To have written these people a snotagram?

[rosegarden23]

I have recently passed the former house of a friend who passed away seven years ago. This friend was retired and loved her garden. The young couple that bought it have let it go to wrack and ruin. Its a corner plot with a lot of hedge which clearly hasn't been cut in the last couple of months, the lawn needs a good mow and the roses have been left to their own devices. I am so upset that the garden is in this state that I have written an anonymous note letting them know how disgusted I am and posted it to them. I told a mutual friend that I had done this and they think I have overreacted. What do you think?

My garden used to be lovely when the DCs were small and I was a SAHM. I went back to work full-time, the DCs had lots of hobbies and eventually we had elderly parents to look after and just didn't have time for it. DH is not into gardening. We cut the lawns, did minimal weeding and that was it. Probably the neighbours and people passing were really disappointed at the decline but I would have been really enraged to get an anonymous letter through the door. I am now retired and working on getting it back in shape.

Your garden, your life, your priorities, OP - just ignore.

Apologies. I missed your update.

Bloody hate reverse threads.

Got to say that I absolutely hate reverses. You would have got our support if you've posted what had happened because that's horrid and cowardly behaviour by the anonymous note writer. It's just that I always feel that I've been made a complete fool of when someone does a reverse.

However, take no nonsense of this bonkers person. It's not her business how you keep your garden and certainly, you shouldn't be made to feel bad about it.

Oh let the old (only my mother sends actual letters now) witch live with herself and concentrate on your new family!

I'm angry for you!

this thread has reminded me of the time my grandma (who lived 40 miles away from my parents) died. Her house was empty for a few weeks, as my dad (her son) was at the final stages of terminal cancer and my mum who didnt drive anyway was a tad busy looking after him.. my grans neighbours knew this, yet felt it necessary to ring my mum to complain about the weeds growing and the fact that the front garden was untidy..

I got in from work to find my mum in floods of tears trying to work out how to get someone to look after my dad while she got two trains and a bus to get to my grandmas house to tidy the garden..

I resisted the urge to go there myself and punch the bitch in the face, but I didnt hold back on phoning her and telling her exactly what I thought..

Oh you poor thing what a nasty shithead that person was to go out of their way to harass someone. Think about it, how shitty would your life have to be to actually go to the effort of criticising someone you don't know for something that actually has no effect on your life?

Mow " fuck off" into the lawn

You have no idea what is going on in their lives. How rude

Was about to burst into print then saw this is a reverse.

I was going to advise the letter writers to tend their own garden in honour of their deceased friend, as what the new owners of the garden choose to do with it is up to them.... or rather, you, as it turns out.

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

My grandparents lived in a beautiful Cotswold stone cottage. My grandfather was a professional gardener, the garden was immaculate always, as was the house. My gran sold the house after my grandfather died suddenly. The new owner let the house go to wrack and ruin, the garden was overgrown, the greenhouses all smashed up, it was a real sorry state. It upset me the once I went past, but I accepted it wasn't their house anymore and just enjoy my memories of it.

When you have time for the garden you'll do it if you want to. It's not any one else's business.

A better way to deal with this might have been to plant a rose in their own garden in memory of their dear friend. What a shame they couldn't come up with something a little more appropriate.

Some people really have nothing to do with their lives, they really don't.

Since you don't have their names, then short of sticking up a sign in your garden saying "small child and 7 mos pregnant, if it bothers you that much put your shovel where you mouth is and do it for me" there's not much you can do.

People can be disgustingly precious about this sort of thing. They're happy enough to take money for "their" gardens and houses, though!

As for "friends" getting up on someone else's behalf (especially a dead someone else), whoever wrote that note was narcissistic and fucking rude.

Parent of our next-door neighbour complained about the state of our front garden once - in fairness it was a mess, we had a lot of building work done so it was home to a skip for several weeks, once that was gone the early birth of our dts kind of took up a wee bit of our time & lawn went bit mad. Told her we were actually growing a wild flower meadow as it was far better for the environment - that went down well.
At least she had the good grace to knock on my door to enquire, as yours were so cowardly they had to do it anonymously there isn't a lot you can do. But hold onto the thought that you have other far more important things to prioritise and everybody's garden looks shit at this time of year!

Seriously sweet fa to do with you. I hope they haven't got serious issues as to why its like this, could be final straw.

My grass needs cutting, garden front and back need attention. Hope the people who used to live here dont send me a weird letter.

Is this a reverse?

Unfortunately horticulture attracts a certain type of old bitch busy body I have found over the years, I'm a gardener and garden designer and my garden is a shit tip.

Ignore the silly bint or bloke !

Op they are fuckwitts. Try and forget it. Get dh to create a big up your arse finger with the bush i am not pregnant but have 4 dcs the youngest being nearly 2, the garden is low down my list of priorities right now.

I'm not sure why you chose to write this as a reverse OP.

Nobody would think you were unreasonable to feel upset about an anonymous note. And you probably would have had some decent advice on how to deal with it.

I agree with PPs.

A hedge cut in to a finger and FUCK OFF mowed in to your lawn should do it.

This would be good