Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think my niece and her partner are too immature?

144 replies

Kathryn114 · 29/12/2014 20:34

My neice and her boyfriend are 24, and they have a 3 year old daughter (my great niece). They are lovely people, my niece is a care assistant in a residential care home for the elderly, voted "favourite carer" by the residents and staff, and her boyfriend is a gardner.

But they are so, so childish. They both sound like children talking iyswim. My niece always has been childish, but she still dresses very bizarrely (loads of bright colours that clash, plastic jewellery, hair dyed lilac in bunches), she gets excited about everything and is always clapping her hands, dancing, I just feel uncomfortable watching! And her boyfriend only talks to her and his daughter, he has barely uttered a word to me! He also acts immaturely and gets excited about everything, and has tattoos of cartoon mermaids and kings and queens all up his arms Hmm

The other day we visited them (we live 3 hours away) and when we arrived all 3 of them were sat around a plastic table in the lounge colouring. No adult conversation going on, whenever we asked them anything it was always a quick answer. My niece kept coming up with strange conversations too, such as "Maybe the earth is flat and astronauts are lying to us!" Their lounge decor was very strange as well, they both seem to have this obsession with the ocean and so the walls were full of pictures of sharks, dolphins and jellyfish, as well the many tanks of fish they have. When we went out for a walk, all 3 of them were running riot and barging into people and we had to keep apologising to people for them. Confused

AIBU to be annoyed with their parenting? It is more like three 3 year olds are living together! I am worried about my great niece's development because her parents seem to be stuck in childhood mode. My husband tells me to just leave them be, but it all just seems rather strange to me. They are lovely in their own ways, but I can't help being annoyed with them at the same time!

OP posts:
WyldChyld · 30/12/2014 18:05

DH says if I can guarantee it will keep my quiet he'll consider it - I already brought forward January's allowance xD! He says I need to get rid of some books before I buy more - it's his fault for not letting me keep them EVERYWHERE.

Definitely the grown up...

iamdivergent · 30/12/2014 18:24

iklboo Shock Shock Shock us too Grin Grin Grin

iamdivergent · 30/12/2014 18:25

sisters we are more star trek than star wars but both are fab Grin

spidey66 · 30/12/2014 18:44

So let's look at the evidence....

Your niece has been voted 'most popular carer' at work. She's clearly kind, caring, and hardworking. Her personality and hair probably brighten up the residents' day. Her partner is a gardener....backbreaking work in all weathers. They're bring up their daughter together and are supporting her, and themselves, without looking for benefits.

She has purple hair, and her sense of home decoration is different to yours. She's clearly quirky and individual.

Her and her partner like colouring in with their daughter. Wow. They enjoy participating in activities with her. Call Social Services immediately!

She questions facts. So she doesn't accept everything she's told, good on her!

The only negative is the bumping into people, but to me, she sounds lovely.

Being grown up and sensible ain't all it's cracked up to be. She sounds sweet, endearing, kind, gentle, hardworking, quirky, fun and a good mum. The world needs more people like her, not less. I'd love to have her as a niece and would be dead proud of her!

Aridane · 30/12/2014 19:03

Is this one of those made up threads?

2015 · 30/12/2014 20:02

Most threads are made up these days Sad

iklboo · 30/12/2014 20:08

IAmDivergent - geeky joke for you.

Hawkeye & Black Widow are singing along to George Ezra. Suddenly Black Widow is singing alternative words. Hawkeye turns to Black Widow & says:

'you & I remember Budapest very differently'.

stillwearingaredribbon · 30/12/2014 20:10

They are all bollocks
Especially one post then OP pisses off

iamdivergent · 30/12/2014 21:21

excellent joke! Grin Grin Grin

iklboo · 30/12/2014 21:23

SmileSmile DH just gave me a withering look when I told it him. I reckon he's just upset he didn't think of it first!

SaucyMare · 30/12/2014 21:30

My hubby got me a fairy dress last christmas, everupne else thinks it is weird, i love it.

So can't comment really.

NowBringUsSomeFuzzpiggyPudding · 30/12/2014 23:20

My DH got me lego for Xmas :)

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 30/12/2014 23:44

Is that you my Fuzzy?

Which set did DH buy you? Xmas Envy

SistersOfPercy · 31/12/2014 00:21

I usually have Lego for Xmas but I had the E11 stormtrooper blaster this year. I'm running out of shelf room in the dining room for more Lego. I have a few hobbit and lotr sets and the special edition ghost busters and back to the future.

DD (17) dabbles a bit in Harry Potter Lego but she mostly collects anything to do with the Weasley twins.

I wear a Slytherin hoodie regularly as well (from the studios tour) probably one of my favorite items of clothing alongside my Vader jumper Grin

MiscellaneousAssortment · 31/12/2014 02:38

How extremely irritating the OP didn't bother to come back. Rude.

NowBringUsSomeFuzzpiggyPudding · 31/12/2014 07:16

'Tis I, Chipping :o

shop.lego.com/en-GB/Research-Institute-21110

Never specifically asked for that one as I knew it was very hard to get hold of, but he remembered I'd said I loved it and snapped it up when they were first released! :) He also got one of the lego movie sets for the family which we are building when I get home from work today. :o

iamdivergent · 31/12/2014 08:52

Fuzzywill you adopt me? Grin I love lego! We built the dolphin cruiser here yesterday, still have starlords ship to do Smile

dragdownthemoon · 31/12/2014 09:16

They sound ace, I'd probably be friends with them. I wear bright colours and plastic jewellery and my hair is currently bright pink, recently described by a friend as "highlighter pen bright". People love coming to my house because it is "quirky" and "feels a bit like a student house" (other people's words, I wasn't sure whether the second was a compliment or not!)

I was told fairly recently by a friend who had had a bit to drink that my husband and I look like we'd probably be terrible parents because we look very young (I'm in my 30s but still get ID'd) and we have crazy hair etc, and if people saw us walking down the street with our kids they would judge us, but actually our kids are amazing. I'm always being told how well behaved my children are (I laugh and say they should see them at home, bloody nightmares), they are bright and happy and well looked after kids.

I say YABU! Don't judge a book by its cover! And happy fun parents aren't bad parents. I suspect their kids will turn out slightly bonkers but happy and loved.

greeneggsandjam · 31/12/2014 09:24

I would like to see them running around and barging into people. Apart from the plastic table (I don't like plastic tables) I don't see what's so bad about it. The child could be brought up by parents who couldn't care less and that would be much worse.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page