Screechy loud child in swimming pool. Iabu but this is a safe place to rant

[Grapeeatingweirdo]

I have ASD (moderate) and recently left my gym because the loud music, lights and people noise were all a bit too much.

There is a hotel across the road from me with a gym and pool for members and hotel guests. It was amazing going there for the first time today. There were a few other people in the pool and it was really quiet and serene.

Well, it was serene until a father and his very loud child came in and straight away played a very loud game of "tag". Kid was shouting "tag" every thirty seconds or so and generally being a loudmouthed pain in the arse.

You'd think that anyone decent would enter a swimming pool and take note of the general atmosphere and ambience before unleashing said loud kid.

I've taken my nephew swimming before, sometimes in loud public pools and once in the pool of a hotel we were all staying at. I had the social consideration to warn my six year old nephew to try and be quiet as we had walked into a what was quite a quiet pool.

It was horrible after such lovely quiet and I ended up feeling like I had to leave. I said nothing to them so this online rant is my way of getting it out! Places like Spashdown or soft play places are ideal for loudmouthed screechy kids, not very quiet hotel pools where three people are obviously relaxing. The spa prides itself in being calm and serene and there are signs everywhere telling people to be considerate of the comfort of other guests.

And rant over. I expect to be told I am being unreasonable. I have no children. I do like them though, just in small doses with the volume down.

[Tinks42]

i dont call names out to be fair here. but i did think that there were double standards with a certain post... how can someone say you are right then tell them to wear ear plugs next time? bit baffling.

[stubbornstains]

I totally sympathise, OP. I also have ASD, and can experience that surge of near- physical pain at loud noises. Motorbikes with dodgy exhausts are absolutely the worst, but kids in swimming pools runs a close second. Our municipal pool is dedicated solely to children having noisy fun, hence I have never been. I go to a (more expensive) local hotel pool, with very restricted hours for children. I did go to another hotel pool with unrestricted access for kids, but couldn't cope with the Loud Dads encouraging their offspring to dive bomb the small, crowded pool . When I go swimming with DS, he is severely discouraged from screeching. It's common courtesy to other pool users.

[Pagwatch]

It's not baffling

You are being a bit odd

All my posts have been confirming my view that the op is in the right, the dad and child were being self indulgent.

My 'pfft, take ear plugs next time' was in recognition of the ops past comment that she wishes every one a happy new year and just wanted a rant.

Sometimes we just accept that the world is a bit dickish.

Isn't it?

[Tinks42]

The OP said that there were a few adults in the pool.. It was tranquil and rather calm... Then a father and son came in gung ho, shouting all over the place when it really wasnt an appropriate thing to do when all is said and done. She was right in my book.

There is nothing wrong with someone going to a pool and playing with their off-spring but it doesnt have to be a screaming shouting jumping in affair surely.

[Pagwatch]

Yes? And?
So?

Pretty much what I said except for the 'ah well, take earplugs to be pragmatic in a dickish world'

Are you having a shit new year?

[Tinks42]

I really dont know what pfft mean to be honest.

[Pagwatch]

Did you actually read what I wrote? Is there a back story or something I am missing?

[Pagwatch]

Jesus Christ.

[Tinks42]

Blimey... pagwatch, have a baileys?

[Foolishlady]

The dad and child were perfectly entitled to be loud if it was a pool allowing kids in. I personally before having kids and when without kid prefer adult only pools (as much for the thought of the pee as the noise) & in my experience these are the norm for spa pools designed to be quiet and serene. But I think it's a bit much to shush kids in a pool they're allowed to be in - pools (not spa pools) are for playing in!

[Pagwatch]

I'm going now to talk to the dog. He understands short sentences.

[Tinks42]

I work with kids and I would have shusshed them for god sake.

[Pagwatch]

The dog understands what I posted and he has a very limited vocabulary.
It's pretty much woof woof and yet he looks like a genius to me right now.

[Tinks42]

I also have no idea why the OP said she has some sort of condition either. If its quiet somewhere.. anywhere, im not sure protocol says you have to go in there and be entitled to scream and splash about.

[Tinks42]

Like i said above... id be pissed off.

[Tinks42]

Im sure he does Pag

[Pagwatch]

Maybe start with the small words and work your way up? It might be your ambition that has been your undoing. Perhaps picture? Or a cartoon?

[Neverknowingly]

Thank goodness Sorcha - I was beginning to think I have the only child with ASD on the planet who does not embrace silence! And if you tell my DS to shush he becomes hyperfocussed resulting in more verbal tics. Plus usually setting off his sister!=

don't agree with you Pag but totally understand you

[Samcro]

this must be a wind up. a child being noisy in a swimming pool........is bad??
!!
on what planet

[Tinks42]

[Tinks42]

Im not really sure about excusing conditions here. What I am sure about is this was err no, you dont actually go into somewhere and screech etc. when it was rather a quiet place before. That is socially odd>

[Neverknowingly]

socially odd would be asd101

[Pagwatch]

Thank you Neverknowingly

[Tinks42]

No matter what "condition" a person has, integration into society is the teaching.

[Tinks42]

This is getting on my nerves now. People that are whatever, the teaching is to try to help them integrate as much as possible. Therefore, behaviour in certain situations need to be addressed.