To ask dd's friend to help wash up?

[MistletoeBUTNOwine]

DD has a friend round, dd is 9 friend is 10.
WIBU to ask friend to help dd wash up after tea?

Ooops

I make a huge meal for 8 people and I erm, well, I, erm, splutter, eek, I demand/expect they do the washing up!

I cooked, you clean.

Isn't that what friends and family do for the cook? Or have I lived in a very rude parallel universe all these years?

As a kid I always offered to wipe or put away, I wouldn't have dreamed of not speaking up (whilst hoping to be told 'no').

What happened to the geneset that means kids can't wash up these days?

Nomama, yep I'm with you. Team work. I'm not a maid