To think this ISNT gross and stinky

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I struggle in the morning. At night I run a bath, soak for a while then have a full body wash and shampoo and condition hair, blow dry it then sleep.

Morning I brush teeth, use a facial wipe for face and straighten hair.

have been told in general conversation eww that's gross, yuck I have to have a shower and do I not feel dirty.

Why would I feel dirty, my beds clean!

AIBU?

Ludicrous and only on MN would you have people genuinely saying that a daily bath means a dirty person.

If you shower or bath regularly, be it at night or in the morning, I think the regularly means more than the time or the method.

There are other factors to whether or not your sweat smells or not, including alcohol consumption, diet, your own personal set of enzymes, etc.

If you wash daily and don't suffer from excessive sweating, a diet heavy in something smelly, manual labour and you wear clean clothing, you are not seriously, in this country, going to smell that bad, seriously.

In my opinion.

I shower every day, mainly in the morning. 5 mins on average. I wash my hair once a week (and only condition it, no shampoo for me).
I am a sweaty underarm person and that quickly leads to a pong if I forego the daily shower, so for me they are a must. Baths are no nos. Too boring and too much water and gas used to make one. DP always showers too, although he can go days without washing and he never ever stinks!!

The competitive cleanliness on MN always gets my goat.

Not that there's too much of it on this particular thread but there are always women making themselves out to be superior through additional/excessive cleaning routines. Egging other women on to spend more time cleaning - themselves, their towels, their bed linen....

Do you think men spend their spare time doing this?

all depends on how minging and sweaty you get imo.

i have to get in the shower every morning for pits and bits.

don't feel fresh if i don't feel fresh downstairs.

depends on how controlled your bladder is. mine is unpredictable, so i NEED to be in that shower first thing.

My MIL showers every evening when she returns from work to wash the smell of the restaurant away. Then she'll go the next day without a body wash until evening again.

Depends who you are surely. I once had a flatmate who smelt sweaty as he came OUT of the shower! I would have said he would need another shower after a night's sleep. But not most people.

I have a bath every morning, but not because I need to be clean in the morning as opposed to evening, but because it helps me wake up. Before DC, when I could lie in longer, I used to have the bath at night. No one found it minging (or they didn't say so!).

Washing my hair at night was better as it always looked better after being slept on, not too freshly washed.

Is a small amount of light perspiration really "minging" though?

Seriously?

I'm a daily (morning, as it turns out) showerer, so I don't have an "agenda" in saying this, but seriously? "minging"?

With deodorant, I could easily be fine not showering for several days. I really don't sweat a lot.

Bits, well to be honest they probably are never going to be hugely fragrant if you get up close! But no one does at work!

You do definitely sweat approx 2 pints a night

Do you have a source for this? Apart from a sales pitch form a mattress retailer?

Yanbu. To save money and the environment I bathe in dds bathwater after her we use bubble bath and she's only a toddler, so it's never occurred to me that either of us are unclean after this daily ritual.

And I've been told I have a strong 'natural' body smell. Some folks's natural smell are more noticeable than others are. Which is fine. But, I was told this with spiteful scorn in my early teens and that kinda set the tone for me and I've been slightly wary of the fact ever since.

You're not unclean, Decisions

YANBU.

I feel a lot cleaner after a bath than a shower, anyhow.

I have a friend who is find of garlicky foods, can often smell this on her. I don't mind it

Dd is 2 and smells like biscuits!

Everyone is different.
I sweat like a good un during the night and couldn't put clothes on my stinking morning body without a shower. I have long hair and wash it every morning too.
It's not because I think everyone should and I wish I could get away without morning showers and hair washes, but I do get offended by the suggestion that I'm some kind of clean freak uber washer when in fact I just stink embarrassingly in the morning and have sweaty hair, even if I've showered the night before.
I'm jealous OP.

never said a bit of sweat is minging, only if it's minging is it minging.

I cannot leave the house without a shower and tbh I feel I can see if someone didn't have one. If I have to I would choose missing the evening shower rather than the morning one.

It's rare that I can even contemplate anything more than a quick tooth brush and face wash (and pit wash if desperate) before I've got the kids out of the house in the morning, anyhow. This morning, I went into my room to get dressed and approx 4 minutes later came out to find that DS2 had pretty much rearranged the lounge. He can push all the bits of the sofa round the room with little effort. I, OTOH, have no idea how he manages it.

I don't believe that under normal circumstances (room not too hot, no night sweats), one sweats 2 litres. According to the 30 milliseconds of research I've just done, we lose about 200ml of water overnight, much of that is exhaled, so not absorbed by the bedding/mattress.

I'm always called a filthy minger on these types of threads, so I ain't revealing my washing habits. (I do have a couple of people in my life who would tell me if I smelt.) Suffice to say Op you're pretty clean by my standards.

Okay so I guess its one of those each to their own things.

So if you don't feel you are minging, you probably aren't.

If you feel you are, you may be, or you may feel better knowing you are definitely not, by showering/bathing.

If someone says you are minging because you don't do what they do, it means they are minging, but not necessarily you! (if you get what I mean - lighthearted though)

ladyluck unless you have freakishly sensitive nostrils, there is no way you can tell if somebody's showered that day or not! If they smell/look dirty, it could be because they haven't showered for days, not hours.

I also don't feel clean after a bath. I don't care what other people do.

I have a somewhat dirty job, am forced to wear polyester and walk 5+ miles a day in said polyester. In my circumstances the idea of getting home and NOT washing before bed is gross (unless I get in after a 2am finish, by which point I'm good for nothing). Can't imagine waiting until morning, would have to wash the bedding all the time and wouldn't want dp going anywhere near me. That's just what fits with my circumstances. If people are washing more than once a day I guess they will think it's horrible whatever but if you wash once per 24 hour period does it really matter at what point it is?