To ask this question?

[Justanothermummyof3]

I was wondering what is the average amount a parent spends per child on Christmas presents? Me and dh don't seem to beable to agree on this and children seem to always end up with to much. This year we have cut back a bit and budgeted for £500 main presents and around £75 stocking, is this out of control?????????

Yes. Yabu.
I think its distasteful to pose such a question tbh. You're describing a reasonably generous budget imho. For some ppl this will be modest but for many it would be out of reach.
Its like asking how much you should spend on your house.
Ppl spend what they can afford and that varies a great deal.

Nancy75 thank you for your understanding, the was my dh as a child. In fact it was worse really hisother is.pure evil. She would ask him what he wanted buy it, show it him and then take it back to the shops before Xmas came and he was left sitting there Xmas morning with nothing year after year. He doesn't want our children to ever feel like that and that doesn't make him a bad person
And yes my dd dooes have all those things but there not to entertain her, she is very active in fact and is ranked nationally in her sport. She uses the Tablet for school as she has poor vision and can increase text size without feeling different.

And the laptop for a similar reason for homework and everyday use at school.

I would never spend £500 (with the one-off exception of when they are about 16-17 and needed a laptop or driving lessons.

This year, aged 17 and 16, they are probably having around £75 spent on them on a main present, plus £25 or so on stockings.

£500 is a lot for an 8-year-old. And having all that stuff in her room will not help her sleep or, when she's older, concentrate on her homework.

There's not many people who can say their dh does a 15 hour shift then WANTS TO come home, bath dc read their school books with them and tuck them into bed

Um...I can.

Your DH is absolutely over compensating for his shitty childhood. Do your children want for anything??

But I'm sure you and dh have the best of intentions and it will be lovely.
Have a great Christmas.

How about getting them some:

Books, paints, pens, pastels, paper, scrap booking stuff, sketchbooks, craft bits, glue, fimo, fabric, sewing machine, camera, photography book, outdoor play centre, magazine sub, tickets to something, merln pass

It was the line about Netflix in the bedroom. No-one who actually did that would admit it. OP looking to stir "a heated debate" me thinks.

This year we've probably spent £100 on main presents in his Santa sack, £20 on stocking presents and £100 on Christmas treats (for all of us). Treats are gruffalo theatre show and Santa steam train.
He's only 2 though.

5DC.Supposed to be spending £350 on each child on presents and then up to £30 each on stockings.But I'll probably go over that.I'm awful at Christmas and Birthdays as well.

For what it's worth I had an horrendous childhood as well,some of it was because of family,some because of other people.I also had an horrendous time as a young adult because of two exs of mine.

I know I do it to compensate for all the awful things I went through,but for what it's worth it's helped heal some of the damage done to my inner child over the years.And our 5DC aren't spoiled because of it they're some of the most generous and grounded young people you could ever meet.

I think you're right, EmilyGilmore. This is a wind-up.

I spend a tenner per child. More if they have been good. Why spoil them?

Silly that your dh working four hours extra to pay for xmas presents for one day. absolutely ridiculous.

I am sure the children would prefer time over gifts. they are young as well. frivolous.

I don't believe you and think this has to be a wind-up! We spend about fifty pounds on a main present and between ten and twenty on stocking. We do have four children though.

Ds is getting about £100 spent on him this year, and that's pushing it. All he's asked for are a couple of xbox games which are £35 each, and getting him a few bits and bobs to bulk it out a bit.

I don't buy my DD christmas presents. She gets enough from family and friends.

You can buy stuff and do other stuff too, dd gets a lot for Xmas that doesn't mean we don't spend time with her - I don't understand why people connect the 2 things

Thanks for all the thoughts and for your information is not a wind up. We have Netflix in the front room and for the one subscription can have it on multiple devices. I have not mentioned what we are buying them or listed what we have already bought for them. Was Purley asking a question, and that was do adults that experienced a bad childhood over compensate with their own children. I was lucky growing up and had 2 loving parents and a secure home. Where as dh didn't, and would be left on social services doorstep when ever is mother had a new boyfriend and would disappear for weeks on end, being moved from one foster home to. Another. I don't see how this has got so out of control. I have found the negative comments very rude and unfounded as you don't know me or dh. Making negative comments towards us as parents is one thing but to bring my 8 year old daughter into things is insensitive and rude. I have not made one negative comment about any of you or your children. My daughter is a wonderful and talented little girl that both her dad and I cherish dearly. She is visually impaired and needs certain things like tablets and laptops to stay in mainstream school, we are being good parents for providing these things for her to help her achieve the best she possibly can. And I will not sit here and be knocked for it. She struggles with things others take for granted but doesn't give up and as a result achieves things I thought would never be possible for her, as I said before she is ranked nationally for her sport.

I am sorry OP if you are genuine, but this bonkers. Your kids will be spoilt and ave no idea of the value of money.

I don't think anyone has made a negative comment about your DD have they ?

Your DH does not have to make up for his dreadful childhood for his children. They are having a wonderful childhood with two loving parents.

I have been known to go overboard on my children, but nowhere near your level.

There really will be nowhere to go with this in a couple of years. Do the overtime by all means, but put 75% in a savings account for them. They'll really appreciate that in a few years' time.

And what you asked is "is this spending out of control"
A lot of posters said yes. AIBU is not for people who just want posters to agree with them.

I understand they will end up spoilt hence why I asked the question. But people still do not have the right to put my little girl down, they don't know her and tbh I'm really offended. She has done nothing to deserve that, I thought this was place where you were not judged and could.get advice.