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To think that 9.30pm is too late to bang on the door for a parcel

155 replies

ScrambledEggAndToast · 07/10/2014 07:02

I took in a parcel for a neighbour yesterday and she came round at 9.30pm to collect it. She knocked and I ignored it at first as I was in my pyjamas, she then started bashing on the letter box which set off the dog and woke up DS. I did then open it and gave it to her but fold her I thought it was too late. The dog then didn't calm down for 15 minutes and my son didn't get back to sleep for ages.

What do you reckon, is 9.30 too late on a weekday?

OP posts:
YeGodsAndLittleFishes · 09/10/2014 10:46

Whether it is too late or not, it is rude and unreasonable to rattle someone's letter box and hammer on their door until they respond, at any time of day or night.

sunflower49 · 09/10/2014 10:49

I don't think It's too late to knock, but It's too late to knock loudly and make a lot of noise! I'd have knocked once, if no answer I would have gone and returned the next day.

And her response was very rude, I'd have been really apologetic (not that I'd have created all the rumpus in the first place)!

kali110 · 09/10/2014 11:13

Don't think it is too late and i sometimes go to bed at that time.
Yes the house was in darkness but so is mine as my livingroom is at the back of the house so you wouldnt know if anyone was in. Maybe the neighbour thought op was in and did just think she hadnt heard her at the door.
Her attitude however was appalling.
She should have been thanking you.
Bet she will be regretting telling you never to take in anymore of her parcels!

serennu · 09/10/2014 12:11

yanbu, I'd be pissed off at someone knocking on my door like that at that time.

Tingatingatale · 09/10/2014 13:28

I get peed off if neighbours bang on my door after 7 as kids are asleep and dogs bark to wake them up so no you're not being unreasonable

ChazSH · 07/01/2017 17:48

BettyMoody....I guess you've never been sleep deprived and had idiots knocking on your door at 21:30 when you have dogs who bark and wake the baby? Yes 21:30 is obviously too late it's a ridiculous time to knock! Don't take their parcel next time!

Cheesymonster · 07/01/2017 17:54

I wonder if OP has taken any parcels in the last two years Grin

Katinkka · 07/01/2017 17:57

Very late. Cheeky bitch.

Trifleorbust · 07/01/2017 17:57

I wouldn't knock that late. And I would never take in a parcel for her again.

Fishcakey · 07/01/2017 17:57

I wouldn't answer the door at that time of night and I wouldn't go knocking on someone else's.

Fallonjamie · 07/01/2017 17:58

ZOMBIE

scottishdiem · 07/01/2017 18:02

My DP goes to bed at 9pm as 8 hours of sleep is needed and gets up at 5am. Sorry if this does meet a couple of posters expectations of other people's sleeping acceptability.

Each situation and household is different. Generally I'd work to 9am to 9pm acceptability clock. I would say that if no lights are visible and its after 9pm definitely not. If I know the person well and I see lights and that they are moving about then I might drift past 9pm to maybe 9.15 but I'd have to be sure. Only family would I go beyond that.

Why people think beyond 9pm is acceptable confuses me as so many people are in bed or had showers and/or are in pjs or are preparing for bed. Or even in the middle of netflix and chill....

Just no.

iveabigsecret · 07/01/2017 18:13

I don't think it's super late. We live in the back of the house so might not have lights on at the front but still up.

She's sounds rude but in fairness you can't win. 9.30 is too late but if she leaves it there all of the next day until the following evening after work and interrupts dinner with your children then she's still probably in the wrong!! Never sure what the right thing to do is

Crunchymum · 07/01/2017 18:17

If someone knows you have young kids, yes it's too late.

Crunchymum · 07/01/2017 18:18

Ha ha, didn't see it was an old fred.

LauderSyme · 07/01/2017 18:22

As a general rule, 9.30pm is on the cusp of being too late. But if it was obvious the residents were up and about, it wouldn't necessarily be rude to knock.
In this specific case the neighbour was massively rude. The house was in darkness so she should have left it for another time. And then to say what she did to someone who had done her a favour; rude, rude, rude!

theclick · 07/01/2017 18:23

It's not too late but her manner was odd. Let her drive to the sorting office next time

LauderSyme · 07/01/2017 18:25

Oops, cross post with zombie alert Blush

happymumof4crazykids · 07/01/2017 18:33

Far too late especially as being a neighbour she would be well aware you have a young child! She sounds like a right bitch with that comment! I'd have so wanted to shut the door in her face and say I'd give her the parcel tomorrow ( probably wouldn't have though as I'm a wimp lol)
I would refuse any deliveries in the future though.

MrsMattBomer · 07/01/2017 19:05

Not really. 9.30 is hardly late night - you can still ring people at that time can't you?

Tumtitum · 07/01/2017 19:13

too late to be banging! Especially if she knows you have children. Our neighbours have grown up children but I would still hesitate about knocking on their doors after about 8pm to be honest!

scottishdiem · 07/01/2017 23:51

"Not really. 9.30 is hardly late night - you can still ring people at that time can't you?"

Not really. I do not to call people after 9pm. Only social media messages which they will either get or not depending on their phone. Whilst it is not late for the person awake, how or why do we expect people to be available just because we are?

putonyourdancingshoes · 08/01/2017 10:39

I would say it's too late yes.

At Christmas time I ordered online and I had stayed in all day to receive it (as I don't like expecting neighbours to take them in).

9pm came and still no delivery.. kept checking the tracker... still out for delivery.

Eventually went to bed and when I woke up the tracker said "left with a neighbour at 23:30". I was mortified. BlushI stay in a flat so must have slept through the buzzer.

I felt so guilty and worried that my neighbour would have been sleeping at the time. I went to collect full of apologies but the lady said she'd had so many parcels delivered she can't remember the time.

Chocoholicmonster · 08/01/2017 10:52

This post was started two years ago. I doubt the OP is still bothered about the rude neighbour

Does make me wonder how people dig out these threads & they get started again though!

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2017 10:59

I don't think it's too late no. But if it was very clear the house wa in darkness then yes. Most people aren't all in bed by nine thirty though so maybe it didn't occur to her.

Although your op says only you were in your pyjamas, where normally folks would write "I ignored it as we were all in bed".

If it was just as you were in your pyjamas, then I can't see how just opening it after first knock and handing her the parcel would have been an issue.

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