AIBU? DD 14 made fun of when in pain

[WelliBeDamned]

My DD is 14 and recently went to stay with my sister and her daughter for a weekend whilst I was on holiday with DH. DD has always suffered with very painful periods and many times I've heard her crying out on the bathroom floor in pain.

She came on unexpectedly whilst staying with my sister and she said she was in agony and thought she was dying, felt sick, going hot and cold feeling faint etc and doubled over and moaning in pain. Meanwhile, my sister and her daughter said she was being a drama queen and mocking her, taking the piss. She asked for painkillers (feminax) and she got her cheap paracetamol which obviously don't touch the pain.

When I went to pick DD up, my sister told me that my daughter would be a brilliant actress and told me that she came on and was being a proper 'drama queen'.

Am I right to be pissed off?

I used to throw up, be doubled over in pain with my periods ... Think I was about 15/16.

The pill worked wonders for me. Still got slight cramps but one pain killer and it was gone. I would definitely recommend seeing a doctor.

Whoops sorry, seen that you've already gone to a doctor, but I'd still say making try her on the pill.

It worked so well for me and at least she wouldn't have an unexpected period.

Your sister seems to be lacking in imagination.

And yes, take your DD to the GP. I suffered with terribly painful periods (hence Mirena and no periods now- Yay!). I think there's stuff they can give which is better that OTC, although Feminax is better than paracetamol IMO

If she is getting her period unexpectedly it might be worth another GP visit?

TheAwful

Feminax is Ibubrofen Lysine, not paracetamol

... although I agree with your more general point about branded vs non branded painkillers

I am sure this has already been said but will post anyway. Your description of your daughter's pain brought back vividly the horrific memories of the painful periods ( just the first few hours in fact ) I suffered from in my early teens. The pain was so bad that I sailed through child birth without pain relief some years later as it didn't feel that bad!!! Women who have suffered from 'normal' painful periods have absolutely no idea.
My life was transformed when my mother took me to the doctors and he prescribed me the contraceptive pill which gave me completely painless periods ( I am in my early 50s so this was a while ago) My mother wasn't thrilled as you can imagine! I later tried a drug called ( I think) Ponstan 40 which worked well if I wanted a break from the pill.
The doctor at the time predicted that once I had given birth I would no longer suffer from painful periods ( suggested this as an option to my mother when she started pulling faces at the prospect of her 14 year old daughter going on the pill??!!!) This happily proved to be true and the pain disappeared after the birth of dd1.
Get your daughter to your GP ASAP and perhaps show this thread to your clueless sister.

I sympathise. My period pains were totally horrific when I was younger. But she should see her GP. Oil of Evening primrose helped me a bit

Awful Feminax is not paracetamol. At least get your facts right, if you're going to be so dismissive.

And I see someone got there before me, this time.

Cheap ibuprofen might have worked eventually. It's a bit slow for that sort of pain, for some people, though.

And it's wrong to assume that other people's response to drugs will be the same as yours. If we all responded to drugs the same, then I'd be able to take ibuprofen without ending up with a bad case of the squits.

youre sister sounds mean, how old is your dd? Im on the coil ,copper coil , so periods are pretty horrendous and sometimes literally feel like Im in labour, I've had 2 kids im not exaggerating. and no...cheap paracetamol doesn't do the job if you're in that much pain FFs!! ......yes to GP!!!

Just as an aside. Painful periods are not normal. Don't let your gp fob you off with offering DD the pill. It just masks, doesn't cure. It might be something as sisimplest progesterone support. There's no need for anyone to suffer.

Sorry its in the op! 14....thats pretty mean...if shed have been 20 id have probably let out a snigger too.

I should have added that together with all the symptoms you describe of your daughter's pain I too would have been on the bathroom floor as the strong contraction like pains effected other bodily functions and I couldn't be too far from the loo!

Your poor dd. I have just seen your post that she has suffered like this since she was 10!!! How awful for her. You really need to take her back to your GP and be much more assertive. Ask for her to be put on the pill there are no viable alternatives. Fairly soon she will be starting to do important exams and she will be in real trouble if one of her periods coincides with these.

Just as an aside. Painful periods are not normal. Don't let your gp fob you off with offering DD the pill. It just masks, doesn't cure.

That's not the case, the pill fundamentally changes the operation of the female cycle. You are no longer having a period when you take the pill, it is a withdrawal bleed designed to simulate a period and therefore reassure women. It's effectively a marketing thing for the pill!

Many younger women experience very painful periods in their earlier cycles, and the pill provides an effective, immediate solution to this problem, enabling female physiology to mature so that by the time the woman discontinues the pill, periods are markedly less painful.

However, that's not to say that if she has any other symptoms of gynae malfunction, these shouldn't be investigated further

Take her to see her GP. Your sister sounds a bit of a twat, I've been rushed into hospital with period pain and been fasted in case I needed emergency surgery (they thought I had a twisted ovary), have had GP out giving me jabs in the bum.. Spent yesterday at work hanging onto a cupboard crying with period pain and then spent the whole night vomiting. Periods can be absolutely hell. I do have suspected endometriosis which explains my issues, which is why it's worth going to the GP because if there's something else likely going on she can be started nk treatment early.

Painkiller wise, I've always found codydramol, and diclofenac very good, but they're both prescription only I think.

As an aside
I had a long labour with DS2 and this explains how I managed the first 24 hours without pain relief - it wasn't as bad as my periods.

Poor DD.. Just to echo others on this thread. Please take her to the doc, my Dsis had periods so bad she used to be doubled up for two days at a time. To this day she is mad at DM for not giving her permission to go on the pill as it wasn't 'done' then

I used to have awful periods just as your daughter described. The early stages of labour were a piece of piss by comparison. They did get much better when I went on the pill, and even off contraception in adulthood they haven't been anything like as bad, so please do reassure her that they needn't always feel as bad.

So sorry your DD had such a bad time.

Painful periods like that aren't normal. Don't let the GP fob her off. This can be sorted out. Push push push for a resolution.