for your family and I'm sorry for your loss.It's heartbreaking to hear of a child losing a parent.

Fascicle, yes I have put on weight before. I've never been naturally skinny and, In fact, I became about two stone overweight when I was first with my partner (love's young dream; I think it was the three course meals we kept cooking for each other).

I decided to do something about it and changed my diet, drank less and started running; a mile at first, then two, then eight. Subsequently, I lost that weight and did the London Marathon in April. I'm now training for a triathlon in May. I am absolutely not a natural athlete; I've got asthma, I love good food and booze and would rather be tucked-up in the warm than out in the wet and cold. I made a conscious decision to take control of my life and my health though.

I'm 5'4 and sized 16. It annoys me how it's average but people seem to forget it doesn't mean it's right or optimum. (Just in general)

I daresay this is going to get me flamed for my lack of willpower. But, anyway. My weakest point as regards food is crisps. They've been my top comfort thing when I don't feel good (emotionally) for as long as I can remember. If I let myself I could quite happily eat nothing but crisps.

I know they're not good for my health. I know they're a large part of why I'm fatter than i should be. I know I need to somehow break the crisps = feeling better connection, although how exactly escapes me.

But I find them a very hard habit to break, and previous attempts to go cold turkey have involved a continuous conscious effort to not buy or eat them which hasn't seemed to get any easier with time. And they're all over the place, which doesn't help when I'm feeling bad.

Maybe i should check out ppeatfruit's Paul McKenna suggestion. Is he the hypnotist man?

I quite like her so YANBU.

Just have 1 bag per week Shadow and don't buy multi packs.

That way you're not denying yourself what you enjoy.

Yes he is and yes he could definitely help you ShadowSuper for a start you could try eating your crisps REALLY SLOWLY ! chew them 15 to 20 times then see how great they taste!! A lot of people wean themselves off junk food doing that because usually the junk just doesn't taste NICE!!!! It's worth a try! There's good support thread on here too.

Babycham
Fascicle, yes I have put on weight before. I've never been naturally skinny and, In fact, I became about two stone overweight when I was first with my partner (love's young dream; I think it was the three course meals we kept cooking for each other).

Then I would expect more empathy for the environmental factors/pulls that trip up people with weight issues. It can be hard for some people to change entrenched habits and avoid temptation (especially if they're surrounded by other people who are indulging in whatever they're trying to avoid).

Your current habits sound a bit like mine.

ShadowSuperNova
I'm with you on the crisps (crisp free January for me). There are some flavours that seem to have a magnetic pull.

I've not got a certain food i gorge on. I just like food. But when I want crisps I have a packet of snack a jacks instead or make my own from sweet potato. Same crunch less fat and all that. Ive found that finding alternatives really helped. Ive also got pre-boiled eggs, sliced apple etc in the fridge for when I get 'the munchies'. Just need to cut down my portions now because I admit mine are huge. If I have a smaller meal im hungry half an hour later. I don't know why but it's something I need to learn to combat.

But wont a crisp free January just make you want them all the more?

I'd worry about inadvertently elevating their status

I detest kh. Of course if you are overweight then you need to eat less and move more, but I'm pretty sure most people know this.
Personally, I am on meds that cause weight gain but I stay thin through calorie control. It's boring but worth it to me. However I can see how for some they'd rather put up with the weight gain, and fair enough.

Denying things completely never works. A 'crisp free january' will just make you want to have even more come February. Denial of anything triggers a response in which you think about it, concentrate on it. I do it myself. Which is why I do alternatives or just limit myself to one or two a week.

You know that phrase about choosing your face or figure at a certain age.....

Keeping that in mind it's clear why she puts her emphasis where she does.

She comes across as ill-educated and over-opinionated which is never a sterling combination.

Not much to recommend really.

Yes that's true Gray's I do the same, I make amazing chocolate vegan,GF and low sugar brownies! For a 'treat". AND on Paul Mackenna you CAN eat rubbish just very very slowly!!!

Can you imagine the response if someone instead of saying they wouldn't employ a fat person said they wouldn't employ those so ugly they resemble gargoyles because they found them 'disgusting to look at'?

No one is forced to buy booze either. Its not a necessity.