My neighbour is harrassing me and said racial comments to me.

[Tammy1212]

She called me a black b n said I should be grateful to get a housing association flat in this country
She admitted to stealing my letters n parcel
She constantly bangs on her floor when my tv is on 15/100 volume so not loud she just wants silence when she is ready to go bed, She stomps around all day but when she's ready to go sleep I MUST be quite
She walks around in boots
She is constantly knocking on my door to scream at me about something
Example yesterday she left a note on my car about my "bad parking" then knocked on my door to start arguing with me about it with her boyfriend
I got in at 3am yesterday n turn on my tv so she started banging on my floor then because I didn't turn my tv off she came n banged on my door which I just shouted for her to * off through the door
She leaves her cigs on my window seal

I have reported her to HA since Sept
I recently reported her to police on Fri they still haven't come round.
I feel I'm going to hurt her seriously she is winding me up, she is obsessed with me it's not even normal
Will the police even do anything?

She tried to threaten the police n HA to me but I do nothing to her. She thinks my tv is on to piss her off, her problem is she does things to purposely upset me so she thinks I'm doing stuff to annoy her which I'm really not, I'm just living my life.

I'm watching tv now and I have my earplugs in and I can still hear her banging around/stomping just because my tv is on

What can I do about this? I'm pregnant n it's very stressful for me
I'm not moving cos I'm not the problem
She also had issues with the last tenant who was also black, she claimed he was harrassing her and played on the fact he had mental health issues to bully him.
She also accused me of having mental health issues which I have no history of. Everyone who has an issue with her is "mental"
Not everyone can move just cos of her so I'm not leaving. I want her evicted and I'm fuming she's been stealing my mail I accused the postman of doing it!

I'm so glad I'm not your neighbour

Sounds hostile.

but weird she complained about your TV at 3am. Most people would be asleep, so did it wake her up? If so it must sound loud in her flat.

Sounds like you have to sort this before baby comes. What will she do when baby is screaming at 2am,5am etc?

The thing is during the day it is ok to make reasonable noise. At 3 am not so much.

What have your housing association said when you brought it to their attention?.

You sound incredibly argumentative and very, very young. Tbh I wouldnt want to be your neighbour. Get over yourself and realise that living in close proximity to others needs a bit of give and take. She shouldnt say racist comments but you're not the perfect neighbour here are you! Fgs do you want years of arguments. Just have a bit of sodding consideration and stop thinking the world revolves around you. She's been a prat. So have you.

I do have consideration hint why I listen to music VIA HEADPHONES
Who the hell does that, that you know of?
It doesn't matter if I watch tv at 2pm 8pm 3am she will bang on my ceiling REGARDLESS she just has a problem I'm here DON'T YOU GET IT!
She used to lock me out of the flat 3 days after I got the keys! if my tv was such an issue I already said she can write my a note but no she just chooses to harass me instead.
I couldn't care less about you being "glad" I'm not your neighbour
I'm not here to argue with anyone I'm seeking ADVICE you know what this forum is for? If you want to troll go else where....

My HA are putting in noise recorders to record her banging around, they said about the no proof thing in regards to her racial comments. Ive been complaining about her since sept i moved in july so HA know about her. I'm also installing a camera to my flat door so when she decides she wants to rant at me it's all recorded.

It's you who isn't getting it. If she's banging at those times it's because she can hear your tv. Otherwise she'd be asleep. Can you honestly not see that? Read your posts back. Do you sound neighbourly or like an argumentative stroppy kid who needs to grow up? I'm not trolling for gods sake just because I'm disagreeing with you. If my neighbour was noisy writing a note is a stupid way of telling them that. I'd knock or bang to tell them. It's far quicker. Try to see things from someone else's viewpoint otherwise you are only making the whole situation untenable.

You need to grow up and realise that if you're hostile to others, they'll be hostile back. Why would you expect this woman to be pleasant when you seem to take some sort of pleasure out of waking get at 3 in the morning with your TV? It's as if you've decided that she deserves to listen to you and your noise and that's that. If I was listening to your TV through my walls, I'd probably be a pretty shitty neighbour too!

And actually I do know people who use headphones for music. You aren't alone in that.

It all sounds very tit for tat. Maybe a truce and some consideration on both parts would make a difference.

