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Letting fireworks off in our garden.

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raltheraffe · 30/10/2014 12:38

Yesterday I was letting some, admittedly large, fireworks off in our garden at about 7pm. Fireworks were going vertically upwards and not into neighbours gardens.

Anyway all hell breaks loose. Guy comes out of his house screaming at my DH that he is a "fucking nobhead" and starts banging on our gate which was padlocked.

I went back into the house and locked the front door. Went upstairs to son's bedroom. Window was open as I had been painting sons walls earlier. and curtains had been removed due to the DIY.

Next thing he is shouting at me "oi you, fucking nobhead at the window". By this time the neighbours 2 doors down, who cannot stand me, had come out and were joining in on the trouble.

I replied "go away or I will phone the police" as there was now a small crowd at the front gate. I then shut the window and turned the light off in the room.

Next thing the guy jumped the fence and came in garden banging on front door. I did not answer the door.

They hung around at the front gate for about 15 minutes then got bored and dispersed.

I can appreciate that they may not like fireworks as they may have pets that could have been scared. However another neighbour set some fireworks off (far more than I did) and no-one complained.

Not sure what to do now.

OP posts:
worserevived · 31/10/2014 12:35

Ignoring all the side tracking and getting back to the OP, your neighbour was very rude and aggressive in his response, but he had a point. If you are going to set off fireworks in a built up area at any time other than bonfire night, you warn people. I lost my dog for 24 hours when someone decided to have a random display. He was off lead in the garden for a wee before bed, and legged it in panic over the fence. I was lucky to get him back. I was absolutely livid with the neighbours but being awfully british and polite didn't confront them directly. I wish I had, because then they might not do it again. Question is will you, or will you warn people?

chipsandpeas · 31/10/2014 12:41

i hate people who let fireworks off before bonfire night (not much call for fireworks for diwali round here) - if it were contained to the 1 night then i can cope with 2 terrified dogs same with new year
they were letting them off round here at 5pm last night - my dogs wouldnt even go out for a pee at 10pm they were that scared

Summerisle1 · 31/10/2014 12:47

Well I still find the idea of your husband actually going out to buy fireworks somewhat weird. My great uncle was blinded in a gas attack in World War I. He ran a successful business, designed his own house and lived a very independent and happy life with my great aunt. But it never occurred to him to wander into town and buy fireworks. He couldn't see them so there was no visual enjoyment and couldn't tell when they were about to go off. Which he found somewhat unsettling so of all the activities he did enjoy, fireworks displays weren't one of them.

I'm not saying that blindness should prevent anyone from doing anything. It's just that I find it odd that he should have bought these "admittedly large fireworks" especially when he can't see them and you can't afford them.

But then there's so much that's weird about this thread that I guess nothing is going to surprise me now.

youareallbonkers · 31/10/2014 13:13

What does you are going to start applying for houses you have seen on rightmove mean??

Mitzimaybe · 31/10/2014 13:15

No way is this thread for real.

Husband [blind] bought the firework [without my knowledge] and I told him when he brought it home that we are trying to economise and I was not happy he had spent all that cash

So instead of taking it back and getting a refund, you let it off on a random evening a week before bonfire night in a small garden on a housing estate. And then got upset when neighbours were angry about it.

Yeah, right.

StarlingMurmuration · 31/10/2014 13:19

To be fair to the OP, what she has posted about her background fits in with her posting history, and you can be extremely intelligent and lack even the slightest modicum of common sense. Just wander though any university building and you'll find plenty of clever but daft people.

OP, YWBU to let off a massive firework in a built up area at 7pm on a weeknight, without warning a week before bonfire night, but I think you've accepted that now.

lemisscared · 31/10/2014 13:50

See, i have a phd, no really i really do, doing one's own business accounts (assuming you are a sole trader) is not rocket science (and neither was my PhD, mine is in a farrrr harder subject than that!). It really isn't, takes me 15 minutes to file the tax return, sage splage, it over complicates things, just do an excel for beginers course, sorted. You do not need to spend money (because lets face it, it is a significant amount to do AAT exams which is why most people work in practice and are sponsored throuh their exams by the firm they work for) on these courses. Its mostly common sense and the HMRC has a brilliant helpline.

Why do you live in such a rough area?

Original poster
raltheraffe · 31/10/2014 14:22

Poetic licence? No you were describing two totally different things. To get struck off you have to have done something seriously wrong. The GMC view it as an absolute last resort when a doctors level of knowledge or conduct is such that it poses a risk to the public. I was sacked and won a lawsuit as my dismissal was deemed unfair and discrimination.

OP posts:
lemisscared · 31/10/2014 14:27

couldnt you buy a decent house with the payout?

Original poster
raltheraffe · 31/10/2014 14:47

No Lemi something really bad happened with the cash and it is now gone

OP posts:
mynewpassion · 31/10/2014 14:50

Did the police come by?

lemisscared · 31/10/2014 15:12

your DH spent it on fireworks?

ScarletFever · 31/10/2014 15:36

aw naw! you cant leave it hanging like that!!!! 'something bad happened'.... thats on a par with a facebook

"OMFG - fuming" or "So sad right now...."
"wassup babes?" (* gazillion)
"I'll pm yer hun"

Monathevampire1 · 31/10/2014 15:37

OP was these rather large fireworks the sort used by professionals at displays?

pictish · 31/10/2014 15:52

This thread is making me want to let off fireworks in my back garden. So many miseries!

"Why were you letting off fireworks on the 29th of October?"

Because she felt like it. Next question?

lemisscared · 31/10/2014 15:55

Next question: why should i have to keep my dogs sedated from october through november? because lets not forget the post november fireworks when miserly fuckwits can get their bombs cheaper

pictish · 31/10/2014 15:56

And OP your neighbour is an aggressive idiot. Yanbu.

pictish · 31/10/2014 16:01

Lem - I'm sorry your dogs get upset by them, but your pets aren't anyone else's responsibility or concern. What about dogs that live in houses near to organised displays? It's a shame for them of course...but what can you do?

Sirzy · 31/10/2014 16:04

Dog owners and people with other reasons to not like fireworks know that there are certain dates they will be set off so can prepare as best as possible. You can't prepare for fireworks set off on a random date a week before bonfire night though.

But it's fine as long as people get to burn money look at pretty things in the sky whenever they feel like sod the distress it can cause for others.

pictish · 31/10/2014 16:08

I love fireworks. They're brilliant.

Zucker · 31/10/2014 16:13

How does a person get sacked from being a doctor? Either you're a doctor or not?

JingleSpud · 31/10/2014 16:14

This thread just keeps on giving

and FWIW i fucking hate fireworks.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 31/10/2014 16:16

I like fireworks but a neighbour randomly setting off really load ones would irritate the hell out of me. I wouldn't carry on like your neighbour did though, major overreaction.

Sirzy · 31/10/2014 16:16

Thats great pictish, not everyone does though. And that is why the sensible, polite thing to do is to stick to bonfire night/NYE to set them off (and dependent on beliefs religious celebrations)

Setting them off at random for fun is selfish for the many reasons outlined in this thread

Sirzy · 31/10/2014 16:17

Thats great pictish, not everyone does though. And that is why the sensible, polite thing to do is to stick to bonfire night/NYE to set them off (and dependent on beliefs religious celebrations)

Setting them off at random for fun is selfish for the many reasons outlined in this thread

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