AIBU? DD 14 made fun of when in pain

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My DD is 14 and recently went to stay with my sister and her daughter for a weekend whilst I was on holiday with DH. DD has always suffered with very painful periods and many times I've heard her crying out on the bathroom floor in pain.

She came on unexpectedly whilst staying with my sister and she said she was in agony and thought she was dying, felt sick, going hot and cold feeling faint etc and doubled over and moaning in pain. Meanwhile, my sister and her daughter said she was being a drama queen and mocking her, taking the piss. She asked for painkillers (feminax) and she got her cheap paracetamol which obviously don't touch the pain.

When I went to pick DD up, my sister told me that my daughter would be a brilliant actress and told me that she came on and was being a proper 'drama queen'.

Am I right to be pissed off?

(I say this because, as a young girl, the thought of having to deal with pain like that once a month for my entire reproductive life was horribly depressing)

I had painful periods as a teen. Don't get them now and they did disappear after having children. DD gets the painful periods now.

I currently have a copper coil and no period pain.

OP, while I can understand your sister giving your DD whatever she had in the cupboard, the mean way in which she and her own DD took the piss out of your DD is really out of order.

YANBU. I've been blessed with regular, pretty light, mostly painless periods. My sister on the other hand - often irregular, very heavy, very painful. She sometimes vomits and feels so faint she has fallen over before. I used to think the whole "bleeding through your trousers onto your chair" thing was an exaggeration until my sister told me that sort of thing had happened to her several times.

I'd be furious with your DSis, she sounds totally heartless.

I was exactly the same when I was younger, at least one day off school a month as I'd faint from the pain. Mefanic acid didn't do anything. I ended up taking the pill back to back so I had no periods, as someone else has said. It changed my life and I still do this. So worth talking to the GP again I think?

Mine had me doubled over crying and shaking as a teenager. Tablets were no use as I'd vomit from pain. The gp kept prescribing fucking ponstan which didn't work as I threw it back up. It used to be in stomach, back and thighs. Anyone who thinks they'd 'snigger' at a grown woman being incapacitated by pain is a cunt quite frankly. I eventually got the pill after asking my mum to knife me to put me out of misery and telling gp I was going to top myself rather than face the pain. Got mild pain after that but easily cured and now I'm 35 off the pillars they are bearable now.

Take her back to the doctors, I was fobbed off by doctors in my teens and told to suck it up.

I was put on the pill at 16 to help my periods, had done the whole NASIDs crap and nothing really worked.

Turns out I had endometriosis. Took 8 years from me first complaining about it to being diagnosed by lovely female doctor and then being referred to consultant.

And yes, I did find labour less painful than my period pain. Your sister is an arse. It is like someone having a migraine and being mocked by someone who has only suffered from headaches.

Thanks for the replies. My sister was doing the weekly shop and my DD asked for feminax, and she bought the paracetamol instead. I will take her to see the gp again to get it sorted. She also has vomiting and diorrhea and recently she was in so much pain she couldn't run upstairs to the toilet so she defecated herself :( I admit I shouted at her because I was embarrassed and there was hell of a mess.

Yeah, go back to the GP and demand a referal to gynaecology. I've done that before too, in the shower, whilst also vomiting and weeing myself. Believe me when I say your daughter will have been far far more embarrassed than you. Thankfully my mum was helpful enough to call 111 and clean the bathroom for me, as opposed to shouting, but..

If she can, tell her to get onto all fours and rock. I find having my bum in the air helps a lot for some reason.

It's horrendous, I get searing pain in my abdomen, breasts, legs, joints, have hallucinations, fever, dizziness, fainting.

It can become an illness for some people - my GP used to ring me every month to check I was OK, sometimes phoning twice a day if I was really sounding unwell.

Oh God poor poor girl. You need to write all of these symptoms down and go back to your GP. Completely unacceptable that she should be suffering in this way.

I've laboured twice to pushing stage and had an Emcs and crash CS due to uterine rupture. I still say that the worst pain I've ever had was the early years of periods. I would need days off school and fainted with pain.

