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AIBU?

cancelling smear

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afreshstartplease · 31/12/2014 09:07

Aibu to be considering cancelling the smear I have booked this week?
It's my first one and I'm nearly 27

Scared

Sad

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wobblyweebles · 31/12/2014 13:51

Glad you're going.

I had CIN3 at 26. Thank god I went for my smear. I'm now 46, alive and well, have three children who I am there for.

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Libitina · 31/12/2014 14:34

Please don't cancel. A few minutes of discomfort and/or embarrassment could really save your life.

From a Gynae theatre scrub nurse.

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flagnogbagnog · 31/12/2014 14:39

Good friend of mine just had treatment for pre cancerous cells which were picked up at her routine smear test. She is younger than you OP. Kicked my butt into booking mine as it was overdue. Seriously was completely fine and the nurse was lovely. Just do it x

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munchkin2902 · 31/12/2014 14:46

I was scared of smears. Then I had a baby. Now used to whipping my bits out at the slightest hint...

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duplodon · 31/12/2014 14:49

And what a charmer you are, Argymargy. People always suffered when anxious and avoided things that scared them. It's there in all the ancient texts. Modern indulgence my backside. It's called being human, a common affliction.

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GraysAnalogy · 31/12/2014 14:50

I had my first internal when I was 17 because I had unusual bleeding. I was scared but a nurse held my hand.

Ever since my mum was diagnosed with cervical cancer it's something I alwahs urge my friends to do. Rude comments on this thread - people are nervous of all sorts of things.

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Aridane · 31/12/2014 14:51

OP - YANBU - and I totally get where you're coming from. The ones I have had hurt badly ('discomfort' - oh, if only) - have unhelpful anatomy for smears. Have memories of nurse trying, unsuccessfully, x3 times, then getting GP in to do it. And it took longer than a few minutes.

BUT

I still get them done. Don't cancel - once you've got it done, it will be over and done with for a few years. And as other posters have pointed out, treatment for conditions which could have been caught earlier will be worse than the worst smear.

Go for it!

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PoppySausage · 31/12/2014 17:10

I cancelled a smear then re booked 3 years later, pre cancerous cells found, treated but was on the severe end of the scale. Scared me.

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ConfusedInBath · 31/12/2014 17:15

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Baddz · 31/12/2014 17:19

Hmmm.
Smears aren't painful IMHO...but they can be uncomfortable now that they use those tiny brushes to get the cells.
If It's pain that concerns you then perhaps some painkillers just before? And for afterwards?
If it's the actual act of having a smear done, then maybe you could talk to your gp and ask for some diazepam or similar to help calm you?
I have been having smears for 25 years (yes, I am that old :)) and they are much better than they used to be...
They now use a plastic (not metal) speculum. MUCH better!
Also, they should ask if you have given birth as they use a smaller or larger one depending! :) I have the monster size :)
Please don't cancel.
These tests save lives x

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Baddz · 31/12/2014 17:20

...and you will feel totally empowered and indestructible when you are walking out of the gp :)
Good luck x

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maitaimojito · 31/12/2014 17:25

Don't cancel.

I was exactly the same as you when I had my first one this summer and was close to cancelling, but it was over within a couple of minutes and pain free - even though she had a bit of trouble finding my cervix!

Honestly, you'll wonder what you were stressing about once it's over.

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PicandMinx · 31/12/2014 17:31

Remember OP, pre-cancerous cells are just that. NOT cancer. Doctors don't know which cells MIGHT become cancer - so everything gets zapped. At our surgery, around 80% of women screened get referred for a colposcopy for an abnormal result. Not one of these women had cancer. Just a few abnormal cells.

Cervical cancer is still a rare cancer. Don't beat yourself up if you decide to cancel your appointment. The Netherlands offer smears to women after the age of 30. So if you were Dutch you wouldn't have to think about it for a few years!

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Rafflesway · 31/12/2014 17:34

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ScarlettDarling · 31/12/2014 18:10

Op there are lots of things in life which aren't very pleasant but that you just have to grit your teeth and get on with. Smears are one of these things. No one enjoys it. Its uncomfortable and maybe slightly painful if you are tense, but honestly its nothing too bad and is over in minutes. Im a real prude and even Im not too embarrassed by it! I'll bet once it's done you will wonder why you built it up into such a big thing! It's nothing! Go for it...you owe it to your children to look after your health.

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steff13 · 31/12/2014 18:17

I've had one annually since I was 18. I had my first one at 16. They're not a big deal. It takes a couple of minutes, it doesn't hurt, and it's just a little uncomfortable.

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bette06 · 31/12/2014 19:23

"Pain relief? For what.
Smears aren't painful."

Maybe you didn't intend it that way but I hate it when people present this as a fact, contrary to some women's (extremely painful) experiences. I think what you mean to say is "I am fortunate enough to have never felt any pain from smear tests" but it sounds like you are dismissing other women's very real pain.

Maybe it's due to anatomical differences, maybe it's a reaction to previous abuse etc but some women do experience a great deal of pain. I still go for my smear tests but they have been, without doubt, the most excruciating pain I have ever experienced and I think it would be more helpful to offer advice on pain relief, asking for smaller speculums etc than to disbelieve or belittle the pain some women experience. I think if the health service and/or other women were more willing to offer advice on how to deal with or reduce the pain rather than just insisting that it doesn't exist, more women would come forward for smear tests.

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ConfusedInBath · 31/12/2014 19:51

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Belalug0si · 31/12/2014 20:04

PicandMinx not sure you meant it to read that way but 80% of women being screened do not get referred for colposcopy. Around 90% of results are normal, 2-3% unsuitable for reading, then 2-3% high grade (pre-cancerous changes, these are automatic referrals) and about 6-7% low grade or minor changes. The low grade/minor changes are usually tested for the high risk HPV types and if positive, then you'd be referred. Around 30% of minor and 70% of low grades are HPV positive (it varies a bit across England).

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PicandMinx · 31/12/2014 20:29

I meant to say that around 80% of screened women at the surgery where I work are referred (according to the minutes of my last team meeting).

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moonbabyandthebeast · 31/12/2014 20:36

I have always attended my smear tests and am currently awaiting results of my lletz treatment I had on Xmas eve for cin3. No one looks forward to their smears and like most things in life u dread, it is highly likely that u will find the fear/anticipation far worse than the procedure itself. I agree with pp that we r extremely lucky to have such a screening programme. In the nicest possible way yabu to cancel the test, yanbu to b anxious but will have to deal with that in watever way works best for u. Looking forward to u coming back to post u have had it done and all was fine.

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Gem124 · 31/12/2014 20:37

It honestly is no-where as bad as you expect. Definitely wear a dress and leggings, much easier. Relax as much as you can as it hurts less. Please go xx

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Belalug0si · 31/12/2014 20:41

Hmm PicandMinx that's quite unusual, it's usually about 5% of women having cervical screening that are referred. Did you mean 80% of the women who have abnormal results are referred?

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ots · 31/12/2014 20:44

Please don't cancel. Mine probably saved my life. My first smear at 25, cells were severely abnormal (CIN III, which is the highest before they change to cervical cancer). I dread to think what could have happened had I not gone.

I promise you its not that bad, slightly undignified for a minute or 2 and then its over.

I won't say yabu though as I remember how terrified I was before mine, but its worth it and I'm so glad I did it.

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