To ask if you think it's weird for a 25 year old to still be a virgin?

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Just that really.

I have also name changed as I am so .

But that's basically me right now. I'm 25 and have never had sex. Sometimes I'm okay with it and other times like right now I just feel so pathetic and childish because of it.

I do want to have sex but I'm the kind of person who couldn't have sex with someone just for the sake of it or with someone who I don't love (god that sounds so corny!). And unfortunately for me I haven't met that person yet. I have had relationships but I just couldn't imagine having sex with them - it just wasn't right for me at that time.

I know society views older virgins as being weird and odd and there is no way I could ever admit this to anyone in real life.

So am I weird?

I have a mate who's 40, and he's still a virgin, he's waiting until him, and his 25yr old fiancée get married, which I think is sweet :)

I dont think you are. If it wasnt right for you, it wasnt right for you. In fact I applaud you for not feeling pressured into it.

Not at all.

And waiting for someone you love doesn't sound corny. It sounds like you know what you want; and are sure of yourself enough to wait for it.

No - you're not weird at all. You shouldn't let other people's views on sexual relationships influence yours.
I think it's admirable that you're choosing to wait to have sex with someone when it means something special. It's a far cry from the way lots of people behave these days and it's nice - respectful of your own body.

(by peers, and general society views, is what I meant, not your partners!)

No,you are not weird.

I have a good friend who waited for the right man and it was rather lovely when he eventually fell into her life .

You have nothing to feel ashamed of or feel weird about - everyone is ready in their own time. Your body is YOURS. You don't need to crumble under society's pressure in order to 'prove' yourself or something, when you are not ready.

Not gonna lie, sex is great, when you're with the right partner. But make sure it's what you BOTH want. Like you say it's not felt 'right' for you, so listen to your gut!

If you were really scared or frightened to have sex, or had suffered in the past in a way that made sex very difficult for you to consider, then that's another matter.

I have only had sex with DH, at the end of the day sex will mean so much more with the right person.

I am glad that I skipped all the drama my friends did have.

no you are not weird.
you can only do what is right for you

personally I was a virgin at 25 when I married DH, as was he, we have now been together 18 years and are very very happy

we learned together in an atmosphere of love and total commitment to looking after each other

I cannot get my head round the fact that people enjoy one night stands, multiple partners on the go, swinging and god knows what else

likewise they can't understand me not wanting to experiment, live a little, try before you buy

I am perfectly happy being me

I'd say that being a virgin at 25 is no doubt unusual, but in no way weird.

I don't think you're weird at all. You said it yourself - you haven't found the right person yet. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks, do what's right for you.

KooINoor - why on earth do you hate yourself?

I know a few people your age (and up to mid thirties), but there's usually a very religious upbringing (mainly Christian) involved. I don't think it's weird and you're actually still pretty young, but the risk is that it will build up in your head as something extremely important, when I don't think it is, really. And that can make you feel awkward and embarrassed and make it harder to meet new partners.

Do you mean that you've not done anything? Cause you shouldn't just be jumping into full-on sex anyway, you need to build it up (the baseball approach). Whether you build it up with different people for experience, or build up to it with one person, it will relax you and help you judge if that person is the right person.

Not at all, you're quite right to wait. You'll know when it's right for you and anyway, unless you are completely comfortable there's little point as you probably wouldn't relax to enjoy the experience. I remember a friend's mother warning her as a teenager " once you give that away you can't get it back!"

Not weird at all! You just haven't met the right person yet.

I guess it is unusual in this day and age but definitely not weird. It makes sense to wait till you meet somebody that is right, imo.

I don't think your weird but I hate the word virgin.

I don't think so.

It's older than 'average' but I'd rather be older than younger in that respect.

Plenty of people will be a virgin then just won't be broadcasting the fact. Just don't let it be a 'thing'.

Nope. Not weird.

I think a lot of people wait for love actually. And it's not going to be 17 for everyone!

I think it's more of a problem if you feel you aren't comfortable with any kind of intimacy or you're avoiding chances to get to know people better and see if it is love. Then maybe you need to have a think.

Not odd.

I was only a little younger than you. FWIW I nearly dtd with someone at 23 then got cold feet at the last minute. Thankfully he was very understanding.
Then I met DH....

I also have a friend who was still a virgin at 30.

When the time is right, the time is right.

Didn't lose mine until I was 23. Had opportunities, but for various reasons didn't follow through. Don't regret it at all, and neither should you IMO.

Your reasons are YOUR reasons. You have no need to explain yourself to anyone (unless you want to, of course).

Much better to wait for the right person or time than choose some random just to get the box ticked.

First time is special and best not squandered.