To ruin Christmas by telling dh I am pregnant?

[Chocolatewispa]

I have just found out I am pregnant. Af is not due till Xmas eve. I don't want to tell dh until then incase it turns out to be a chemical. I have done a frer and clear blue both bfp. We have a dd 14 months who was not planned. Dh was angry and upset the whole pregnancy making the whole experience miserable.
I just started taken the mini pill (after 14 months of withdrawal method!) this month. I don't think I have taken it the same time every day:-(
If I tell dh on Xmas eve it's guaranteed to make Xmas crap. If I don't tell him he will suspect by my lack of drinking. I am so sad that this won't be a wonderful surprise for him.

I assume you'll be complaining to GP about not explaining that when writing the prescription then :)

Teach me not to refresh,

Good news op, well done

Skimmed through the all the posts and just seen that you've told dh and its fine,.so that's great, congratulations x

I wondered if you're relationship was not as people had interpreted and 'scared' was more 'concerned'?

I was in that position exactly 2 years ago. I'm happy in my relationship, I trusted him not to blame me (we were both equally guilty of being stupidly careless) but I was desperately worried about telling dh because he was so stressed with work and living with 2 young children and job insecurity and house maintainence etc. I honestly thought it might trigger a nervous break down, not that he'd be angry or blaming. I was so amazed when he was pragmatic and even managed a little enthusiasm within a few minutes!

All the best op

Iggi - supposedly a very early mc (say 1st week after period due) would be very much like a normal period (chemical pg). And are now only being identified by the early pg tests.

I think its just this situation where assumption the DH wouldnt be happy that with 30% chance say of mc at this point why cause a fight before you know for sure.

Chunderella have you been reading the thread thats almost exactly a compression of ops comments. Except maybe the last bit as op said more like maybe not taken at correct time. And as far as i can see hasnt confirmed if DH knew she was not taking at exactly the same time.

OP the 'same time every day' thing doesn't apply any more.

The mini pill has been 'updated' for want of a better discription, so you have a 12 hour window to take it,like the combined pill.

You would have to skip whole days for it to not protect you.

However, Im hardly one to talk. I currently have a beautiful three year old that is the result of not taking my pill properly. He was discussed in length though and was planned for the future.

Im very pleased to hear your husband is happy. Congratulations.

You do not have to skip whole days. If you normally take your pill at say, 6am when you get up, but forget until say 6.30pm when you get in from work - that's enough to lose protection. Anyway is all academic now as it's had a nice outcome for the Op :)

Oh good! Glad he's happy about it!

We did the with drawl method for 6 years before we messed it up. We figured we'd be fine since everyone we know TTC took about a few months. I guess if we really didn't want a baby we could have ran for the morning after pill. But I'd say things worked out nice.

Another one for withdrawal method!! We used it for a year and no problems. 2nd cycle of trying "properly" we caught.

But DP and I are old enough to understand there are risks

Yes that's true actually.

The person saying they are sad for all the people 'desperate to conceive' when reading this thread- go away it's really irrelevant and the OP is hardly responsible for them. Congrats, OP