To ask when your child could wipe their own bottom?

[Writerwannabe83]

I popped in to see my auntie earlier as her Godson was there (who I've known a few years) as it's his 6th birthday in a few days and I wanted to pop his present round.

Whilst I was there he asked to go to the toilet and when he hadn't reappeared after a few minutes she called up to him to check he was ok. He shouted down that he'd had a poo so could she go up. She told me that he doesn't know how to clean himself and every time he has a poo the adult has to wipe his bottom for him.

I asked her if she meant that he tries to do it himself and then the adult checks to see he has done it properly but she said no, he just sits on the toilet and waits for the adult to do it for him.

This child doesn't have any additional needs by the way.

I was a bit shocked that a 6 year old can't wipe their own bottom. Or am I being naive and this is in fact quite typical??

It makes no odds to me but if it is the norm then I need to prepare DH as he makes a song and dance about changing DS's dirty nappies I think I should let him know that he's in it for the long haul

Sola - yes basically.
Once they could sit with help I put them on toilet at bath times ( prob approx 4-7 months). Then once sitting well I put on at every nappy change if near a toilet ( approx 7-12 month). By 12 months they walked and would begin to crawl/ walk to toilet if they needed. Gradually developed to fully trained.

We brought a babybjorn toilet seat after few months, so prob around 10 months also. It's good as goes on regular toilet, adjusts so doesn't wobble, and higher at front at most than most so no boy wee over the top!

Oh we had a step also once they started getting on and off toilet themselves

I really hate potties as think very unhygienic and just another step to then have to train out of

my 4 year old has just started doing it herself.
One of my cousins (no SN) was still getting his mum into the toilet at 11 years old. whether to check or wipe I don't know.