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Oh arse. I've just been ridiculous.

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Hurr1cane · 01/10/2014 15:34

Back story, my DS has autism, disabilities, and health problems.

I had to pull over on the way home from school because he was having a seizure in the car. I managed to get him stable enough to rush him home.

I got home to find a work van parked over my drive.

I beeped a couple of times and nothing
So rather than just beeping I sat and leant on the horn for ages.

A man came out. I didn't even look at him, he moved the van, I pulled into my drive and he smiled at me so I just gave him a look of death and carried my DS in stomping as I went and slammed my front door.

Now I've calmed down.... I must have looked unhinged.

I'm forever going to be known as "that strange angry woman" aren't I? Hmm

Please tell me your stories of misdirected anger or over reactions to make me feel better.

I'm honestly usually a very calm and reasonable human being. Not a huge burning ball of rage. Blush

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EATmum · 01/10/2014 19:26

I once did the "I'm watching you" finger gesture to a cat in my garden. A cat. I ask you. I think I cringed immediately and then laughed for quite a long time at myself. In fairness, he had been terrorising my cats and I was proper cross.

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Hurr1cane · 01/10/2014 19:28

What is it with back seat drivers though? My DP is the same. I love him to bits, but 'you could have gone then' 'it's a 40 you know' and the worst by far 'my parking is so much neater than yours, you should make sure the wheels are totally straight when you park up and blah blah blah'

I got him insured on my new car and made him renew his licence. I am NEVER driving him again.

And then when he did start driving again after 10 years of not needing to... He actually did drive better then me. The arsing penis head.

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TattyDevine · 01/10/2014 19:29

Elfy I hope he enjoyed the nice walk home!

I was doing the school run the other day and had DH in the car as I was going to drop him at the station straight after. He got up late on purpose to see the kids off to school with me because he's away for the week.

We get in the car, the radio is on. He turns it off. I turn it back on again with such a adamant stab of the button that he didn't dare turn it off again.

Then we were sitting in some light traffic and the driver in front considerately let 2 or 3 drivers from the opposite direction pass an obstruction on their side. He said "oh I hate people who do that, you want to put a horn up her arse".

I suggested that if he didn't stop trying to micromanage my school run it would not be the driver up front having something shoved up her arse, it would be him, and it was unlikely to be anything as gentle as a horn.

He was quiet as a mouse for the rest of the journey...

Andrewofgg · 01/10/2014 19:30

He was parked over your drive. Unless he was fire, police, or ambulance he was wrong, wrong, wrong, and short of gross personal violence or letting his tyres down any reaction from you is justified - even if there is no emergency.

elfycat · 01/10/2014 19:31

Back seat drivers should have electrodes fitted somewhere painful. A little switch on the wheel will activate a small electrical current. So the driver doesn't have to take their hands off the wheel/ H&S and all that.

I've thought about this a lot previously Grin

R4roger · 01/10/2014 19:38

anotehr story, quite funny. Someone told me I could park in this particular drive at the school pick up and drop off. I did this for some time, until the day someone else told me I couldnt!. I did explain that permission had been given, to no avail.
My car then failed to start! I swear it was not intentional, I had to wait quite a long time before I could get help to move car Blush

BikeRunSki · 01/10/2014 19:43

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. The van driver was wrong, and he knew it, because he didn't make eye contact.

Mrscaindingle · 01/10/2014 19:48

I've just had mine 5 minutes ago, DS1 (13) has form for being reluctant shall we say to help around the house, DS2 is only marginally better.
After a shitty day at work i asked Ds1 to do some dishes, they were mostly his anyway and he has avoided and pulled faces until I just totally flipped. I have been a single mum for a year now and am still finding it difficult to have to do every bloody thing.
Anyway raged at the pair of them, snatched away their ipads, switched off the TV and have stormed off to bed at 7:30 at night like a toddler having a tantrum. Blush and don't know what to do with myself.
Can hear someone doing the dishes now, it had better be DS1.

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Hurr1cane · 01/10/2014 20:00

I've always been a single mum, DSs dad is around and very consistent, but 6/7 days it's just me and DS. I have a DP, partner in everything other than the house, as he has to live elsewhere for work and some weeks we don't even see him at all, but he drops everything, including work, if I ever desperately need him for DS. I'm quite lucky really, he is a low maintenance, lovely human.

But

I find it so much easier without him here! Blush

He just messes with my routine and gets in the way of the Hoover, asks for brews when I've just cleaned the kitchen and talks though eastenders Wink

It does get easier when you get into a routine.

DS, although having severe LDs, health problems and complex needs, helps with everything I do in the house, like it's a fun game! I'm getting him trained up early.

I do think you should take the back seat driver shock system onto dragons den. It's very annoying when people do that.

I never do. Oh no, not at all, never ever......

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CornChips · 01/10/2014 20:24

We live on a private road that is really congested for parking, and has a school near us which is hellish at school run times.... but becuase it is 'private' there are no traffic wardens. I had a middle of the night A&E run with DS and got back to find that someone had parked against my hedge... in my spot. The Red mist descended and I totally lost it. I screamed, i leaned on my horn ( 7-ish am) and just went totally bananas. The person whose car it was owns a spare plot of land a few doors down and gardens there and he came out and we had a huge screaming match in the road with me threatening all sorts.

2 years on, we are quite friendly and when he goes to visit his DGCs I feed his hens. Grin

vezzie · 01/10/2014 20:38

elfycat. I am in awe of that magnificent righteous rage. Flowers

anothergenericname · 01/10/2014 20:44

in the (very very) early stages of pregnancy, like before I had tested and was aware, I had a few rageful days, the pinnacle of them being when I completely lost it at some office worker who pushed in front of me and toddler DS in the local Waitrose queue. I accused him of thinking he was better than me, that his time was more important than mine, that maybe we should all bow down and worship him because obviously he was so fucking special he couldn't queue like a normal person.

