Letting fireworks off in our garden.

[raltheraffe]

Yesterday I was letting some, admittedly large, fireworks off in our garden at about 7pm. Fireworks were going vertically upwards and not into neighbours gardens.

Anyway all hell breaks loose. Guy comes out of his house screaming at my DH that he is a "fucking nobhead" and starts banging on our gate which was padlocked.

I went back into the house and locked the front door. Went upstairs to son's bedroom. Window was open as I had been painting sons walls earlier. and curtains had been removed due to the DIY.

Next thing he is shouting at me "oi you, fucking nobhead at the window". By this time the neighbours 2 doors down, who cannot stand me, had come out and were joining in on the trouble.

I replied "go away or I will phone the police" as there was now a small crowd at the front gate. I then shut the window and turned the light off in the room.

Next thing the guy jumped the fence and came in garden banging on front door. I did not answer the door.

They hung around at the front gate for about 15 minutes then got bored and dispersed.

I can appreciate that they may not like fireworks as they may have pets that could have been scared. However another neighbour set some fireworks off (far more than I did) and no-one complained.

Not sure what to do now.

I am reading this thread and thinking your neighbours actually sound like the epitomy of well behaved middle class people driven to distraction. And that it isn't them who sound rough or as if they are more used to a rough neighbourhood. The more you describe yourself and your attitude, the more I get that impression OP. Sorry!

Plus when I used to work as a doctor I always got scored high on interpersonal skills when I had an evaluation.
I pay far more attention to evaluations that are made when I was an employee, or now with my customers, as they know me well. I do not pay much attention to people who try to make personal insults on AIBU as they tend to be way off. On another thread someone had a pop at my husband for being a drunk driver! The guy was born blind so I would have a pretty major issue with him driving at all.

By your own admission you were letting off large fireworks in what is clearly a residential area 6 days before bonfire night with no prior warning to any of your neighbours that may have dogs, cats and children that will be spooked by the noise.

You didn't do anything illegal, I'll grant you that, but I personally feel you were morally wrong. Firstly for doing so bloody early. Secondly for having "admittedly large" fireworks with neighbours so close to your. Lastly for not giving them a heads up to keep cats in/tvs loud for the dogs/telling the children etc.

Having said this your neighbour's fury was unacceptable. You should apologise and do the right thing by saying it won't happen again.

If he had asked me to modify my behaviour in a polite fashion I would have done so. However when people attempt (but fail) to intimidate me it gets them nowhere, just gets my back up.

Are you a doctor or an accountant? Quite frankly, I'd not let you loose on my banking or my boils! !

Sorry but you have lost the plot lady...

And why why why was your blind dh out buying mega fireworks anyway?

You used to be a Dr, you're currently running your own business and training to be an Accountant yet you live on an estate you described :

It would be impossible to bring down the neighbourhood, it makes the estate on Shameless look like Knightsbridge.

Really?

Yes I got sacked in a disability discrimination case from being a doctor. I now run a business but struggle with accounts so am doing aat 2 in accountancy

I am not an accountant never said that anywhere on the thread and am not training to be an accountant. Just want a better grasp of figures in running my business

^^ i was just thinking EXACTLY the same, why does a blind man buy fireworks?

"I guess I am a part time student at the moment because I am doing my accountancy exams."

What kind of Dr were you?

Why can't a blind man purchase a specific item? He did not let the firework off. He bought it and I set it off.

blind man buying fireworks OP lives under a bridge.

Yes AAT 2 is an accountancy exam.

I was a medical doctor started off doing surgery at sho level but then got very ill so did gp training instead as night work is a trigger to make me ill. Never got to GP level though because when I did my six months in general medicine I had a very prejudiced consultant who basically ended my career

This is the thread that just keeps giving
A blind man buying fireworks and a doctor struck off
Oh my days

I'm lost ... an ex Doctor (assume it's the type of 'this won't hurt much ...' medical sort doctor?) and sort of accountant sets of 'large' fireworks? May I ask, were these the sort of 'mortar' fireworks that make a hell of an awful loud noise? If so, then I don't blame the neighbours for being pissed off with OP.

However ... I'm wondering if this topic is just an windup. Something doesn't ring true.

ok - i'm questioning why a blind man would want to buy a firework, as they are visual things (with some noise)

I was not struck off the register and I find that comment a bit odd. I was sacked from an sho post and then won a settlement. The gmc register is nothing to do with it

I find it really quite prejudiced and ignorant your attitude towards my husband. Why on earth can't someone who is blind enjoy fireworks?
I am not a sort of accountant I am a business owner who wants to get a better grasp of my figures and get to the level where I do not make mistakes on Sage

Not read all 9 pages but have got the gist. Based on your OP I would say that both you and your neighbour wbu but looks like there is a lot of history behind how both of you feel about each other and that you sound incredibly judgemental.

If you were my neighbour I would be annoyed if you hadn't pre warned me because I have a young dog and young children and I would want to be able to manage their anxiety if there was going to be any.

So you're an educated woman and yet for the hell of it you decided to let off a rocket of a firework on a whim with no regard for your neighbours?

You clearly display a lack of judgment along with your own observation that you lack empathy.

"I find it really quite prejudiced and ignorant your attitude towards my husband. Why on earth can't someone who is blind enjoy fireworks? "

because fireworks are pretty to look at.... a blind person cannot see them.... do you understand our confusion now?

I dont mean to be personally attacking you, (you've had enough of that here i think) but i just dont get why he would buy fireworks when he cant see them....? With the greatest respect, this does have a slight whiff od eau-du-wind-up

Doctor?

I'm not quite sure how wishing you could use grenades and mortars fits in with 'abstain from doing harm' bit in the Hippocratic Oath ...

You were a doctor and yet find setting off display type fireworks on a suburban garden acceptable and not likely to be dangerous and with a high risk of injury???????

So sacked not struck off
I've just used a bit of poetic licence
Quite in keeping with the tone of the thread I think