To wonder when my Christmas 'holiday' starts?

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I am a SAHM - so do all the housework. Washing, ironing, shopping, cooking as my 'job'. DS is a teen so I am not busy with childcare.

But - this holiday when Ds and DH manage to find loads of free time to loaf around doing their own thing why do I not seem to manage to find any time to relax?

I spent the week up to Christmas day cleaning the house, shopping and prepping food (DH did help with this tbf), finalising gifts etc. On Christmas day itself I was cooking for 14. That took up the whole day. I was getting most annoyed when various guests would ask " did you watch so and so on the tv this morning/last night/the day before?". Umm No. I was too busy doing jobs to actually sit down and enjoy any xmas movies or quiet time.

The final straw came when yesterday afternoon when DH had gone out to football, I was taking an hour to myself to do the footner thing. DS (17) came down to make himself a snack. I asked him if he wouldn't mind making me a cuppa. He refused - so I exploded.

Currently the first one up today.

I have made myself breakfast and commandeered the tv in the lounge. Kitchen is a mess. Dishwasher needs emptying of the clean dishes, there is a pile of dirty ones waiting to go in.

So, this isn't really an AIBU - just a vent and moan.

idiunt

From my perspective the op is in a very privileged position which doesn't warrant much sympathy.

point is you just dont know. You have no idea what the OPs life entails or how easy or hard her stay at home existence may be compared to yours.

You are just making assumptions and then using them as a basis for attack. And in some cases to prove how bloody amazing you are.

Unless there's a backstory we haven't been told, it's hard to be sympathetic.

Well, you don't know either idiunt.

One can only base ones opinions on the facts provided.

I was a bit at the 'those who work get a break' comment. I don't know anyone who skips off merrily to their place of employment eagerly looking forward to a day of surfing the Internet and snoozing at their desk. It's work. You don't get paid for sitting at your desk doing fuck all.
I mentioned this previously, but why don't you get a job as it sounds like you would like one? You don't have to be a housewife if you don't want to. Your son is old enough to be cooking his own meals occasionally and doing his washing, you don't need to baby him. You could always get a cleaner for a few hours a week while you were at work so you can come home to a tidy house.

absolutely I don't know. But then I am not knocking someone for feeling stressed at Christmas because I think their life might be generally less stressful than my own.

Solidarity and Christmas spirit massively lacking on mumsnet at the moment

I don't think it should really matter whether or not the OP is a SAHM or working. The point she's upset about is that her DH and DS do not seem willing to help at all, as they seem to think when their "shift" at work or school are done, that it is time for them to relax - but they're not considering that the things she does (cooking, washing up, etc) will still be going on in the evenings and weekends and holidays.

I'm sure LOADS of us have dealt with this kind of thing (I've certainly seen enough other threads about it on MN!), so is it really too much to think people could just be supportive of her vent, rather than turn around and attack her? So much for a website of parents supporting parents....