you shouldn't have any friends as an adult that you are constantly falling out with

[yoofoftoday]

I have a friend my age (30s) who is constantly falling out with people, quite often me and when I'm talking to her she conplains nastily about others to me.

Yesterday she found out that I send a message joking to another friend not to ask her for advice as she's still selling silly messages to her ex, who ignores her.

She's demanded to see the messages that mention her and called me a "sly, sneeky snake"

I just really can't be bothered, in all my years as an adult she's the only one I have had more than one falling out with.

I think she's more angry at herself, but always blames others for her shortcomings. I've banned her from staying with me as she's just a horrible critical houseguest, like as soon as she's feeling unwell she blamed it on the dinner I cooked.

Aibu to just cut her out and think an adult shouldn't behave like her?

Yanbu

I know people like this, one I was friends with but after her second outburst i'd had enough. The second is ab alcholic which msy effect her behaviour?

I don't think you shoukd be sending messages like that though, sounds bitchy.

yanbu. I have no time for these people who need to fall out with people constantly.

dp had a friend who was constantly falling out with other people. Then she started sending him messages telling him about his inadequacies as a friend, how he never texts/calls and how she had been waiting for him to "care enough to text to see how she was." and expressing how she was that he tells me everything the block feature is now our friend.

And when people fall out with people constantly there comes a point where you have to think "it's not them love, it's you."

Yes I probably shouldn't of sent that message, but it was in a jokey context as I said the message before dont ask for my advice as I still contact losers.

I still think she's being the ruder one with her names and demanding to know what's been said about her, but then again I would lol

dp had a friend who was constantly falling out with other people. Then she started sending him messages telling him about his inadequacies as a friend, how he never texts/calls and how she had been waiting for him to "care enough to text to see how she was." hmm and expressing how angry she was that he tells me everything hmm the block feature is now our friend. grin

Gosh said friend had pretty much the same to say, it could even be the same person..

All quite ridiculous.

I can't really imagine why you've remained in contact with her any more than I can imagine why you're asking whether you should.

It really is ridiculous.

The difficulty is we have had fun times in the past.

She sounds about 12, get rid.

These high maintenance people aren't friends. They are leeches. We all know someone whose life is a constant series of arguments and fallings out. I now refuse to engage and allow them to become more than acquaintances at best.

her name doesn't begin with a F does it?

But you have behaved like a sly, sneaky snake by sending messages about her? I'm sure she would say the same about you.

No sadly it doesn't.

How is it sly talking about someone when they come up in conversation?

You both sound as bad as each other.

Oh my god, how can you be bothered?

you are so right. Get rid of her, it's not worth the hassle, you'll always be treading on eggshells waiting for the next drama.

we see it enough on here as well.

Why did your other friend show her? Sounds like she's a drama queen as well. Just don't bother OP, you shouldn't have sent the message but sometimes when friends don't take their own advices and yet shout the loudest, well it gets boring fast.

If you hadn't send childish messages to your friend about her, she wouldn't have had anything to fall out with each other about.

I never fall out with friends ever, I just don't like that type of thing, more likely to drift apart but no rows, not as adults. I did have a row once with one over dramatic friend but never again.

Lol SIL does this!!! I am always but she finds life hard bless her

I never fall out with friends ever, I just don't like that type of thing, more likely to drift apart but no rows, not as adults. I did have a row once with one over dramatic friend but never again.

You contractic yourself miss perfect.

Anyway she's blocked, last straw was having a right go at me when I was having a bad day, the last thing you need is a "friend" making the day worse.

Are you sure you're both adults?