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Claridges Breastfeeding Policy

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ifgrandmahadawilly · 02/12/2014 20:31

Aibu in posting this here, in the hopes that the people of mumsnet let Claridges know how unreasonable they are being?

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-health/11267989/Mother-forced-to-cover-up-with-large-napkin-while-breastfeeding-at-Claridges.html

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MrHardy · 03/12/2014 23:55

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CountBapula · 03/12/2014 23:56

Ahh, you're one of those who can't tell the difference between eating and shitting.

Like I said - ishoos.

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sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/12/2014 23:57

Oh dear now breastfeeding is like smoking? Smokers have to go outside as it's a massive public health risk ffs

Writerwannabe83 · 03/12/2014 23:57

You are comparing smoking to breast feeding now are you?

And if moving 10ft away is no big deal then you should be the one to do it, not the BF'ing mother. and you take your horrendous opinions and prejudices with you

Pasithea · 03/12/2014 23:57

It doesn't offend me . I just find it upsetting for personal reasons. And yes I can look away , but that doesn't stop me initially noticing it and being upset by it.

I don't go into places like mothercare or baby changing rooms. Because there is a high chance of encountering it so I don't.

Samcro · 03/12/2014 23:58

"We make smokers go outside, so why not the same here? Some are put off by smokers, some by seeing breastfeeding."

OH DO FUCK OFF
I FF both of mine and am a smoker
but bloody hell.

my mate BF her baby/toddler/small child
does not affect me in any way.
yet people smoking affects people

any one who can post what I quoted......is a TROLL

Icimoi · 03/12/2014 23:59

I just don't get what the problem is with the rule by Claridge's. Alton Towers have banned speedos at their water parks and you don't see me complaining, do you? No, because it's their rules and even though I'd love to wear one I respect their rules!

The problem with the rule is that it breaks the law. If you respect rules, surely you respect the rules imposed by law?

Pasithea · 04/12/2014 00:00

same ro just because it doesn't affect you doesn't mean it doesn't affect others.

EmbarrassedPossessed · 04/12/2014 00:00

Ok. So, you are aware that passive smoking is harmful to people's health? Being forced (because you can't turn your head, or move, or leave?!) to watch a woman breastfeeding is not harmful. That comparison is completely silly.

HangingInAGruffaloStance · 04/12/2014 00:00

Come on ladies, haven't you heard of the dangers of passive breastfeeding?

If you have to eat in the same room as a breastfeeding woman the milk transfers onto your skin, causing stickiness and leading to serious health problems.

Pasithea · 04/12/2014 00:01

Sorry. Samcro. Bloody spellcheck

MrSheen · 04/12/2014 00:01

Smokers don't go outside because people are 'put off' by them. They go outside due the the law, which was passed for public health reasons.

It's not reasonable to ask a bf woman, and her party to be in a permanent state of 'moving 10 feet' because of some swivel eyed arsehole.

MrHardy · 04/12/2014 00:02

Icimoi It shouldn't break the law though. I'm sick of stuff being forced upon us just because a small minority kick up a fuss.

Oh, my partner can't have the weekend off because "weekends off are usually given to the female members of staff in case they're mothers" and various other ridiculous things.

Just respect what people want - I think you'd find the majority of people would prefer that BF be done in private.

Samcro · 04/12/2014 00:02

Pasithea i suggest you re read my post
you have read it so WRONG
ffs

TerraNovice · 04/12/2014 00:02

It's not the same to compare gay people and breastfeeding

Yet it's the same to compare breastfeeding to smoking and defecating in public? I think I speak for us all when I say ODFOD.

MrHardy · 04/12/2014 00:03

I'm not equating breastfeeding (which I have no problem with in general) to smoking, I'm using the analogy that some people don't like smoking and so smokers are made to go outside, just as some people don't like breastfeeding, so the breastfeeders should be made to go somewhere private.

EASY.

MrSheen · 04/12/2014 00:04

Smokers aren't made to go outside because people 'don't like it' though. So your analogy is crap.

TerraNovice · 04/12/2014 00:04

I'm sick of stuff being forced upon us just because a small minority kick up a fuss

Oh the irony of a gay man saying that!

Samcro · 04/12/2014 00:05

not EASY
BF is just that
feeding a baby

YOU CANNOT COMPARE THAT TO SMOKING

(Pasithea does that help you)

MrSheen · 04/12/2014 00:05

I don't like people eating with their mouth open. Should they be made to go outside?

EmbarrassedPossessed · 04/12/2014 00:05

Smokers are required to smoke outside by law for PUBLIC HEALTH reasons. Not because it offends people.

Icimoi · 04/12/2014 00:06

Pasithea, are you seriously "upset" by a momentary glimpse of breastfeeding? Even if all you see is the baby's head and a small part of the mother's breast? How does that upset feeling manifest itself? Do you feel so distressed that you day is ruined, or do you simply feel mild disapproval? If the latter, you aren't actually upset; if the former, you've got problems that go way beyond this simple issue. And if it is anything in between, then you need to live with it.

Why do people think they have some sort of right never to be upset? I got upset when I just missed a bus today. Should I be entitled to demand that the bus company have buses on standby at every bus stop just to avoid me getting upset?

MrHardy · 04/12/2014 00:06

Tiktok because it is not a thing some people want to see. It really is quite off putting when you think about it.

The mother should leave just like someone wanting a fag or going for a pee or re-applying make up is made to do. And, I'm not being funny but if someone started breastfeeding AT MY TABLE, I really would say something, friend/family or not.

jemima1988 · 04/12/2014 00:06

mrhardy

have some self respect?
are you kidding with this comment I have no self respect because I feed my child at a table in a restaurant??
I have a gay best friend who was unfortunately bullied badly due to his sexuality because people said they didn't want to see him holding hands with his partner or kissing his partner in public. He like myself had a screw you attitude if you don't like it don't look and thank god he had.
I really hope that you have never had to deal with such horrible
behaviour but if people didn't want you showing your partner affection in public would you stop? or tell them to stop watching?

because to me both are perfectly natural and loving things to do