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Original poster

To be very miffed at this? (Friend related)

83 replies

Lollycats · 02/10/2014 13:09

My friend phoned me yesterday and asked if I wanted to meet today in town for lunch. I said yes, and we arranged a time and place to meet.

Woke up this morning and she had sent me a text message saying that she can't make it now as her children are ill. She is quite flakey at times anyway, so these things often happen with her.

I have just seen that she has been tagged on facebook by another friend of hers, having lunch at the very place she was going to go to with me!!

AIBU to be highly pissed off and not meet up with her again?

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 02/10/2014 13:31

Please tell us what she says Grin

bleedingheart · 02/10/2014 13:32

My ego is to big for me to be friends with someone like this. How hurtful!

I applaud your comment. I think a bit of passive aggression is exactly what is needed here and is often underrated.

What a rude thing she has chosen to do!

KissMyFatArse · 02/10/2014 13:33

I need to know what she replies! Cheeky cow! X

HandMini · 02/10/2014 13:34

Excellent response and a lucky escape. This person is not going to be a great friend for the future...cut her loose and give someone else a call to see if they fancy coffee this afternoon.

Asteria · 02/10/2014 13:35

If a man treated you like that you would dump him. Interested to see what she comes back with. What a cow!

Viviennemary · 02/10/2014 13:35

What a mean person she sounds. I wouldn't bother with her again.

Original poster
Lollycats · 02/10/2014 13:36

She can get stuffed. She's not really got any great qualities and we don't have an amazing time when we meet up, just a bit of a chat and a catch up, so to cut her loose won't be any bother.

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Allice · 02/10/2014 13:38

Cheeky cow! Can't wait to hear her reply.

BakerStreetSaxRift · 02/10/2014 13:40

Agreed, what a cow!

Good reply Smile

ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties · 02/10/2014 13:40

Oh well done OP! Do update with what she says!

KnackeredMuchly · 02/10/2014 13:45

Good for you op, pretty impressed at your response. I need an update to this, love to know what she says.

peasandlove · 02/10/2014 13:48

Sounds like she's not worth it then

diddl · 02/10/2014 13:55

That's horrible.

I wonder if the other friend knows.

Yup, get rid.

Life's too short!

Janek · 02/10/2014 14:01

Isn't it possible to tag someone who isn't with you though? Could a the friend have known your flakey friend should have been there today and was gloating?

AimlesslyPurposeful · 02/10/2014 14:08

Oh dear, if you're going to lie about not being able to meet up then you should be jolly careful not to get yourself snapped at the very place you said you couldn't go to.

She must have wanted the ground to swallow her up when she saw your message!

You'll either receive a tall story about miraculous recoveries or never hear from her again. In your shoes I'd hope for the latter.

Hissy · 02/10/2014 14:12

I think you have been kindly attributing FLAKEY to someone when really she's not being flakey.

She's setting people up as she wishes, arranging options and then without a moment's thought for them blowing them out.

you need to re-evaluate your tolerance levels of this kind of crap.

Hissy · 02/10/2014 14:14

great reply btw! i really hope she does come back to you.

let her have it both barrels if she does

aermingers · 02/10/2014 14:15

Was it definitely today she was there? If it was a picture it could have been taken a few days ago and only just been out up.

If it is today that's inexcusable. You could have gone as a trio. All my friends are nice people, that's why they're my friends. I really hate people who compartmentalise their friends because they want to have their friendship exclusively to themselves. I think it's great to introduce my friends to each other. If you know one nice person why wouldn't you introduce them to another nice person whose company they would enjoy.

fuzzpig · 02/10/2014 14:17

Horrible. I would (well if I was brave enough) have said something like "oh that's good I guess your kids weren't as ill as you thought then :)"

AimlesslyPurposeful · 02/10/2014 14:22

Completely agree Aermingers - It's great when you can get your friends together. Every time I've introduced friends to each other they've got on brilliantly.

I don't understand why the OPs 'friend' couldn't have suggested they all meet up rather than blowing the OP out.

Original poster
Lollycats · 02/10/2014 14:23

It was a status that said that they were enjoying lunch at the X. Friend has liked it so I think she was/is definitely there.

She hasn't replied to my reply but tbh I don't think she will. She will probably leave it a month and then contact me again as if nothing has happened and I will tell her to fuck off

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Aeroflotgirl · 02/10/2014 14:24

Yanbu I would not have anything more to do with this fair weather friend, just don't delete her yet, as we want to see her reply.

Aeroflotgirl · 02/10/2014 14:26

Because Ami she's not a nice person, and got a better offer . It's nasty keep dangling op in a strung, better not communicate.

TessOfTheFurbyvilles · 02/10/2014 14:31

YADNBU - no way.

Cut your losses, friends like this have no place in your life.

LeftRightCentre · 02/10/2014 14:36

I wouldn't even bother being polite, just ignore. She texts, rings, just don't bother responding.

She's a cow.