To think this is hideously misogynist

[Charitybelle]

A guy I know has posted a status on Facebook (I know I know) saying that he 'wished more women were like his baby daughter, beautiful, unable to speak or criticise him, and able to get her feet in her mouth'.

AIBU to think this is a disgusting thing to think, never mind actually say on a social media site? Not sure if I'm overreacting, but I feel really sorry for his dd if this is the attitude her dad has to women. I realise it's meant to be tongue in cheek, but judging from previous 'ball and chain' esque comments he's made at social events about his wife, I suspect it does betray a very real and present misogyny.

I think my DH (who is in no way a sexist, but very relaxed about everything) would tell me to chill out and ignore it, but more and more I'm seeing this sort of thing as the tip of the sexist iceberg. Am I going crazy, or is this man a knuckle dragging Neanderthal?

Had a boyfriend a bit like it. Horrible to his mum too. Lovely chap.

He knows exactly how it sounds and he thought that ok. What an idiot.

That's horrible.

I wouldn't say anything on FB. I like your metaphor, disapproval hanging in the air like a silent fart.

That's enough. BUt definitely make pass remarks to him if he acts the dick in social situations

Thanks for all the suggestions everyone.
Sorry gin I think the ian Watkins association is a bit strong, but I appreciate how repulsive his comments are, especially now seeing everyone elses reactions, as well as my own.
Great comment alis wish I had thought of that, but I've already deleted him on FB.
For those of you advocating that i challenge him directly, i know where you're coming from, and there would have been a time when I would have strapped on my lady balls and gone into battle. However, having had a couple of bad experiences with family members making racist/misogynist jokes on FB, which started with me challenging them online and ended with extended family fallouts, I'm trying to adopt a more 'take the high road' approach.
Life is full of wankers like this unfortunately, so as a pp said, I should really just thank him for alerting me to the type of person he is so I can avoid him in future.

Deleting him swiftly was a good course of action to be fair op. I delete people for far less, often.

Especially people who share Britain First (is that what the group is called?) pages. No matter how much I like the person, they have to go.

YANBU - what a complete and utter tool, he probably thinks this is really witty and clever and can't even see that it makes him look like a sick pervert. The mind boggles at what type of father would look at his baby daughter and come up with such horrible shit

Yanbu, that's pretty gross.

facebook appears to encourage people to say some very unexpected things, without it I'd image the OP would not think the bloke in question to be harboring such crass and disturbing sentiments.

Does FB reveal a persons true colours or does it encourage people to become sort of dumbed down cliched versions of themselves?

Maybe he didn't mean it like that - the feet bit. Maybe he meant it at a nonsensical non-sequitar, like blowing bubbles or whatever

nah, he looks at his baby daughter with her foot in her mouth and superimposes an image of a naked pre pubescant girl in the same position.

I meant to write post, not pre

How disgusting

he looks at his baby daughter and it occurs to him that she has all the attributes of his perfect sexual partner.
Beautiful, dumb, completely deferential and very supple.
When a bloke brags that his girlfriend does yoga and nudge nudge wink wink, she can get her foot behind her head, he is alluding to how sexually adventurous she is.
The foot in the mouth reference is along the same lines surely?

wow. that's horrible.

It's awful. Aside from the rampant misogny there is something really disturbring about the sexulisation of his baby daughter

I would be defriending him on FB and in real life to be honest. Bleurgh :(

Ugh, how disgusting.

Hello again, placid.

Why do some women choose to marry and procreate with men like this?? Bet he thinks he is such a "lad"

Disgusting idiot.

Ghastly. I pity the women in his life.

Very good points Suzanne

Yeuk. That is all just yeuk.

Words just fail me. What a creepy pervert. #ianwatkins might shame him. But maybe not.

Vile but not surprised. A lot of men feel like this.

So you think it's "hideously misogynist" that this guy is making sexual comments about his infant daughter, but your husband would tell you to chill out, you're not going to say anything and you're just "try to avoid him" in future because you "can't be bothered" to start anything.

Sorry, OP, if this comes off as really harsh, but I think that's a really weak response. Great that you're getting it off your chest here; not so great that you're doing that so you can avoid condemning a bloke who's just made sickening, pseudo-paedophilic comments about his own child on a public forum. The fact that you're trying to avoid a fall-out with this guy, despite not even being close, indicates where your priorities lie, and it's not with that little girl.

Calling out sexual comments about a baby isn't a "bun-fight"; it's human bloody decency.

Even if no sexual innuendo was intended, he's going to raise his daughter to shut up and serve men? I can only hope that ober time he falls so in love with the special little girl he's been given that he realises that girls need encouragement from their dads ( who after all are the first men they love) to be unafraid to speak their minds. Its a tough and still very sexist world out there - so modelling equality and respect at home is really important. Maybe send him a copy of Emma Watson's speech with a note saying 'your FB post made me think you should read this'.

OP, that comment is revolting by than "man".

I un-friended someone in the week on fbook because of comments about how "women must not expect anything different (ie being attacked) because they walk down a certain road/area at night"!!

The people making the comments were women