People who public Facebook message their partners etc

[Peppasavedmylife]

I may be a dinosaur, but why do so many people I know on FB wish their partner, who they live with and see every day, happy birthday etc on their public walls? Usually with lots of lovey dovey stuff and nicknames...my db did this to his wife recently and I know that they were both in their living room at the time of him posting, and her replying. Is it an attention/insecurity thing, or am I just too private/boring?!

Because if you don't reveal to all your 'friends' the existence of your hope that your husband/son/mother/ dog experiences a happy birthday then maybe it doesn't happen? Or maybe you are wishing it harder? You are really committed to this happy birthday wish, unlike some lame arse that just says it with the words to the actual person.

Or maybe it's just FB competitive attention seeking 'I love my husband considerably more that you, don't you wish you were a bit more like me?' nonsense.

A lovely friend of mine veers between arguing with her DP on Facebook and posting love and kisses.

I roll my eyes but at least they are both in FB.

The one I don't get is the woman who wishes happy birthday to her DH and best friend neither of whom are on Facebook.

But you know there are worse things it could be cat pictures

I have been known to FB my children when they're upstairs supposedly asleep. Then something pops up in my newsfeed that they've just posted, which invariably elicits the response of "GO TO SLEEP - NOW!". Followed by the wifi being switched off for 20 mins while the message sinks in.

Saves clumping up the stairs or bellowing, both of which are likely to wake the neighbours.

KingJoffrey - even if you aren't with your DH would you really wish them a happy birthday through Facebook?

Probably not. I'd just say it.

my brother does this...princess wifey this, princess darling that, love of my life, always yours

ffs gives me the boak.

I send dh stupid dog photos.....and I think that is a bit edgy.

edgy in a dodgy unnecessary sort of way, not in a dangerous, typically edgy, MI5 kind of way.

YANBU. That kind of carry-on is deeply lame and wankerish.

If you don't like it then I suggest you get off FB.

Miserable fuckers.

carpetcrawler miserable fuckers v's saddo attention seeking twats FBing from the same house ?

Myearhurts you are so right!!! In my experience the more lovely dovey a couple is on fb the greater the chance of a huge bust up.

Sit back & watch

Carpet but FB is so useful.

It gives me a wonderful and unique insight into those on my newsfeed.

Several people I though were quite nice in RL were helpfully revealed to be arses via FB.

I don't mind the Happy Birthday thing as that's quite par for the course but dh's cousin and his wife are so lovely lovely with "I have the best wifey/hubby/daughters in the world because...". It's usually followed by they made tea or ran a bath, all mundane stuff.

However his other cousin is the worst, she messages her bf constantly with crap and when he doesn't reply coz he's at work she then dumps him by Facebook, they then argue and then make up again all on Facebook. He then has to post that he's a shit to live with and she's an angel, he's so lucky to have her.

So why have then on your FB?

Do you want to appear popular with your 400000 FB Friends?

With your witty, intelligent status updates.

Sil does this all the time I ended up hiding her wall when she fell pregnant as I knew that every 30 seconds a post would appear about every cm her bump grew and how wonderful her hubz is
bil im thankfully takes after all the other men in the family and is fairly quiet and unassuming so we don't get double vom posts.

I love dp south I make myself vomit sometimes and we have our own little private jokes and things but I don't need to put them all over Facebook.

The only couples I know who do it are the ones with volatile relationships. It's overcompensating IMO and so bloody obvious to everyone who knows them. It makes
me cringe.

I get a notification when it's someones birthday on fb, so I wish them Happy Birthday on their page.

I get the same notification for dh and will leave a Happy Birthday on his wall. I do it for everyone else, i'd feel weird if I didn't do it for dh.

Most of those kind of messages are compensating for something, and/or claim-staking, imo. Something that feels genuine to both/all parties needs no declaration.

Carpet

You appear to be taking this all very... seriously

However, to answer your question I have never cared about popularity, do not have 400,000 FB friends but yes do attempt to post with reasonable intelligence. Wit or lack thereof is for others to judge.

It's a shame all your lovely friends are not as clever as you then .

The thing I don't understand is when people post when out on a date night or whatnot - especially if you are friends with both people in the couple and see they are both doing it, complete with pics of food etc. It makes me wonder about how good of a time they are actually having, as when I'm out and enjoying myself I'm too busy talking to even consider logging online.

One word: sheep.

Isn't it up to people what they do and don't post on their own FB wall? Doesn't bother me if they want to wish their DH or DW a happy birthday. I don't understand these FB moans....just unfriend/block or hide them if you don't want to see things...its very easy to do that you know.

These are the sort of reasons I don't have a FB account.

Carpet I'm not sure why you are trying to have an argument with me. There is nothing to argue about, I'm just participating in a happy little thread about the mildly entertaining nonsense that is Facebook.

For clarification though I didn't say that my FB friends weren't clever. I just said that some of them have an amusing tendency to over share and that a few if them have turned out to be arses. The two things are not connected. You were the one who brought intelligence into the discussion, not me...

That and the joy of telling people I don't have a FB and watching them faint.