Was this teacher rude and should I say something?

[farendofafart]

As I met my DD out of school today her teacher made a beeline for me and said in an authoratitative manner (which is her usual manner to be fair), "Can I ask you not to send DD to school again wearing the coat you've been sending her in?"

I was totally perplexed as her coat is a completely ordinary, plain, padded winter coat, brand new last month.

It turns out that the zip has been causing problems (although I wasn't aware of this and it hasn't caused me any problems) and DD has "missed 40 minutes of her education today because of time spent with three adults trying to get her out of her coat."

Whilst I understand this must have been super annoying for her teacher, I can't help thinking her approach with me was unnecessarily rude. Added to the fact that I am a single parent on benefits at the moment (which her teacher should know as DD is on FSM) and I cannot afford a new coat at a moment's notice.

I'm quite prepared to be told I'm BU. I'm a bit hormonal and life is a bit of a struggle right now so it could just be me being over sensitive.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

[Xenadog]

I'm a teacher and wouldn't dream of speaking to a parent in that way; she sounds plain rude.

Find out what's the matter with the zip. Get it sorted. Ignore this woman's poor social skills.

[Perspective21]

batman , I'm really not believing that you're a teacher, that piece of writing has so many errors. If you are a teacher, I'm hoping you don't teach my children, although you do sound very kind.

Back to the OP, sounds like a bit of an overestimation of the time involved at school, but stuck coat zips are a pain! Speaking as an ex TA and a parent of a DD who did once panic horribly when stuck in her coat (fortunately, she was out with me). Good luck

[JeromeSqualor]

it took three adults 40 minutes to undo a zip?
and these people are teaching our children? scary!
but no do not say anything it will just make you sound stroppy or whatever.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

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[Trickydecision]

Jerome, if the lining was stuck in the teeth, perhaps they were taking great care not to damage the coat.

I prefer teachers who can write correct English even if they do find stuck zips challenging.

[JeromeSqualor]

well if you can find me one of those tricky that would be lovely

[OnlyLovers]

I think she was unnecessarily rude. Her manner needs looking at and changing, IMO.

I'd ignore. If it happens again face her down: 'Please could you watch your tone?' or similar.

[KurriKurri]

My God - 3 members of staff, 40 minutes to get a child out of a coat? - I have visions of your poor DD standing amongst hysterical staff members shrieking 'we'll never get her out, shall we call the fire brigade?'

Ignore the rude teacher (she sounds like a pompous moo), make yourself some cash by sending your story to Take a Break 'My daughter's 40 minutes of hell stuck in a coat, surrounded by loons'

All those suggesting OP buys a new coat clearly live on Planet Unreality. Newsflash, some folk can;t afford to buy multiple items of expensive clothing just because some snooty teacher was too inept to get a kid out of a coat. (I used to be a teacher, I would never have spoken to a parent like that or embarrassed a child in that manner when handing her over. I would have dealt with the situation and put it down to one of the everyday normal hazards of kids and clothes. And maybe pointed it out politely so you could run a bit of wax or pencil over the zip)