To strangle this friendship before it starts?

[Montegomongoose]

I'm on holiday and was at a nice lunch yesterday given by an acquaintance at which I met a woman.

She'd brought a dish which was pretty nice so I asked her for the recipe. It also transpired she's moving to the UK, fairly near me, in 2015.

All fine. Except that this afternoon she dropped by to give me the typed-out recipe which included her own 'Tasting Notes.'

Which made reference to 'complex flavours' and 'after notes.'

AIBU to leave without calling to arrange to meet up next year? Is she a complete tool or is this remotely redeemable?

We are falling about reading it like Autralian Mastechef.

It's a pasta* dish FFS.

*Please read as 'paaahstar'

Jfc, I can't believe the responses to this.

To add "tasting notes" to a pasta recipe printed from a website is so incredibly pretentious and ludicrous!

Maybe if she was Heston Blumenthal's protégé and it was an incredibly complex dish she had invented herself then I could understand it, but she just sounds like a knobber.

Aeroflit girl I am sorry to spoil your opportunity for righteous indignation but the OP said it's how she and her husband were pronouncing pasta, as a joke, not how the woman pronounced it.

*aeroflotgirl sorry. New phone

Please don't spoil opportunities for righteous indignation Fanjo. It's the glue that binds us all together.

Where has all the fun gone.
I am going to bang my head on a wall for an hour I think

Surely you didn't need tasting notes because you'd already tasted it? The TNs would ring alarm bells for me too. I wouldnt rule out friendship altogether but I would proceed with caution.

Yes sorry Malkie

The OP was mocking the woman's accent in a racist way. And is a big bully

Perhaps the recipe was from a book and she included the tasting notes from said book. I might do that if I thought you were interested.

I'm afraid that you do sound a bit mean. Using the phrase "pretty nice" makes it sound like you were patting her on the head and being a bit patronising and you did say "we" which makes it sound like a group of school girls laughing at the weird kid.

"I remember when a thread like this would be fun "

Yep. Me too gin

Yeah, why would you need tasting notes on something you had already eaten? Did she not think your palate was refined enough and she needed to tell you what you were tasting?!

Hilarious and pretentious.

"tasting notes are odd"

Not if you have poor memory, and you need pointers to what the dish tastes like. It is something I could have put on, especially if the dish seemed rather common and could easily be confused with other similar dishes.

I do that with wines too. Otherwise I am not able to remember which wines I like.

And you, OP, sound both ignorant, immature and lacking in empathy.

If I was that woman, spare me your "friendship", I would not want to even try tolerate some single-minded mono lingual dogooder who mimicked and laughed at my accent.

I don't think I have the same sense of humour as others on this thread.

Yes, laughing at foreigners speaking English is always such a fun and worthy pastime. Especially as there are too many of them bastards here.

She didn't laugh at foreigners speaking English. I believe she merely pronounced pasta in the manner of a TV chef.

This is like Chinese whispers in a thread.

She didn't laugh at her accent!

Jeeze Louise.

Who is this Mabey people keep referring to?

Sometimes I add comments to recipes in my recipe books. I just don't call them tasting notes.

Is that OK or does that make me a pretentious knobber?

I'd give her a wide berth personally.
I hate pretension.

Bunbaker

There's a difference between "nice but needs more basil and Parmesan" and "complex after notes"

I'd be the same op.

complex flavours

after-notes

ffs, it's PASTA! not some angels breath infused je ne sais quois in a unicorn piss jus

I don't actually give a toss but it's worth remembering OP to always know your audience before recounting humorous tales.

It depends what your comments say and if you keep them to yourself.

If it's something like "use half the amount of rosemary. don't serve with garlic bread" then sure whatever, that's fine.

If you write something like "the robust and deep smoke of the Lombardian pancetta melds stunningly with the emotions of parmesan... you will taste the complex vibrance of the pink peppercorns and the fresh burst of the herb bouquet on the tip of your tongue" on a recipe printed from the internet then you are a pretentious knobber.

and I just realised that the OP was the only one who says Paaaahstaaa.

I blame the gin

so no mocking of a supposed forriner here, only her odd tasting notes.

Don't worry fanjo, poor woman. I know a lady similar to op 'friend', she is lovely, really nice lady.