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Original poster

To be very miffed at this? (Friend related)

83 replies

Lollycats · 02/10/2014 13:09

My friend phoned me yesterday and asked if I wanted to meet today in town for lunch. I said yes, and we arranged a time and place to meet.

Woke up this morning and she had sent me a text message saying that she can't make it now as her children are ill. She is quite flakey at times anyway, so these things often happen with her.

I have just seen that she has been tagged on facebook by another friend of hers, having lunch at the very place she was going to go to with me!!

AIBU to be highly pissed off and not meet up with her again?

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allypally999 · 02/10/2014 13:12

no you ANBU in my opinion

I used to have 2 friends who "forgot" to turn up to meet me .. note the use of the past tense

inloominotnorti · 02/10/2014 13:12

YADNBU

letsplaynice · 02/10/2014 13:13

YADNBU I'd have to post saying something

YouTheCat · 02/10/2014 13:13

Comment 'hope your kids feel better soon' and then tell her to 'fuck off' when if she next calls.

A true friend would have either been honest and said she needed to see this other friend (who knows, other friend could have a crisis and need her or something) or have asked you if you minded other friend joining you.

Original poster
Lollycats · 02/10/2014 13:16

I get the impression that she makes lots of plans then decides at the last minute who she want to see and ditches the others. She is generally flakey but I've always been quite laid back about it.

Not keen on being treated like a total mug though. I could have done with meeting for lunch today, I've had a rubbish week and feel low.

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Hissy · 02/10/2014 13:17

WTAF?!

post and say that you hope she doesn't choke on it enjoys her lunch.

Was it HER that ditched you or her friend that objected to you coming?

Either way, ditch the bitch.

To have a friend that is AS catastrophically stupid as to do this to you AND post it all over FB is a disgrace and a shame on you if you were to allow her to get away with this scot free.

You can't let this go. No way.
YANBU

Nomama · 02/10/2014 13:18

So... fb her back.

"Ooh! That looks nice, we should go there sometime!"

And then block her and forget she exists!

hellsbellsmelons · 02/10/2014 13:20

Wow that is feckin' outrageous!
I don't like airing dirty laundry on social media but I would in this instant!
It would be sarcastic and bitchy to boot!

Spindarella · 02/10/2014 13:22

I would HAVE to "like" it or comment "hiyaaaaaaaa!"

Cheeky moo.

YANBU.

Original poster
Lollycats · 02/10/2014 13:22

I've just commented "Hope you're both having a wonderful lunch and that your kids are feeling better now X"

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LumpenproletariatAndProud · 02/10/2014 13:23

Omg yay, can't wait for the reply

DataColour · 02/10/2014 13:24

wow...ofcourse YANBU!
I would definitely have to say something on FB...

Original poster
Lollycats · 02/10/2014 13:25

I'm not going to engage anymore with her now. I'll ignore any texts she sends and just be polite if I see her

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Ginrummy · 02/10/2014 13:25

Are you sure the photo was from today?

MrsCosmopilite · 02/10/2014 13:25

I'd have to comment.

Although I've had a lot of people let me down recently. One I know is flaky - if a better offer comes along, I get ditched. If/when we meet up, we have a good time, but I know she thinks of people in terms of accessories. The other folks, well, I don't know....

If someone was meant to meet me, ditched me because of 'illness' then went out with someone else I'd be questioning it.

DataColour · 02/10/2014 13:26

yayy hope she replies!

trevortrevorslattery · 02/10/2014 13:26

YANBU

HangingBasketCase · 02/10/2014 13:27

I was about to say YABU until I saw that she'd met up with another friend instead! YANBU, how bloody rude! I wouldn't bother with her again.

LemonBreeland · 02/10/2014 13:28

How incredibly rude. I really don't get people that behave this way.

jbee1979 · 02/10/2014 13:28

i wonder how people as stupid as this are able to get out of bed, washed and dressed in the morning - honestly!! (not you, OP)

cut her loose after you hit "like" on FB Grin

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 02/10/2014 13:29

YANBU
She's not a friend. Don't let her treat you like this.

CleanLinesSharpEdges · 02/10/2014 13:30

Your comment was perfect - very dignified and lets her know you're onto her.

I'd just completely ignore her from now on.

Moominmarvellous · 02/10/2014 13:30

'I get the impression that she makes lots of plans then decides at the last minute who she want to see and ditches the others. She is generally flaky'

YADNBU - Why would anyone do that? Just make a different plan for a different day.

Doesn't sound like being flaky, sounds like being an arsehole.

LadyLuck10 · 02/10/2014 13:30

Yanbu she's awful. Pathetic using her kids that way too.

Tadla · 02/10/2014 13:30

how rude of your "friend". yanbu, nooo way. dont burn your bridges though if you are likely to bump in them regularly.

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