to think friend should change dirty nappy asap?

[Carrierpenguin]

I have a friend whom I meet for coffee every couple of weeks. We both have 3yo. Often when we meet, her ds will do a dirty nappy. It is obvious when he does it, as he's 3 and not a tiny baby. But my friend just ignores it, or when I say something she just says 'oh I'll change it in a minute' which is usually ten minutes later by which point I feel quite ill

I've tried hinting, even being more blunt 'oh I can smell something' but she's not bothered by the smell or the fact her ds may be getting sore, though he doesn't seem bothered.

Aibu to think a dirty nappy should be changed asap?

That is also true, can you imagine the UCAS form

What age were you dry in the day, in the night? Mmm really, that one had pushy parents!
At what age could you read? What could you read? War and Peace at three? Nah must be fibbing!

Whatever age, I do think that if a child is too used to having a dirty nappy and they suffer it without complaint, they are more likely to be later to ditch the nappies.

With you on this one Stereo- I too I think most children who are able, should be out of nappies by three!

Another day another thread comments condemning parenting choices because we should all be the fucking same and our kids are all made from identikits and do not need ever to vary from the predetermined developmental path set by the egocentric few.

Apparent another area of failure is late nappy training. How stupid some parents are that can't find the switch to turn it on.

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With you on this one Stereo- I too I think most children who are able, should be out of nappies by three!

absolutely

How stupid some parents are that can't find the switch to turn it on.

I know. I keep looking for ours but haven't found it yet. Same with the switch to turn off liking bottles.

We clearly must need to read the manual better...

Btw, what constitutes "being able to"? How about, er, grasping the concept of potty training?

I'll give up on any oxbridge hopes for DS1, then. He was 7 before he was continent during the day.

DS2 is still in nappies at 8. No he doesn't like feeling wet or dirty. He takes his off as soon as he's done the slightest dribble. Oh what fun I had, cleaning up after he took a pooey one off at the top of the stairs, yesterday. Well worth being a lazy parent for.

Some statistics to back up claims that there are hoards of 5 year olds in nappies?

A link to some medical evidence that being in nappies past 3 is detrimental to, well, anyone?

Or just an ignorant poorly informed opinion?

sometimes, if you have an older child who is a fighter, it's easier to wait a while than dragging them around resisting the nappy changing.

Some statistics to back up claims that there are hoards of 5 year olds in nappies?

Will a poorly written daily mail article do?

for example... www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/hundreds-of-children-over-the-age-of-5-are-sent-to-school-wearing-nappies--and-teenagers-as-old-as-15-cant-use-the-toilet-on-their-own-9295290.html and there are zillion more similar articles PLUS various family members teachers and nursery nurses who experience this 1st hand every day...we talking about children without special needs...it is a huge problem actually...

Why not, that's where most judgey people get their info from isn't it?

They used another paper in stead but i was almost right.

A survey of 602 teachers out of, how many are there in the UK?

Yes that'll do it.

there is no indication for the time period, 6 year? 60 years?
Were these kids diagnosed at a later date, was this an early sign?

stereostar would you have a heart attack if i told you i put my 6 year old in a nappy after school every evening even though he fights against it, i got kicked in the chin the other day?

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Mind you going by the state of public toilets I don't think that many adults are toilet trained either.

It must have been going on for the past few decades, who'd have known?

Believe it or not, I don't actually care how you raise your kids...not my problem, which doesn't mean I can not have an opinion ;)

YANBU but she isn't going to magically change. You need to tell her more forcefully, or take to meeting outdoors :)

I remember a big uni reunion thing where my friend's DS pooed just as the buffet food was going out on the table. Friends said they'd change him after the meal. Everyone was too polite to say anything (all childless and thought this might be normal behaviour in their world!) but the whole meal was ruined by the awful smell. But they were obviously used to it and it just never crossed their minds it would be a problem. Now, having my own children, I would say something.

Believe it or not, I don't actually care how you raise your kids...not my problem, which doesn't mean I can not have an opinion ;)

Having an opinion would indicate you do care.

Obviously. Thurlow. some of us got different manuals.., fancy that individuals having different needs at different times

Last time I checked I was not Borg (Star Trek baddies)

YANBU, OP.

R.e toilet training, I think this country gets too hung up on it. I will never forgive myself for trying to get DD trained when she clearly wasn't ready at 3. Led to her holding it and refusing to poo on the toilet for a few months.

All this stress because she would have been the only one at pre school in pull ups and 'should' have been trained by 3. In other countries a 3 year old is a toddler and is toilet trained when ready, not to fit in with nursery/ pre school/ primary.