People who public Facebook message their partners etc

[Peppasavedmylife]

I may be a dinosaur, but why do so many people I know on FB wish their partner, who they live with and see every day, happy birthday etc on their public walls? Usually with lots of lovey dovey stuff and nicknames...my db did this to his wife recently and I know that they were both in their living room at the time of him posting, and her replying. Is it an attention/insecurity thing, or am I just too private/boring?!

I think some people feel validated by the notion of having an audience.
Isn't that just another way of saying some people are show-offs?

I don't see the big deal.

My husband had fb for like a week and hated it. I might make a post on his birthday saying it is his birthday and what plans we have, if any.

Friends who aren't quite close enough to remember or send cards etc might wish him a happy birthday. I pass the messages onto him.

Not really a big deal.

I also post when it is my children's birthdays.

I only have people on my FB though who like me because I assume people won't friend me if they don't actually care to read what I have to say.

I think some people have FB just so they can moan and feel superior about how they do FB 'properly' and everyone else are just annoying and show offs.

I use FB to document every day life. I like looking back at old posts of mine.

Every time threads like these come up I always wonder what amazing things they have to say on FB themselves. FB is about the boring day to day shit, talking about what is going on in your life. Not everyone uses it that way, but to get annoyed when other people do is stupid and they should either be more picky with who they friend or use the unfriend button.

its ridiculous and embarrassing

I know one couple who did this a lot - sharing lame quote pictures about 'love' and tagging each other in them, photos of bunches of flowers with cpations about being 'spolit rotten', all that kind of bollocks.

Turned out the bloke was having an affair with a work colleague. Funnily enough, the lovey dovey shit has stopped (although it has been replaced with shit like 'if you hurt someone, it will take time to forgive etc).

I put this sort of carry on in the same lame ass league as the 'share this picture if you love your daughter' crap - do people truly believe that if you don't share this stuff, people will think you don't love our kids/husband/dog/pet gerbil?

FB is about the boring day to day shit, talking about what is going on in your life.

Oh no, you must be my friend who posts things like '3rd lot of laundry for the day hung up, now for a cup of tea'. Or 'spent the morning declittering the utility room'. That is NOT what Facebook is for. Even those who only use FB for strictly worthy reasons like keeping in contact with family who live in Antarctica or whatever, shouldn't be using Facebook in this way. It should be illegal to Facebook about housework!

My FB is full of hilariously witty statuses and photos that the world definitely wants to see. Obviously.

No, I'm not like your friend. Never mentioned my laundry or cup of teas or housework.

Although I did post on DD's wall on her birthday to wish her happy birthday. It reminded a few of her classmates to wish her happy birthday (she has massive self esteem issues).

Completely agree with people saying the couples who do the OTT Facebooking are probably masking something.

I have one DF who always gushes about her DH on Facebook, it is pretty nauseating and other friends and I do have a gentle giggle about it to each other. Sad thing is in reality she annoys the hell out of him and he has a bit of a wandering eye - he's friends with my DP so I probably know more than most. She's basically desperate for attention as he doesn't give her any.

I think the reason "people get upset about Facebook" is that no-one likes being lied to. As for why a relationship is anyone's business but the couple's, well, don't wedding guests serve as witnesses to the union?

Just because I witnessed my friends getting married, doesn't mean I want to witness non stop soppyness. Seems attention seeking and insecure to post that sort of thing constantly. It's such a waste of my time wading through all the private yet public soppy messages just to get to proper news and humorous items. Save it for private texts/emails/phone calls instead please

It's a public space - of course people are going to use it to send messages to their partners. They wouldn't want to be sending messages to humourless people who go around judging them on how they communicate with their loved ones.

"Also, and this makes me a cow, but when a friend lost her dog recently (it had ran away) she posted on fb "doggies name, if you are reading this please come home" whilst I felt very sad for her losing her dog, it did make me giggle at the thought of her dog sat in the park with a group of mates checking fb with a can of lager or something "

DH refuses to use FB. If he did we wouldn't be doing luvvy duvvy stuff in public. We do spend a lot of time apart, so we use (radical - not) email to keep in touch. I occasionally show him things that people have posted, and fortunately I don't have any FB friends who do this.

When my DH is away I just text or email or phone. Why would I want everyone reading my private messages to him?

We use text, Phone, email and Skype when apart. I don't understand why FB is considered any better for two individuals who want to keep in touch privately.

I'll happily tag him in my photos, comment on his photos and send him a simple happy birthday message if he's away. But why would I FB him lots of lovely dovey romantic stuff publicly?

I find it a bit cringeworthy, same as other very public displays of affection, but I tend to think, well I can always unfollow them, it's my choice to read it or not. I never really thought of FB as being something to look back on and keep a record of your life, I only use it to chat really, avoid personal info such as birthdays and I never "speak" to DH on there, but each to their own.

DH put on about our wedding anniversary with all pictures of our wedding and some awful sentimental bleeurgh. I was mortified and didn't reply to it! There were loads of other people posting on his wall in response.

When I asked him about it he just laughed so he probably did it partly to wind me up. He doesn't have the same middle class sensibilities as I do either - not so much of a snob about these things.

Facebook is most definitely a created façade but we're all guilty of it, whatever we post.

you amaze me.... you do what you want on fb and i'll do what i want, but if my posts offend you, then feel free to delete me.

i have no problem wishing my DH happy birthday on his birthday because ....ITS A NICE THING TO DO

Bestsy003 & Bunbakerexactly

For those who are saying just delete or block. Not so simple, they could be good mates who share your lives in other ways but its just this aspect you don't want to see of their lives, the oversharing of personal stuff.

I too hate the "share if you support xyz or are against xyx, post this for an hour & I'll know you care" crap makes me feel guilty but I don't want to post sanctimonious rubbish thanks!

I'd quite like a friend who posted about their third load of washing and cup of tea. At least it would be about them (which is who I am interested in). Much better than hundreds of "cute" unrelated baby/cat/dog pictures that get shared, or advert sharing or irritating quotes that people share all the time. I don't mind a quote, but if you post one everyday it has no meaning. If a friend who rarely shared a quote shared one, I would actually read and take notice.

Facebook should be about friends actual lives IMO, not for spam sharing.

It's about the balance though, either you put up with the bits you don't like in order to keep up with the stuff you do, or hide them and accept you might miss out a bit if too many of their posts are irritating. I tend to just ignore the soppy stuff, but sometimes I think it's quite sweet.

cool her birthday will always be her birthday long after she is gone, I mch prefer to remember my dad's birthday than the day he died. I don't post about it on Facebook but we always do something on the day because he loved birthdays and its a positive way to remember him.

Love it when couples I don't know very well have public rows on fb. Popcorn time! Yes I know thats shameful to admit

It has an air of protesting too much

Yes.

It is toe-curlingly attention-seeking.