to find it offensive to be reffered to as "Goldilocks"

[BlueSuedeStiletto]

This actually happened a while ago and it's been bothering me ever since. I genuinely don't know whether I over reacted here.

I was in my town's main shopping centre and walked past a stand promoting a charity (can't remember what for, possibly Syrian children) and the bloke yelled out to me "hey Goldilocks, can you come for a chat?". It immeadiately got my back up and a snapped at him- something along the lines of "how dare you speak to me like that" and carried on into the shop.

I calmed down and realised that reaction probably wasn't that helpful (and he only looked about 18 bless him) so I went back to explain. I told him that it sounded really sexist and that it's offensive. He replied that he does it to everyone- men included- to get attention. I then said that even so, it's not nice to focus in on an aspect of someone's personal appearance- how would he like it if I called out "hey beardy piercing face" or something to that effect. I pointed out that what he singles out might be that one thing a person is insecure about- and that not everyone will have the confidence I do to confront him, so he may be unwittingly upsetting people.

He told me he gets perhaps one complaint every couple of days about his approach, and he needs to be different to get attention. He promised to take my comments on board. Tbh He seemed like a really nice lad doing what I imagine is a difficult job- but I just don't think that approach is acceptable.

AIBU?

I am not assuming it is better to be white and blonde than black and dark. I am saying that it does not fit into the same pattern of abuse. But I am sorry that my post is offensive.

@Roussette- I was just thinking the same thing about seeing other's opinions on this. It's really nice to be part of a healthy debate on a potentially touchy subject with no mudslinging and serveral actual apologies!

Thanks girls.

Anyway, I've read all the posts and give it some consideraton and my opinion is unchanged. I just don't think it's ok to comment on the appearance of a complete stranger in most circumstances. I also think there is a sexist issue here- men just don't have to deal with this kind of thing.

Lastly- I hate chuggers and all they stand for. But that's a whole other thread!

YWBU

No I don't think it's the same as someone shouting that at black person. White women with blonde hair have not been abused for their race for centuries

they've just been abused for the sex for centuries. How does that make it ok?

Of course yanbu, OP. Those saying otherwise are just unable to appreciate the impact of such micro-aggressions or the the hegemonic masculinity that makes catcalling seem acceptable.

*their sex, not the sex. Different thing altogether.

I agree with you grockle