To be sick to death regarding the negativity to my pregnancy?

[SamiBE]

Ok so I'm 28, happily married with 3 DC.
My ds1 is 11 , dd is 7 and my youngest ds will be 1 tomorrow. My 4th is due in 6 weeks.
All I here from people when they see im pregnant
Is how hard I'm going to find looking after 2 babies, or always being asked "how the hell will I cope" I was even told by a former colleague that" I'm a silly girl for getting pregnant again"

All these comments are really getting to me and making me feel down, I know it won't be the easiest of things but we will manage. I find that people just can't be happy for us and they have to get their two cents worth in, Why can't they see the positives such as having two that will grow up together and be close? It the fact that Im going to have another beautiful baby to complete my family?

SamiBE - consider yourself hugged and congratulated by your (much) older brother, in fact that would have to be half-brother but who's counting, who would love another nephew/niece! and if you like

Tell them all to fuck off while you can blame it on the hormones
I don't know why people do it, when I was pregnant with the Dts people constantly told me now hard it would be, how I wouldn't enjoy the first year, it would be horrific. I think some people have to re I do you that being a parent is hard, you know, just nixes you didn't figure it out by yourself.
Just ignore them.
Congratulations

Sounds like you need a few stock replies ready depending on how blunt you want to be.
"Actually we're really excited"

"It will be hard for a while but we're very lucky"

"We don't think in that sort of negative way"

"Women have coped with harder than two babies since the dawn of time, I'll be fine thanks"

"We're really excited actually, we don't tend to have that sort of attitude to things"

"Unless you have anything nice to say I'm not really interested in your thoughts"

hth good luck you're going to need it

Congratulations i have 4 and its great, I found people were more openly critical about my fourth. i am now more straight talking back stuff especially your colleague.

Oh gosh typos bloody iPad is pissed on Christmas wine.

my brother is 18 months older than I am. my mother "coped" perfectly well. You will too.

some people need to learn to keep their mouths shut, because their opinions stink.

Wanttosqueezeyou - I LOVE your comebacks I think I may have to have a "hormonal outburst" soon.
As I said I know it won't be easy at times but that's just being a parent. I was anorexic a few years ago and we think it affected my fertility as only when I gained a decent amount of weight I fell pregnant with my baby (bf for 4 months which must have acted as a contraceptive as I fell pregnant as soon as I stopped) I feel very lucky to be able to have these babies but wish people would be pleased for us.

I really don't understand why anyone feels they have the right to comment on your family.
Now perhaps if they said how can we help rather than it'll be hard....
Enjoy your lovely children. Tell them more children equals more love and laughter.

People are entitled to their own views but shouldn't say it to your face and should just say something simple.

Having grown up in a large family, its not something I would ever choose to do. Not enough time, resources or money to go round and the older ones simply end up doing the housework and child minding. I couldn't bring myself to be thrilled but would be polite.

Congratulations OP, and happy birthday for tomorrow to your DS.

There was only 13 months between my DH and his sister. Although DH wasn't planned so soon, my MIL says she loved having them so close in age.

4 children is hardly a large family

Ooh yes liking the comebacks. Also I find, I love having four big grin works well. while mentally giving them the finger

I'd be even more gushing then and say

"we're just blessed! there was a time when 4 children was just a dream"

"some people might find it a challenge"

I am 29. I have been married since I was 23. Currently pregnant with my first (after a little help) and fead up of people saying "was it planned?" And "you wait, your life is going to change"... Some people just seem to have a default setting of negative. Bastards.

Mwaaaah

I'd rather mentally poke them in the eye

Ohhh yes that works well. An imaginery eye poke.

Enjoy your family. It is your family and no-one else should criticise you and your partner. I have four children, two born in the same year, January and December. Enjoy them and be happy.

I have aDS and a DD exactly that gap apart. 13 1/2 months.

They are the best of friends and have spent all day playing with DDs new dolls house.

It's a great age gap. Congratulations.

I think that all the negative comments are jealousy,they are all jealous because you got pregnant so quickly after your third child.
And yes it may at times be a bit difficult but let's face it you have coped with three and being pregnant so fair bloody play.
Don't listen to negative comments. What would they know.

Plenty of people in my family and circle of friends have small age gaps like that. It is a bit hectic at the start but lovely as they get older. It's not very nice for people to be rude about your pregnancy. It shouldn't matter what number it is! Congratulations :)

54 weeks between DC2 and DC3! A bit crazy but I wanted my children to have the close relationship myself and DSis have! We have 17 months between us.

Take no notice, go to lots of toddler groups and enjoy!

people are so rude try being pg with twins, you get rather you than me

which when your shitting yourself anyway isn't v nice

I have four very close in age (9-6yrs). I get a lot of comments even now when the eldest is almost 10. I would advise you to build a thick skin as the comments will continue for a long time.

Congratulations by the way. Four is hard work but sometimes a huge amount of fun.