To wonder if I should tell him?

[ThisIsAnAwkwardSituation]

This is embarrassing but here it goes.

I'm 25 years old and have never had sex. This sounds childish and immature but never really been interested and didn't feel ready.

However I have been seeing someone for about a month now and things are getting serious. I would like to do it now, but I'm just confused about whether I'm supposed to tell him about my lack of experience? And more to the point, how do I tell him? Does it really matter if I don't tell him?

He is four years older than me and from what I've gathered very experienced so I think I'm going to feel childish.

I was thinking about not telling him and just going for it. Good idea or not?

Just to be clear: not only did you open up to him, but you did say you'd like to have sex with him? Otherwise, his response is a bit, um, assertive.

Go and shave your legs quickly!

(And good luck)

You don't need to get wasted, BTW.

Really? .

If any man said that to me when I was a virgin I'd ask tell him "not before I pop those balls" and give them a nice grab and turn.

But if you still like him it's up to you .

Maid I didn't say that I wanted to have sex with him, no. But he also told me that he just "knew it" which got me worried. Is it really that obvious.

Big he's nice so I do like him. Just a bit socially awkward sometimes and overly keen.

I think I'm going to start on this wine...

Do you want to be wasted for your first time? Don't be pressured either way and if you didn't say you wanted to have sex tonight then don't feel you have to do it.

His response would have made me especially when you felt he was getting bored waiting after one month . . . but presumably you know him and are comfortable with him. Sending you luck whatever you decide to do.

This might be an evil thing to say but, OP, I hope you realise exactly how much power you have right now...

I'd be tempted to tell you to not go near the premise of sex tonight

Oops, massive x-post. My post was in response to your earlier one where you said you thought he'd gone for more wine.

So he has assumed? With a what? dreamy conquistador look on his face?

OP, do you perhaps feel his response should have been about reassuring you, no rush, go at your pace?

I think I'd be a bit with his response to be honest.

Is he back yet?

I think so Maid yes. Can't say I was really expecting talk of popping my cherry from a 29 year old man.

Anyways he's just got back in now. I'm going downstairs to see what he's bought.

Wow. That would clinch it for me, no way would I be having sex with him.

"We'll soon have that cherry popped"?! Blimey, he really thinks he is doing you a favour doesnt he? I'd have told him to pop off and dont bother popping the pop back, wanker.

I am betting he got condoms.

I'm a bit at what he said but hopefully he just felt a bit awkward & as if he had to say something, rather than meaning you'll be the next in his string of virgins ...

If he got condoms, then he hadn't been expecting to have sex..? I imagine OP will not post for a while but am on edge of seat wondering what he bought!

Condoms - yes, that's what I think too

I bet he bought a L plate for OP to wear around her neck whilst he pops her.

Or champagne & roses perhaps

The cherry thing is either a sign he's an arse or it was a Hugh Grant type moment and he is a shy but lovely type.

If he got condoms, then he hadn't been expecting to have sex..?

Agree. And he's assumed the conversation was foreplay. OP, if you are around, remember you haven't committed to anything.

Don't do it, OP! His response was shit! Like he's doing you a favour!!

I think your being a bit mean to him. He probably was a bit awkward and didn't know what to say. I hope it's not condoms.

*you're

Yep, I am thinking condoms. Thats what makes me think that he thinks he is doing her a favour by ridding her of that pesky virginity. Seriously, I wouldnt give him house room now never mind my virginity if I was her.