to think friend should change dirty nappy asap?

[Carrierpenguin]

I have a friend whom I meet for coffee every couple of weeks. We both have 3yo. Often when we meet, her ds will do a dirty nappy. It is obvious when he does it, as he's 3 and not a tiny baby. But my friend just ignores it, or when I say something she just says 'oh I'll change it in a minute' which is usually ten minutes later by which point I feel quite ill

I've tried hinting, even being more blunt 'oh I can smell something' but she's not bothered by the smell or the fact her ds may be getting sore, though he doesn't seem bothered.

Aibu to think a dirty nappy should be changed asap?

t's not a coincidence that it's nearly always the ones left in their own shit/piss.

It's not a coincidence because it isn't true.

Needasock good to know you've decided your nephew's problems are due to his toilet training. Babies have been held over a pot from a month or so old for millennia, and millions of babies are trained that way now, and most of them grow up continent just fine

Would that be considered inappropriate? unlikely. Now have a think about methods of forcing toilet training that sensible rational people may refer to as inappropriate and may be likely to cause long term issues or significant stress,then try to avoid taking things so personally

well my 8 year old ds was always changed asap. it took several years to get him dry during the day. He still won't poo in toilet despite hospital, nursery nurse and several gp appointments. Finally he was seen by someone sensible who prescribed medication. I have had years of mil claiming dh and sil were trained at 18 months and that he (I) are lazy.
He has no sen but does display som mild autistic traits.
op yes child should be changes asap but age nothing to do with it.

Ds now 11 has autism and was toilet trained just before 3.
Dd who is 3.8 is toilet trained only recently but will only poo in a nappy, has a major fear of doing in on the toilet/potty.

Many 3 yr olds I know are still in nappies, for various reasons, no Sen.

I expected dd to be really quick at toilet training as she was with everything else but it proved to me that you can't predict anything or compare your dc and even dispelled the myth that boys are slower/girls are quicker.

There have been a few doctors recently who have stated the ill-effects of training too early.