To speak to the teacher about this Christmas card?

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My 6yo DS came home from school and was opening Christmas cards. He got one from a girl in his class which read 'to insanity's son, I don't like you. From child'

I dont know the parents or child so I was going to take it to the teacher tomorrow?

Tinks true to a point I'm of the opinion that adults intervene far too much sometimes in things that children can sort out themselves

As parents we want to protect our children when they're faced with obstacles and negativity, as OP feels herself.

We also need to teach them resilience.

In doing that though StillStaying you arent really preparing them for the "outside" world. How the OP deals with this is far more relevant than bowling up to the teacher. It's an opportunity for the parent to have a "little" discussion with her son.

People are allowed to dislike each other, yes, but it's rude and hurtful to actually say so, unprompted, and in a Christnas card ffs. I do think it needs to be mentioned, as I'm sure the school wants to teach children kindness and basic social skills.

Jesus, tinks, did you learn to view stuff like this as funny on your "various exam" courses in childcare; or are you just naturally the type of person who stands there tittering when people fall over?
It's a rubbish message to find in a Christmas card, no matter who wrote it.

Tinks at 6 years of age I don't want to prepare them for the outside world as it is.

Are you a childcare professional? you are displaying little empathy for either chikd or parent via your comnents so far.

Oh get a grip Flogging. I actually do titter when people fall over unless they've hurt themselves, I also laugh when I do the same. Ive worked with children for 30 years. Do you actually think that this girl was being a bully at the age of 6! blimey. Do you actually run to the school and tell the teacher about every silly little incident? This is an ideal opportunity as a parent to have a chat with their child about what is nice or not.

Yes I am a childcare professional and see so much ridiculous behaviour from parents I could write a book. Like I said, get a grip.

I actually do titter when people fall over unless they've hurt themselves really?.

30 years working with children, really?

I'm all for teaching resilience but I don't like this one bit. I'd mention it to the teacher, if not for my own child then for the one that wrote it. It's not bullying imo (unless it comes as part of a bigger picture with this child) but it is unacceptable behaviour and leaving it unchecked does no one any favours.

I teach children and would want to know.

Six year olds can be incredibly mean to each other with or with out realising the impact. I would discuss the feelings that it could evoke.

I've had really mean comments of my four year old pupils as they didn't understand but at six they do have a grasp on right or wrong and actually going to the length of writing out a card shows there maybe some bad feelings some where.

So you have never had a titter when a person has tripped over or made a berk of themselves? I have the ability to laugh at myself rather a lot too, you should try it StillStaying.

Yes really and I do it because I adore the children... The parents on the other hand not so most of the time

Just mention it to the teacher, as others have said . She will just cover it in circle time . They deal with stuff like this all the time , you know, it's not just reading and writing .

Kids just need help in figuring out what it's ok to think / feel and what it's ok / kind to say . It's just a normal part of growing up . This little girl just needs a help with this, that's all. It's not bullying or indicative of some major problem

Another yes I would mention to the teacher..IF only to keep it on the radar.

Going to the length of writing in a card??????? oh dear... Really?

I tend not to laugh at the embarrassment that might be felt by others, each to their own Tinks if you get a snigger from it , go for it.

I can laugh at myself no worries love , better than dismissing the feelings of others, eh?

No worries "love" ? Dismissing the feelings of others? oh dear, another one that needs a baileys

Maybe you should step away from the Baileys, tinks... You're coming across as a total arse.

There's a 6 year old little girl who lives near me who once came up to me in the park and said 'I hate your boy' about my ds who is 4.

Her dad looked very embarrassed and did a sort of half hearted 'ooh we don't say things like that!' I would be mortified if my ds said or wrote anything like that and he is always told not to say nasty things to people. If the parents of the girl don't pick her up on it, it would be pointless talking to them. Teacher would be the best bet in my opinion.

Im at work (and rather bored) so the baileys will happen later. Im coming across as someone that thinks all these sort of things are rather ridiculous in the whole scheme of things and people need to get a bit more of a grip. You however Flogging are rude.

I Agree with tinks, these things do tend to get blown out of proportion and kids are a lot of the time better left to sort things out themselves. However if your child seems upset by the card, then maybe mention it to the teacher in the morning.

This little girl just said she didnt like the boy and she probably had a good reason for saying it. They will be friends next week. Why adults have to get so damn involved is a mystery to me, so are people that get aggressive and call people arses.

I'm sure the girls parents will have no idea and would be upset if they knew

Fully agree with Tinks on this one.