Agree with bailey, you say you're adult yet you sound like a child. If i was your neighbour i wouldn't want to tell you the times when i thought you were noisy as you sound really hostile!
I'm not saying she's right but if you can still hear the tv with ear plugs in then your tv is roo loud for 3am and i don't blame her for banging.( yes i know you've said you're wearing them to block out her noise but the tv is still too loud).
She's very wrong for her comments but you're both acting childishly.

Again stop patronising me by saying "grow up" I can watch tv if I want. I'm not being considerate to her until she learns to take off her god dam boots
You keep picking on the 3am thing IT'S AN EXAMPLE of a RECENT advent.
And yes you're trolling because rather than give advice you choose to be patronising and horrible instead of giving advice.
I'm not turning off my tv because she bangs on my ceiling.
She hasn't been nice from day 1 like I said she used to lock me out of the flat 3days after I got the keys then said "I can knock on her door to be let in"
It's the communal door I had to get the locks changed because of this.
I'm not respecting anyone who doesn't respect me, simple as.
She also tried to tell me I cannot use the SHARED garden as she's been here longer and you're expecting me to respect that?
This was all the first week of me being here.

Then I politely mentioned her boots n she replied hostilely.
I'm not PURPOSELY trying to annoy her I'm just living my life!

It is, of course, completely totally and utterly unacceptable for this woman to use racial epithets towards you. And your behaviour does not in any way justify her doing this.

But unnecessarily waking her up at 3 am does very much justify her banging on the floor to try to get you to shut up. When I lived in shared accomodations and then flats for many years, the one rule for peaceful living was not waking people up at silly o'clock. I particularly remember watching Steve Redgrave row to one of his Olympic golds at about 3 am, with the volume about 2/100, and trying not to jump up and down...

I'm not even replying to this thread anymore. Hopefully one day you both will experience someone being racist, stomping around to uoset you and harrassing you.
When you do think of this where you are defending such a vile creature.
Good night

I didn't mean to wake her up if i even did that's why I told her to write me a note if there's an issue so I can correct it.
Anyway night night x

Have you ever told anyone that they're not the boss of you and you'll scream and you'll scream until you're sick

People have different opinions to you.
Don't post on a public forum if you want people to simply agree with you.
People have said she's in the wrong, however you cannot except that you're in the wrong also. Till you do nothing will change.

Oh this is going to be so much fun when the OP brings a child in to the mix.

Don't understand why people start threads but get upset when
They receive opinions!

Wow, if you you have the same attitude to your neighbour as you have to people on here because they don't wholeheartedly agree with you then maybe you do need to take a deep breath and step back.

Count your blessings whilst your doing it. You are 22 with a HA flat. There are people who would give their eye teeth for such luck, and would probably be slightly mellower too.

I actually agreed with you until I read your replys op. Why so mad at anyone with a different opinion to you? Do you think using shouty capitals will prove your point or something? You do sound immature and are probably giving to your neighbour as much is she is returning. Goodluck

I am surprised that people think the OP shouldn't watch tv at 3 am? Maybe because I am privileged to live an old block of flats with thick walls, but do none of the people commenting ever listen to something after 10 pm?

coyoacan nobody's saying she shouldn't be watching TV, what she shouldn't be doing is watching it so loudly that it wakes her neighbours at 3 am. I'm watching TV just now, but I can promise you that none of my neighbours can hear it, and we don't have good soundproofing at all.

Pack mentality at its stupidest!

A young lady posts about clear harassment and you all blame her, clearly avoiding her points whilst picking at irrelevant details to do so! Might I add, making yourselves look pretty dim in the process!!!

Is it not extremely likely that the act of OP shutting her door woke the neighbour up, allowing any excuse for the neighbours war path from that moment in? Does her racist behaviour not display what sortof person she is, especially to a young pregnant lady?

Its laughable that these responses have come from the forum proud of not 'victim blaming'!!! Perhaps the victim has to be of a certain kind I wonder?

Tammy record as much as you can! Like one poster said, times, dates, everything! Theres nothing against answering your door with your video camera rolling! Always keep calm. As evidenced here, people will always be looking to excuse her behavior. Dont give them the opportunity!

The rest of you should be ashamed of yourselves. Disgusting display of humanity!

Wtf at this thread!!! Being racist is against the law but of course it's the OP that is in the wrong. A young woman is being shouted at and door kicked but she's in the wrong for having her TV on quietly.