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To enjoy looking through other people's windows in the evening.

237 replies

LEMmingaround · 15/10/2014 11:13

I do this when i walk to and from my little cleaning job. It makes me feel all warm inside!

Doesn't matter what people are doing, what they have on display etc, its better when they have lamps rather than lights and i love to see families sat with their dinners on their laps or kids playing on the floor in front of the fire. Or single folk sat with their lap-top and Wine or Brew.

I'm not being nosey, it just makes me feel nice

I'm a weirdo aren't i??? Blush

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CambridgeBlue · 15/10/2014 11:36

I love to do this too and don't think it's nosey as long as you're discreet. I agree it gives you a lovely warm feeling although I'm not sure why!

VenusRising · 15/10/2014 11:39

I love this- especially if its cold out and there are Christmas decorations up.

It's a little glimpse of people's everyday lives. I've never seen anything unordinary - just family life: this gives me the warm fuzzies.

LEMmingaround · 15/10/2014 11:39

ooh yes, forgot about trains and back gardens!! heaven

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shoofly · 15/10/2014 11:39

We rented a house with a big central section which was all glass, for a year between selling our old house and buying this one. My friends lovely teenage son was so excited when he came to visit. It backed onto the railway line and he and his friends had seen it every day on their way to and from school. They had seen the previous owners moving out and it lying vacant for some time. They'd then watched it being tidied up and new people (us) moving in. Friends son then had to bring all his mates round to see it. It was so funny to see the reactions of this group of teenage boys. He was gutted that we didn't buy it!

penguinsaresmall · 15/10/2014 11:43

I thought I was the only one Grin.

Coincidentally, I saw this print the other day and really liked it. But then I started thinking that if I buy it it's like advertising my noseyness Grin

TheVeryThing · 15/10/2014 11:46

I love this too, it's impossible not to look.
Also agree, re trains and back gardens (though very glad we don't have a train line running behind ours).

Artus · 15/10/2014 11:46

There is a srory - I don't know if it is true or not, of the actor David Tomlinson (I think) looking into houses from the upper deck of a bus. He saw his father sitting down to dinner with his "other " family!

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 15/10/2014 11:53

I hate the thought of people doing it to us, so I shut the curtains the minute it gets dark. Having said that I still can't help doing it to other people , but I tend to assume that if their curtains are open that they don't mind.

I relent a bit in December as it is lovely seeing Christmas trees all lit up, but I generally can't relax in the front room with the curtains open once it's dark, the thought of strangers peeking in really rattles me.

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 15/10/2014 11:59

I love it too, especially at Christmas where there are more lights and more curtains open.

In fact, my favourite thing is a lit-up lounge with no-one in it. Like a stage set before the actors come in. I either imagine what's going to happen next, or judge their wallpaper choices, depending on mood.

The West End of Edinburgh is absolutely the best place in the world for this - massive floor to ceiling windows, big posh living rooms, usually with antiques and bookshelves. Very Dickensian.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 15/10/2014 12:00

I love this too!
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(Windows in the West)

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 15/10/2014 12:02

LOVE that it'sall Flowers

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 15/10/2014 12:04

Did you draw that Itsall?

MarchEliza · 15/10/2014 12:07

I don't do this when I'm walking about (too obvious!) but I love doing it on my commute home from London at the end of the day, especially when I'm coming back to my own cosy home and I know that I too will soon be in the warm!

I am totally shameless about my garden snooping though.

moraf2 · 15/10/2014 12:17

Love it too!
If people want privacy then they just have to pull the curtains drawn

AnnaFiveTowns · 15/10/2014 12:19

Yanbu. I love it too - I'm relieved it's not just me! I used to do it when walking the dog when we lived in a city but now we're in the countryside it's harder to do. And the back gardens from trains too - just love it. Not even sure why but somehow the world looks safe and cosy when you're outside looking in.
When I was at uni I used to walk home past the same terraced house every afternoon, just as it was starting to go darker, and I always looked inside, and there was a coal fire and a little baby in its bouncer near to it. It was like a scene from a picture book and it made me feel so warm inside - so different from my skanky student house!

WoTmania · 15/10/2014 12:23

YANBU - I've always loved doing this much to DH's embarrassment

NormaStits · 15/10/2014 12:24

My sister's friend is a carer & she pulled up to a client's house but had to park outside the neighbours house for space. It was broad daylight but when she looked across to the house she'd parked outside of, there was a couple, stark naked, bent over the dining table right in front of the window, shagging. She even made eye contact with the woman, but they didn't stop, hide or close the curtains! She said she couldn't look but couldn't help but look, in that kind of car crash way!

sherbetpips · 15/10/2014 12:25

Never understood how people can sit there in full view of everyone. Not a fan of 'netting' but have managed to grow some low bushes in front so no-one can stare in. In the terrace we put cling misted effect on the two bottom windows, the neighbours have all been round asking where we got it from!

Deux · 15/10/2014 12:31

I love this too and so glad to see someone else mention Edinburgh. Catch a bus from Princes Street or thereabouts, out to Merchiston or Colinton, sit on the top deck in winter. Or the 34/35. Heaven, especially when the bus is at a bus stop.

Last winter, one of those really dark mornings, when I was coming back from school drop off I passed a small house I pass everyday. The kitchen is at the front and this time the light was on. I looked in and even loitered a bit as I was immediately taken back to my childhood and my granny's kitchen. It was a small kitchen with a small square table in it up against the wall. It hadnt been modernised and it just took me back in time.

I found myself thinking how lovely it would be to go into the warm, sit at the table with a cup of tea and have a chat. It gave me the warm fuzzies. Roll on dark mornings and afternoons Smile.

Notso · 15/10/2014 12:33

sherbertpips I have contemplated window film but I love looking out just as much as I love looking in.

Coumarin · 15/10/2014 12:36

I love this as well. I take our dog a walk around dusk and it seems to be the point at which it's dark enough inside to put a lamp on but not dark enough to close the curtains.

We walk past terraces, some big fancy houses, a block of apartments and a little row of teeny cottages. I love catching glimpses of others lives and giving them stories. There's something very comforting about it.

It's up there with seeing washing hanging out on a line and smoke coming out of chimneys.

TeamScotland · 15/10/2014 12:38

I do it. I once remarked to DH that I didn't like the new wallpaper someone up the street had hung, as we went by their window. They were right behind me and out walking their dog. I noticed as they turned up their path Blush ... There is no chance they didn't hear me.

ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties · 15/10/2014 12:39

YANBU. I used to live in London and I always had a candle in the window so that people going past on the bus could see a nicely lit room with warm light. I liked thinking of people going past on double deckers so they could peer into my 3rd floor flat. Blush

makeminered · 15/10/2014 12:46

Oh me too, me too. Agree dusk is the best time.

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