To be fair he had been very inconsiderate and rude, but I would probably have restrained myself to some gentle tutting and maybe rolling my eyes at someone else in the queue, rather than a stand up row in front of my two year old with some smug and cocky little twerp who had obviously not been challenged before in his life by a mere female

NeedsAsockamnesty · 01/10/2014 20:46

I've had 2 huge RMN in my life.

Came home from work early one day and found my BF in my bed with a strange lady so I made them both a cup of tea then calmly chucked his TV out of the window.

The other related to my brothers inconsiderate parking he kept on parking in my parking space (was actually mine) I warned him twice he did not heed my warning so I parked on top of his car in my monster truck two days later when my mother managed to get me to move my car he still hadn't apologised so I torched his crumpled wreck of a car.

In my defence these incident occurred a long time ago and I did replace both items

Liara · 01/10/2014 20:47

We live in a place where people come to harvest wild plants, often to dry and sell them.

When ds1 was a baby, he was very poorly. Once we left in a rush (again) to take him to the doctors, leaving the gate open. When we came back, two guys were in our field harvesting plants.

Dh made some pa remark about them being there and told them not very nicely to leave. One of the guys made a nasty comment in his mother tongue - which as it happens dh and I speak fluently.

Dh went totally ballistic, started threatening them and telling them to leave. I walked out of the car and into the house, and dh followed.

When he got in, I pointed out (nicely!) that he had been a tad unreasonable and that there was no harm in them picking stuff from our field - we had way more than we needed just in the garden.

(To his credit, dh said 'you're right, I was a total twat', went out and apologised to the guys and told them to carry on).

It's just the rage of having your child being unwell being directed to whatever the nearest available lightning rod may be, imo.

littledrummergirl · 01/10/2014 20:47

Not sure if I should talk about my rmm. It was many years ago and left me feeling as though I was the worst human being ever- totally out of character.

I was running late for work and so took what was normally a short cut. Halfway down the road I had to stop because of the vehicle parked in the middle of the road.
As I was sat getting somewhat stressed a man came over and told me they would be ready to move soon.
I asked why they hadnt parked properly as some of us had to be somewhere.
He replied that they wouldnt have got the back of the hearse open and I should show some consideration for the dead.

My response was to yell that they needed to show more respect for the living Blush as I reversed down the road.

Dont feel bad, you are nowhere near the horrific person I proved to be that day.

Andrewofgg · 01/10/2014 20:50

Waste of a television.

Should have thrown them out.

They were created by unskilled and unpaid operatives. Not so the television.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 01/10/2014 20:52

They did leave pretty sharpish.

TattyDevine · 01/10/2014 20:54

You torched your brothers car? You win Needsasock Grin

NeedsAsockamnesty · 01/10/2014 21:00

I did. Weirdly nobody was surprised when I did that it was driving on it that nobody expected and they still haven't forgotten.

Now nobody but nobody ever parks anywhere on my land without following my instructions

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 01/10/2014 21:08

I actually had a couple of moments this evening. Shouted at dinner because Dh was playing on his phone rather than come and eat with us, dd1 was eating with her fingers and dd2 dropped food on the floor. Didn't realise the back door was open. Really hope their headmistress, who lives at the bottom of our lane, didn't hear me. Blush

Then I went upstairs and shouted again when I discovered that dh hadn't put the dc's to bed but was playing on his phone again. Hmm

LuisSuarezTeeth · 01/10/2014 21:22

You're fab OP Smile

I did the shopping (knackered as usual) and opened the boot of the car to put it in. It's a hatchback and kind of came back down on my arm.

I swore (a lot) and a lady asked if I was ok. I said yes, of course, I just bumped my arm.

Got in car and thumped everything in sight, cried, screamed and yelled.

Like I said, you're fab Wink

grannytomine · 01/10/2014 21:24

Way back, nearly 30 years ago, I was desperate for another baby and yet again got my period and felt sad, upset, fed up you name it. Was on a platform with DH waiting for train home, he had bought us two coffees which were too hot to drink. A man rushed past, just touched me arm and splashed a tiny bit of coffee on my hand. Well that was enough for the volcano to erupt, I shouted at him, something like "thanks for scalding me" and burst into tears. DH hugged me as the poor man turned back and apologised, looking upset. I was sobbing, he must have thought I needed skin grafts. DH kept reassuring him it was OK. I blush thinking about it now, I hope he forgot it long ago. You weren't that bad.

grannytomine · 01/10/2014 21:29

Oh just thought of another one. I had not long passed driving test and son had an accident. He had broken his arm but I didn't know that at the time, just knew he was a 3 year old screaming in pain. Our drive was narrow, road was narrow and someone was parked opposite my drive so hard to get out. A man stopped, got fed up and shouted at me to hurry up. I got out of the car, which was in the middle of the road and walked towards him offering him the keys and telling him if he could do better then get on with it. He looked terrified and wound his window up. I couldn't think who he was but was sure I knew him from somewhere. I saw him in a BBC play a couple of nights later. Being a celebrity doesn't protect you from me in a meltdown.

NancyCracker · 01/10/2014 21:55

You weren't bad at all OP. I did wonder if you were going to finish the story by saying that the man in the van was your plumber or something and you had to invite him in. Now, that would have been funny.

In fact, your OP made me think of a thread from ages ago, about someone getting the red mist and stabbing her finger into a man's chest, only for him to be a minister or something. I can't remember actually but it was very funny. I hope it's in classics. I will search now.

CarbeDiem · 01/10/2014 21:56

daisychain01 - Thanks Blush