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to be a bit :/.about this response

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worstdayever · 28/09/2014 13:16

It's my first anniversary yesterday and i was happy about it txt my mate, who I always listen to re: her relationships etc, "ive been married a year god its flown!" And I got "lucky you! Don't think I'll ever get married. " Confused Sad I haven't responded im a bit down about it tbh, i would be happy for someone maybe its just, feel a bit let down.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/09/2014 22:47

She said "Lucky you" what more do you want her to do? a merry dance?. Perhaps she thinks you were rubbing her nose in it.

formerbabe · 28/09/2014 22:53

Sorry but I wouldn't be very interested in a friends wedding anniversary. It's only really important for the woman couple in question.

thereturnofshoesy · 28/09/2014 22:54

LTB

MyFairyKing · 28/09/2014 23:00

Bit late to the party....

I think your text sounded like you were fishing for a compliment and maybe she felt it was a sly dig. That said, she did make it all about her. On the other hand (I'm contrary like that) yours was all about you, so on balance, neither YABU.

ispentitwithyou · 28/09/2014 23:10

I agree with the poster sho said she was after a bit of reassurance. Sometimes people with relationship woes become quite self involved and see people like yourself who are 'sorted' and dont appreciate you may sometimes still need support or attention despite that fact.

MidniteScribbler · 29/09/2014 00:29

If she had sent you a congratulations text first, then your message would have been fine. But sending a message to her was like a) fishing for compliments on how amazing your married life is, b) a not so subtle reminder to tell you how wonderful your wedding was, c) where is my card and present, and d) haha sucked in I have a relationship and you don't.

I wouldn't have responded at all to your text because I would be Hmm, but would have thought 'so fucking what?. Go fuck your husband and leave me out of it'.

wobblyweebles · 29/09/2014 02:22

I'm hoping you texted her back to check she's OK? She sounds like she's upset about something.

minkah · 29/09/2014 02:34

FrootLoopy and thurlow! Hi!

you are not alone

patienceisvirtuous · 29/09/2014 08:35

So you've been a shoulder for her to cry on? What was she upset about then? Relationship (or lack of) woes?

Can you not now see that she wasn't the best recipient for your self-congratulatory text? :/

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