Was this rude or am I expecting too much from people?

[LennyCrabsticks]

BIL came round to see dh last night. He stuck his head in the living room to say hello and asked what I was watching, then said, blimey, that's a big telly.

I started to tell him about it (it's new and I'm a bit excited about it) and he said that he couldn't see any difference between that and his telly and that they didn't even have a flat screen and that we obviously like spending money and he's never understood people buying huge loud tellies for their home.

I wasn't expecting him to fawn all over it fgs but he brought it up and then shat all over it.

I have other issues with DH's family and what I perceive as rudeness towards me but I keep being told it's me being over sensitive. This one has pissed me off so I'm asking the MN jury.

Aibu to think you don't walk into someone's house and slag off their stuff?

saying you have a big tv wasn't rude it was just a comment.

Launching into a description of said tv was dull and it's no wonder he dismissed them. It's a television. How big or small it is is irrelevant really, although I do think that massive tv's (42 inches plus) look totally stupid in small living rooms, but each to their own.

And hd really is lost on a lot of people. A bit like 3D actually, a lot of people are incapable of watching 3d not because they have a sight problem per se but because you have to have equal vision in both eyes to be able to watch 3D properly and most people just don't.

Op you sound like a boring geeky type and most people wouldn't be interested in your description of the features of your television. Because he is family he probably feels more comfortable dismissing said features as rubbish really.

I was also banned from watching ITV. I was encouraged to watch the naice Noel Edmonds and Mike Reid rather than watching Tiswas, which I really would have preferred!

Interesting that as I have been reading this thread, an advert for a large TV has popped up n the right hand side of the screen..

I'd have an opinion on you buying a 4k TV if it's smaller than about 80inches, but I'm far too polite to actually say so.

Not sure she meant the TV cost 4K did she? I assumed the 4k was something to do with the HD resolution or something.

On the fence. I don't think it would be a rude conversation to have with someone you know well and like. We don't all have to like the same things.

If he's the snidey type generally tho then YANBU.

I'm also not a fan of a big tv but of course responded to my BILs description of the one he'd bought politely with excitement and commented how that'll be really great for watching sports which he enjoys.

Your BIL was a bit rude but don't take it to heart and never invite him for
-Movie night
-major sporting events watching
-any other televised awesomeness

Yes it's 4k technology, that for which there are as yet no 4k channels blu-rays or DVds (expected xmas 2015) I think the PS3 can display static 4k images (not moving as yet) and you have to sit about 3ft away to see any difference - unless it's about 80inches.

carltonbale.com/does-4k-resolution-matter/

there's a calculator here that tells you where to sit to actually appreciate your 4k output - if you actually had any 4k media to view - or the upscaled attempts of normal HD.

Rude. He sounds like a loudmouth boor (and bore).

'Well, you raised the subject. And it's none of your business what we spend our money on'

would have been, IMO, an appropriate response.

A TV can't be too big. If my house was big enough, I'd have a cinema with chairs and everything.

Your bil wasn't honest; he was a bit of a twat and well on his was to next Tuesday.

"A TV can't be too big"

Marceline my DP would agree with you. He dreams of a wall-sized, wall-mounted telly :o

It's 50 inch. We did a lot of research and decided that 4k was the best 'future proof' option. We didn't want 3d or anything and it didn't cost any more than the equivalent non-4k version.

And there is a HUGE difference in the picture quality with the upscaled picture.

I think there is a certain amount of jealousy, we have vastly different lifestyles and incomes. I would NEVER comment on anything to do with this by the way, but they both pipe up with weird comments about stuff all the time. The only reason we are any 'wealthier' than them is because I work, his wife doesn't. He is the older brother and the higher earner and I think he doesn't like it that we have a bigger house, more disposable income etc. He is always drawing negative comparisons. And yes this is all as petty as it sounds.

I am LOVING the tv related snobbery here by the way.

I always remember DH's Dad tried to buy his Mother a lovely big telly, as she pretty much watched TV morning 'til bedtime. She freaked out that she never 'David Dickson's head being bigger than mine in my own house!'

*wanted

I'm happy with my tv size, but would LOVE a home cinema, in a separate room, a la Sopranos.

Bwa ha ha Kato

I'm at the TV snobbery too. My telly is mahoosive and I adore it. I love watching telly and the bigger, the better. Life-size Sherlock? Life-size Musketeers? Yes please.

This is six of one, half a dozen of the other really. He commented on your new tele. You bragged, presumably in the full knowledge that your tele far out-specs his. He responded honestly and said he couldn't tell the difference in actual viewing quality.

Next time be more tactful when bragging?

Yep, I always look embarrassed when people comment on the hugeness of our telly (and its probably fairly small now as its about 10 years old) and say 'it's my husbands' - and he just looks proud and tells people lots of detail about it they don't want to know.

It's a telly - get over it. A big TV is just not something I want in my living room - but I've got one courtesy of husband. He wants an even bigger one.

And ITV was looked down on in our house.

Cupid, do we know that the OP was 'bragging'? Perhaps she was just making conversation – in response to HIM bringing up the telly, not her?!

Perhaps he could be more tactful in future and not tell people that they 'obviously like spending money and he's never understood people buying huge loud tellies for their home'?

I genuinely wasn't bragging, just being excited. I shoudl have known better.

My teenage son calls him 'Uncle Chip Pisser'.

yeah I grew up with a weird ingrained view that a big telly is a bit 'common'...no idea why really. We still have quite a small one by current standards and the price of the massive HD ones horrify me...but I
would never judge someone for buying one. Each to their own. He was very rude in my opinion.
An acquaintance of mine was very vocal in her disapproval of me spending £400 on a designer handbag. I saved for ages, used Christmas and birthday money etc and it is one of my favourite things so I don't care. Rude and nosy and rude.

I hate large TVs - think they're common, sorry!

BUT, we have a hot tub, so I'm not in a position to be snobby to anyone else. In my defence though, it's dh's, bought with his late dm's legacy, so I couldn't really say over my dead body no.

I think what I don't care for re: TVs is the way that some people who own them seem to think they're a status symbol and that I might somehow envy them, when all I'm actually thinking, as I look at it totally dominating their sitting room, is "WHY? It's HIDEOUS!" Would never say that out loud, though. I'd just probably lie mumble "how lovely."

Equally, I have people judging us for the hot-tub, so what comes around goes around.

Uncle Chip Pisser...! brilliant...!