AIBU to be peed off that he is late??

[tallulah2014]

Hi, not sure if I am justified in this or not.

Been seeing a guy for about a week and a half.

He has been late most times he's been due to come over... only between 10 and 30 mins late, but still.

Take tonight for example; this afternoon he suggested 7pm as his arrival time. I agreed, got all the housework etc sorted for 6.45 and at 7.20pm I get a text saying "be at yours at 8".

I replied okay, again, and he still isn't here. Shot him a text just now asking if he is lost but no reply yet.

Am I being unreasonable, given we are only 'seeing each other'?

oh and I totally agree he is taking the piss big time, get rid and you will be better off!

Agree, Lottie, I'm also often late - but usually only around 10-15 mins. Still bad,I know, but not desperate. TWO HOURS though???? That is outside the boundaries of impolite. And with no proper excuse or decent apology? That is just completely taking the proverbial 'p'

Am I being naiive in asking what activities you have planned for this evening?
You start your work at 9am, presumably dropping your kids off beforehand, so guess you have to be up at 7am?

On a weekday night- as now I am already thinking about bed. Are you cooking a meal for him? What type of evening does he envisage with the curtailed timetable?

combust - a cosy game of scrabble, maybe?

"What type of evening does he envisage with the curtailed timetable?"

A single glass of wine and a quick shag, most probably!

Look no - it's not on. And this idea that you're not allowed to complain because you're "just seeing each other", as if you aren't worth the common courtesy of manners....nope.
I'd be seriously unimpressed, and if i was told to "chill" he'd be chilling himself...on the other side of my front door.

The kind of guy that messes around like this regarding time keeping is one that just wants in your panties- nothing more. Arse.

Ten quid says op is busy getting laid right now.

And he will probably leave again before the pubs shut.

I went out with someone like this... After e first couple of dates, he was always late, always, and thought I was being unreasonable when I got pissed off about it. He was an arse who never really showed any respect for me, and I'm well shut of him. Tell this joker to go fuck himself.

I agree Nancy but couldn't be arsed. I suspect the OP is all bravado with the "arse" and "dick" comments but he obviously has a gold cock so will put up with this shit.

We all are worrying about this more than Tallulah, now, sadly

Tallulah: when you finally raise yourself from your sheets - PLEASE dump the arsehole. He is using you - DO NOT LET HIM do it again. Please - you are worth more than a quick shag, surely?

Oh, he did say sorry when he came in through the door.

You let him IN the door? More fool you.

Sorry. This guy is a dick. He is the dj who wants to 'try a relationship' with you but won't take you out? Sorry but you need to find your self respect.

Really sorry but I can't link tallulahs thread. . Its dooommed.

Puntastic

Ah for fuck sake OP

Arse

Maybe she'll be back on the thread...maybe not...

I can't believe you'd have a man you've not even known two weeks in your house with your children!! Sorry but this type of thing drives me mad, why do some women just lose their senses over some pig ignorant lout??

This is going to be my new mantra. If it's not 'Fuck Yes' then it's 'Hell No'. Can't be doing with arsing around.

MrsTP, thank you for linking to that. It's perfect.

I'd ask him to leave and forget about him.

If he's not besotted with you at the beginning when you should be all he thinks about then there's no future.

It is Gilbert isn't it. Sorts out consent and 'just not that into you' in one fell swoop.

I can't tolerate habitual lateness. Barring emergencies, there is no valid reason not to be somewhere when you say you will be there. It's disrespectful. It would be a dealbreaker for me.