IWBU but by how much?-waiting in a disabled space?

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Mitigating circumstances:
Waiting for a family member who has recently had serious surgery and can't walk far, or stand for long and isn't supposed to be out in the cold/wet to come out of the doctors
I knew she was on her way out so would only be there a few minutes at most
The only other available spaces were on the other side of the car park
There is no designated waiting or pick up area, and narrow lanes/one way round the car park meant nowhere to pull over and wait without blocking any other drivers
There was more than one disabled space so I wasn't depriving anyone of the ability to park
I waited in the car and would have seen if the other spaces became in use and would have moved to allow a bb holder to park in mine if need be

I pulled into the BB space as it seemed the most sensible thing to do at the time, but in the maybe 2 or 3 minutes I was there (same song was still playing on the radio) 3 people came past and gave me dirty looks. So how unreasonable was I to have used the BB space to pick up my family member?

Here you go, as you like direct quotes...
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Your very first post said that you use the spaces and dont care what anyone thinks

That's a lie misleading. No, I don't 'use' the spaces at all. Using them would mean i'm preventing someone with a BB from using a space. Which I have never done.

Why do you need to twist what I've said? I get that you want to make me out to be a nasty, selfish cunt, but i'm really not. Can you not debate with actual facts or quotes, without posting something completely out of context. It is tiring but frustrating, which I suppose is why I keep getting drawn in.

Oh right...so it's fine to use disabalist language that may be upsetting to others as long as you're a bit self-depreciating with it. Got it.

Was anyone upset? Or did every disabled person commenting agree with me? I may be confused, it happens a lot.

Being confused that is, not everyone agreeing with me.

Well have a think on it...i'm sure the lightbulb moment will come (eventually)

Have a look back for me, would you? Find me a direct quote of someone upset by me being sarcastic about my own health?

I thought sarcastic comments were considered "designed to aggravate"?

Or only if they're made by people who disagree with you?

You really, really can't see that there's a nice wheelchair person is disabalist language? Even in a self-depreciating sense?

There really is no hope tbh if you can't grasp why others may find that upsetting.

Aha ha ha haaaa, you're so funny. I get it now. And there was me taking you seriously...

You might want to search spelling of disabilist, seeing as you feel fit to lecture me on it.

Now i need to sleep.

Oh go away o0. You're like an annoying twelve year old, buzzing around with 'interesting' comments who thinks themselves terribly witty.

Ah, picking at typos. The final straw.

I'm not trying to be interesting or witty (at this time of night! I can barely manage either at a decent time of day). I'm trying to communicate how ridiculous I find your opinions.

Night, Beyond. Sleep well.

And I yours. So at least we can agree (to disagree) on that.

Not picking at typos, I usually dont care. But when you see fit to lecture me on disabilism, something i've had a hell of a lot more experience in than you, i thought you would want to know that you were spelling it wrong. Just trying to be helpful.

This thread has disintegrated into "my state is worse than yours" on both sides and it's really grim. It doesn't kill me or belittle my experiences a disabled person to appreciate that that someone else may be struggling too.

You were not being unreasonable at all, I would say someone coming out of serious surgery not being able to walk far and not being able to be out in cold also makes her disabled.

On both sides? Where?

It doesn't kill me or belittle my experiences a disabled person to appreciate that that someone else may be struggling too

Exactly that crash. Empathy costs nothing.

You were not being unreasonable at all, I would say someone coming out of serious surgery not being able to walk far and not being able to be out in cold also makes her disabled.
That may well be the case, but the point is,it's temporary.

As for empathy, yes, I do fully understand, and sympathise with those who are temporarily inconvenienced. It's hard, it's frustrating and can be demoralising. However, it's temporary. Admittedly, in some cases (my dh) temporary becomes permanent, at which point, waiting for blue badges etc. is a pain in the arse, but happens eventually. (We waited four years before applying for his and no, we didn't use dds for him).

Walking, you have admitted you park in blue badge spaces for your own selfish convenience.

And you have the nerve to talk about empathy?

Tinkly - um, no, I haven't.

Unless you want to pick apart the meaning of park - which to me means engine off and leaving the car. You may interpret it differently but as far as i'm concerned, for the action you imply when you say 'parked' - no, not me, not ever.

My latest message to hq, i'm posting it here so i know what time i sent it

"I reported this person for goading about 15 hours ago. No response as yet, not even to say you disagree and are leaving it up. I know it was the middle of saturday night, and is now sunday, but you keep saying there are people around at all times."

Hi folks.

Thanks for your report BeyondPreparedForHell, we'll have a closer look at this thread and get back to you asap.

Thank you ellen