To be sick to death regarding the negativity to my pregnancy?

[SamiBE]

Ok so I'm 28, happily married with 3 DC.
My ds1 is 11 , dd is 7 and my youngest ds will be 1 tomorrow. My 4th is due in 6 weeks.
All I here from people when they see im pregnant
Is how hard I'm going to find looking after 2 babies, or always being asked "how the hell will I cope" I was even told by a former colleague that" I'm a silly girl for getting pregnant again"

All these comments are really getting to me and making me feel down, I know it won't be the easiest of things but we will manage. I find that people just can't be happy for us and they have to get their two cents worth in, Why can't they see the positives such as having two that will grow up together and be close? It the fact that Im going to have another beautiful baby to complete my family?

Congratulations!!! The 2 youngest will be little partners in crime :) so cute!

"shit, youre absolutely right, i dont know why i never thought of that before" with a should shut them up.

fwiw i think 4 is a lovely number

YANBU. I'm currently pregnant with number 2 who will be a bit under a year and a month younger than DS if he arrives on his due date rather than a couple weeks early like DS.

MIL has already informed us that we'll have to go on contraception after this one (they were both planned) and what was the other one, oh yeah, "people these days don't need 3 kids" when we said we might want a 3rd in several years.

Meddling old made.

As long as you can feed, clothe and as importantly love and make time for your children it isn't anyone elses business. Your colleague is probably jealous. Four is a lovely number. So are five, six, seven and eight. Your life, your choice and the age gap is what used to be considered normal. I have three who are thirteen months apart and they get on brilliantly. There are bigger gaps between the others and this works too. At 28 you are young enough to easily keep up despite the ensuing sleep deprivation (that part does get harder as you get older!) so ignore the nay sayers. Larger families are great for children and help them learn how to relate better to other people. The elder(ly?) people that I know who were one of 7 or more all managed to have lasting marriages, never sufferered from depression and had/have great friendships because they learned how to give and take and share as children and did not rely on material goods for their happiness. They seem to have longer and happier lives than those with fewer or no siblings. Definately the way forward if you ask me. but then, I'm biased!

cleo please don't let ignorance ruin what is a very special experience for you! I have 2 close together, when dd2 was born, we had 2 under 2 and to be honest? The 2nd just fits in, 2 for us was easier than just the 1! You have experience now, you know what you're doing, you'll do awesomely. Dd1 was a very easy baby, dd2 was by all accounts a 'difficult' baby (allergies, reflux, constant thrush, wouldn't sleep other than on my chest) yet it has still been easier with the 2 than with the 1. I had the people asking if it was planned, telling me how hard it would be etc, just ignore them! Like pp's said, they're jealous or thinking they couldn't have coped etc!

Congratulations! Years ago people had huge families without any,of the labour saving devices we have now. I am sure you will cope, years roll round so fast. Just wanted to wish you luck and let us know how your getting on.

Congratulations. Small gaps are the best, your youngest two will have such fun growing up so close in age.