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Strangers touching my baby!

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Reddottys12 · 22/11/2014 21:00

Why do complete strangers think it's ok to come up to me in the street and touch my baby? It's always on the face or hands and he eats his hands constantly so goodness knows the germs he's picking up.

Today, someone I've met only once before decided she must hold my 4 month old and then constantly kissed his head. This really annoyed me and i feel really crossed some sort of boundary. She's a stranger to me and my son and I feel kisses are reserved for family and good friends!

What do I say or do when this happens and not sound like a cow or a paranoid mother?

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ThedementedPenguin · 25/11/2014 11:57

Grunt to begin with I was so uncomfortable with anyone near her. Even smiling and chatting could put me over the edge. I don't remember ever glaring at anyone.
Now I will chat to others when I see them smiling at her or will at least smile back at them.

I'm very aware my reactions aren't 'normal' and I suppose didn't want people to think of me as 'crazy' so I've hidden it very well.

Inside I can be screaming but I'd never let the person know.

Pagwatch · 25/11/2014 11:58

Crikey, I would never equate my baby with a phone. Not least because I don't own my baby. My baby is a person I am trying to bring up in the world with confidence, love and empathy. Phones don't need to be socialised. Especially not my phone. He's a shithead.

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks · 25/11/2014 12:00

Pag but you kind of DO own them until they're actually able to move about independently. You're all they have. It's not quite the same as owning but certainly you're their guardian.

My DC are very sociable and confident but I never encouraged strangers to touch them.

Pagwatch · 25/11/2014 12:02

We'll have to agree to disagree Claw . I do respect your feelings. I'm just arguing the principle and I'm boring myself now. Grin

We could shake on it but I might be pushing my luck, a fist bump maybe ..
Grin

Pagwatch · 25/11/2014 12:03

Yikes - I mean principle as in ' I feel really strongly about this' which i do. not as in 'I'm just being argumentative'

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks · 25/11/2014 12:05

I feel the same Pag Grin

(offers fist for bump but not baby for kiss]

Grin
marnia68 · 25/11/2014 12:17

I agree with Pag too.

marnia68 · 25/11/2014 12:19

Tiny babies can't turn or give subtle signs

I think tiny babies can give a sign loud and clear whenthey don't like something! But tiny babies do like human touch.Touch is the way they experience the world

ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks · 25/11/2014 12:23

Yes they like SOME human touch. But not all.

Pagwatch · 25/11/2014 12:30
Grin
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