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Basically, your sister is not a very kind person! Your poor dd! I do hope she can find something to help sooner rather than later.

They were mean. My periods only got better when I went on the pill. Might be something to think about. I was 15 and it was a huge relief as my periods that ruined my life became manageable (no I didn't have sex until I was nearly 20)

Solphadine (sp?) and then two hours later iboprofen then repeat 2 hours later, plenty of caffeine.

feminax is just ibuprofen, so not much different to paracetemol in pain relieving

Poor little thing. I was just the same. It used to affect my bowels (I think some kind of comorbidity with my IBS) and I was very faint. The highlight was a very elderly man offering me his seat on the bus once because I looked so ill.

You sister was sooooooo U I can't even begin. And, I don't care what people say possibly it's the added placebo effect but Feminax worked better than anything else for me when I was that age.

Ibuprofen is more effective for period pain as it is an anti inflammatory

YANBU. My DSD suffered with horrendously painful periods, she used to flood as well. Sometimes it would go right through to the mattress and that was with a tampon and super towel on. She has been on the progestone only pill since she was 14 and it stopped the flooding and pains completely. I would really take her back to the GP and demand either a referral to a gynae or better medication.

My cousin was "dramatic" about her periods too and told to suck it up. She found out as an adult that she had endometriosis.

In any case, I certainly wouldn't be sending your daughter back there. Even if she was being dramatic, there's no need to make fun of her and deliberately give her shitty painkillers just to make a point.

I really don't understand people's need to "teach them a lesson" by deliberately making a bad situation worse.

Your sister's a bitch.

Your daughter needs to have further testing because that level of pain is not normal and it's not because she's growing. She needs a deeper analysis.

You don't always grow out of it, only going on the pill helped mine. I have cysts on my ovaries so ovulation is extremely painful too, the pill helped a lot- so did codine and ibroprofun.

Your sister was being shitty.

Echoing the comments to push for a further investigation as those levels of pain aren't normal.

Also (because I don't think it's been overly clear in the thread) paracetamol and ibuprofen can be taken together. I usually leave an hour between each so I can benefit from a longer 'coverage' so to speak.

Oh. Your DD sounds exactly like I was. I'm nearer 50 now, but periods started early and I remember the agony, sweating but shivering, and only being able to sit on the sofa wanting a cup of tea and a hot water bottle (even though sweat pouring off me). That pain that doubled you up and just having to wait for it to go. I remember nearly passing out in pain when shopping and I remember at secondary school being in agony and the school nurse phoning my mum and my mum having to explain to school that I wasn't making it up - I really was in pain. Luckily it didn't stay so bad. And now they've gone! But they can be hell and people won't understand if they haven't suffered. But I do think it's normal(ish) to suffer for a bit. Not forever though.

You can get codydramol otc, the brand name is paramol, it's in a black box.
I used to take my mothers huge 600mg ibuprofen when I had my period. I would faint from the Odin. I did wander through childbirth wondering what the fuss was about though. Not that that's worth years of agony. I had endometriosis and adenemiosis before I had a hysterectomy at 28 (cervical cancer, Not period related) I've never been so happy to need major surgery.

I admit I shouted at her because I was embarrassed and there was hell of a mess.

Hmmm... I dunno. That puts in a different light how cross you want to be at your sister, doesn't it? Neither of you are perfect at being patient with your DD. I hope your DD finds some better pain relief soon.

I would be so upset if this was me and my dd. It's not something to laugh about. I too had painful periods as a teen but only every six months and that was enough! If you don't have painful periods you really can't be nasty about it. It must have been very upsetting for your dd. Feminax is the only thing that worked for me. I was once admitted to hospital for the pain and they prescribed it for me.
I would be pissed off if it was my sister.

Feminax ultra is Naproxen which I had on prescription, it's stronger than Ibuprofen. I used to take it together with paracetamol. I took Buscopan for the gut spasms maybe your DD could take that? I have the joyous combination of PCOS and endometriosis and only the mini pill really helped ( along with surgical endo removal )