IWBU but by how much?-waiting in a disabled space?

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Mitigating circumstances:
Waiting for a family member who has recently had serious surgery and can't walk far, or stand for long and isn't supposed to be out in the cold/wet to come out of the doctors
I knew she was on her way out so would only be there a few minutes at most
The only other available spaces were on the other side of the car park
There is no designated waiting or pick up area, and narrow lanes/one way round the car park meant nowhere to pull over and wait without blocking any other drivers
There was more than one disabled space so I wasn't depriving anyone of the ability to park
I waited in the car and would have seen if the other spaces became in use and would have moved to allow a bb holder to park in mine if need be

I pulled into the BB space as it seemed the most sensible thing to do at the time, but in the maybe 2 or 3 minutes I was there (same song was still playing on the radio) 3 people came past and gave me dirty looks. So how unreasonable was I to have used the BB space to pick up my family member?

Walking are you here for any purpose other than to be goady? Your very first post said that you use the spaces and dont care what anyone thinks, and you are still trying to argue your point - which is what exactly? That you dont care how selfish you are being? Well message received, we ALL got that, loud and clear.

Don't attempt to draw me into the "worst disability olympics", I'm not biting. My coping without one involved not leaving the house.

Your very first post said that you use the spaces and dont care what anyone thinks

That's a lie misleading. No, I don't 'use' the spaces at all. Using them would mean i'm preventing someone with a BB from using a space. Which I have never done.

Why do you need to twist what I've said? I get that you want to make me out to be a nasty, selfish cunt, but i'm really not. Can you not debate with actual facts or quotes, without posting something completely out of context. It is tiring but frustrating, which I suppose is why I keep getting drawn in.

WalkingInMemphis Sat 08-Nov-14 10:14:25
I have waited in a disabled spot a few times, and for no good reason tbh - other than it's closest to the store if dh nips in for instance.

I'd only do it if there is more than one space free. For anyone that comes along needing one there is still a space left so I really don't see any harm in it. I wouldn't particularly care about any dirty looks either.

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WalkingInMemphis Sat 08-Nov-14 10:38:51
Walking You are normalising unacceptable behaviour by being in a disabled space without a badge. And that makes it worse for every disabled person. Do you really not care about that?

I'll answer that honestly and open myself up for an ear bashing.

For my particular actions - not parking, but waiting, with the engine running, whilst there are many other disabled spaces available - no, I don't care. It's not something i'll lose sleep over, not something I see as a problem, and it's something I will probably do again.

"Using them" just means parking in them, there's no extra part to using something that means you're only considered to be using it if it prevents someone else from using it.

Your own words were, "I have waited in a disabled spot a few times, and for no good reason tbh - other than it's closest to the store if dh nips in for instance."

There's no misleading. You use the spaces. Just because there's other empty spaces doesn't mean your not using it.

And I can't believe I'm having such a stupid conversation. It's like you're deliberately trying to stir it up.

What's your point? I have never prevented a BB holder from using a space. Fact.

So, really, what is the actual problem?

It's like you're deliberately trying to stir it up

My opinion exactly. And i have reported it to hq, so perhaps we should just disengage.

You might have.

Fact.

People have pointed out not all disabled spaces are created equally and that while they might seem all the same some are preferred over others.

Your very first post said that you use the spaces and dont care what anyone thinks

This^ implies that i'm parking in them, locking the car and merrily fucking off. Which I don't. And why I said IMO i'm not 'using' them.

You can debate the word use till the cows come home. That wasn't my point - my point was what I posted below.

I have never prevented a BB holder from using a space. I've never 'taken one up' that was needed. So how this makes me the biggest bitch ever is beyond me.

You're right Beyond.

Plus I'm sitting here whispering FACT to myself and giggling so it's clearly time I got some sleep.

FACT.

Clearly.

@ walking

FACT. @o0

Seriously, what's with the reporting?

I've not been abusive, or offensive. At all. Not every comment that disagrees with you deserves removing

I have no issue with disagreement.
I do have an issue with goading and disabilism. And so do HQ.

Ah, Walking, Beyond has gone into the realms of wishful thinking and hopes that you're actually a goady troll type rather than think there's actually people out there that think the way you do.

Alas, I fear she's wrong.

Disabalism now? Really?

You really, really can't take being disagreed with can you. Clutching at straws springs to mind.

Have you reported other posters earlier in the thread who were of the same opinion? For 'disabalism'?

The only goady troll type is you o0.

You're adding absolutely nothing, just jumping in with comments designed to aggravate.

I'm fucking delightful.

FACT.

I do like a sarcastic comment to be fair. I find it's the best way to deal with some people.

Comments like that above aimed at a group count as an -ism, yes

Another useful input. Gold star and all the rest of it.

o0, i know what you mean but havent suggested shes not a real person, just that she is intentionally goading with her disagreement on this thread. The second post said "its not something i'd lose sleep over... i'll probably do it again", her aim to pick a fight was clear from there.

Perhaps i'm just biased, reading it with my disabled eyes

Don't be inconvenient beyond, theres a nice wheelchair person

Perhaps you could do with brushing up on what constitutes disabalist language yourself beyond

Dont make you look any less of a cunt than my paraphrasing imho.

Not to mention abusive

She was quoting back your use of cunt not abusing you.

First two quotes im talking about myself.

Third quote was in response to you saying i was paraphrasing to make you look a cunt, i merely disagreed with that.