To strangle this friendship before it starts?

[Montegomongoose]

I'm on holiday and was at a nice lunch yesterday given by an acquaintance at which I met a woman.

She'd brought a dish which was pretty nice so I asked her for the recipe. It also transpired she's moving to the UK, fairly near me, in 2015.

All fine. Except that this afternoon she dropped by to give me the typed-out recipe which included her own 'Tasting Notes.'

Which made reference to 'complex flavours' and 'after notes.'

AIBU to leave without calling to arrange to meet up next year? Is she a complete tool or is this remotely redeemable?

We are falling about reading it like Autralian Mastechef.

It's a pasta* dish FFS.

*Please read as 'paaahstar'

Yep, show us the recipe OP and I will add my own tasting notes, just as soon as I figure out what they are.

"Like a tramp on chips".

How old are you Kimber because you sound about 14. I honestly thought we could at least expect more subtle and intelligent insults here on MN. This place really is going to the dogs.

Oh my God. You're just like this other woman. The irony. This woman took herself overly seriously and assumed she was much more interesting, authoritative and informed than she was. You have posted this on Mumsnet assuming you are much wittier, interesting and entertaining than you are.

Anything she did which was worthy of laughing at you have done x 10 by posting this. You've just done exactly the same thing. Assuming that your up yourself views are endlessly scintillating to people who couldn't really give a shit what you think.

Why respond if you don't give a shit?

Fanjo I wasn't referring to you, I was refering to the OP. And no, I don't give a shit what she thinks. She sounds like a grown woman who's never been able to develop beyond the level of spiteful playground bullying. I didn't comment because I gave a shit about what she thought, I commented because I give a shit about people who are on the end of this sort of nasty vindictive behaviour.

I know. I just wondered.

Personally I think the OP has received FAR more vitriol than was warranted for the OP and I wonder why posters feel the need to add to it. I will be interested to see at what point it's decided she's been berated enough.

Nicki I actually think it's a bloody good thing that people are prepared to challenge this sort of behaviour. So it's okay to mock someone on a website millions of people read without their consent, but it's wrong to challenge someone when they do that and actually invite comment? The recipe writer did something kind but it's okay to mock her however the OPs spiteful little post should be above criticism? Odd logic. Why should the woman the OP refers to be fair game, but the OP should be handled with kid gloves? Taste of your own medicine springs to mind.

No I didn't say any of that. I wondered how long the OP would need to be berated for? After all we have reached over 130 posts and still posters (yourself) felt they needed to dish out further tellings off too. Makes me think it's more about them wanting to Have Their Say. At what point has the OP been told off enough?

Well thankfully Nicki I don't need your approval on how or how not intelligent my posts are and whether or not I'm allowed to post what I want.

I am thankful that I have my mind open to the fact that people from different backgrounds, views and education use this forum so I don't feel the need to climb up on my pedestal and hand out judgement.

This thread is bonkers.

No you certainly don't need my approval but as you say, I am certainly entitled to give my opinion. And don't try and guilt me by referring to levels of educations etc, it's nothing to do with that. It was an unnecessarily nasty insult towards Fanjo. Might I suggest you don't dish them out if you don't like being challenged or having opinions expressed on them?

Is it just me that thinks OP went for lunch with our very own LaQueen?

Giving out unnecessarily nasty insults to other unnecessarily nasty insults seems rather pointless to me. Vicious circle kind of thing.

Maybe thats the real reason MN is going to the dogs?

Could be but I didn't give out any unnecessarily nasty insults.

Hi there...

Oh, I love that man.

We're not sure we like the bake on these buns to be honest . Let's have a bit more peace and love please folks. Thanking you.

You guys need a piece of this.

at Quints. I'm the one twirling in the background.

I'm a bit at your assumption that she wants to be your friend.

The peace and love flounced, sadly

Some people's buns were a bit bitter

I would rather be the motorbike in that music video....

I think the time to decide that the OP has had "enough" of a trouncing might be when she starts to show any signs of being upset by it. So far all she's done is giggle along with those insulting her, and goad them to greater feats. It's all bravado, of course, but still - by all the available evidence she's hardly rolling on the floor crying Uncle right at this moment; she's enjoying the thread more than anyone else.